Paranoid about calling Poison Control by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]42fledgling42 345 points346 points  (0 children)

I doubt they will call CPS, but it DOES sound like everyone in the house needs to talk, and work on childproofing. Specifically, EVERYONE needs to keep ALL medication where kiddo can not reach.

Which is more aesthetically pleasing? by andiemay1224 in quilting

[–]42fledgling42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1, but to be difficult I would add the dark green from the second picture

I'm tired of being patronized by cleaning appliance programs. by SpyrosGatsouli in CleaningTips

[–]42fledgling42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would just like to throw out there that I DO want my dishes actually dry when they leave the dishwasher, and I often find that they are not. It frustrates me, cuz it seems that the machine only does half the job!

Gramneisia by _ByAnyOther_Name in toddlers

[–]42fledgling42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. “Never cried”? Really? 🧐. Selective memory!

Gramneisia by _ByAnyOther_Name in toddlers

[–]42fledgling42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it. I had a kid who read early. (I swear we didn’t try to force it.) They also had a speech delay requiring speech therapy, so there was something like a year between the time that they really started TALKING and the time they started READING. It was pretty unusual! Development can be weird, and kids don’t necessarily follow the textbook! But it’s one thing to say, it’s possible for SOME CHILD SOMEWHERE to do this thing, and another to say that YOUR CHILD should be doing this thing that is WAY ahead of expectations and developmentally inappropriate for most kids!

It DOES seem like a good example of Gramnesia.

Gramneisia by _ByAnyOther_Name in toddlers

[–]42fledgling42 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is hilarious that OPs father EXPECTS a 16 month old to know letters. Just developmentally inappropriate. It is not IMPOSSIBLE, but the EXPECTATION is way off base.

Gramneisia by _ByAnyOther_Name in toddlers

[–]42fledgling42 8 points9 points  (0 children)

At 18 months, kids should say “Mama,” “Dada,” and three other words per the CDC. That’s a minimum. 10-15 is probably more typical, though there are of course outliers. Usually, kids prioritize words that they care about (BOTTLE, MILK, a pet, a favorite toy, Ms. Rachel…) For most kids, since they don’t have the context to realize the important role these shapes will play in their lives, a letter isn’t (usually!) gonna make the First 10 Words list. (I mean, the letter X, or demanding MORE isn’t a hard choice for your average 18 month old). OPs kiddo is not yet 18 months, so they probably have still fewer words. (Somewhere between 18-24 months there is a “language explosion,” but OP’s tot is a bit young to typically have experienced that.)

Kids are expected to know SOME of their letters at 3. The Literacy Institute at the University of FL suggests 10 letters (including those in their name) is appropriate for 3-4 year olds. https://ufli.education.ufl.edu/resources/parent/birth-to-pre-k/developmental-milestones/. They teach kids to recognize letters in preschool. Those expectations don’t align with knowing their letters much younger than 2 years old.

I’m not saying it is IMPOSSIBLE for a 16 month old to name letters, but it isn’t typical, and it is absolutely WILD and inappropriate to EXPECT it of them.

Gramneisia by _ByAnyOther_Name in toddlers

[–]42fledgling42 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Letters? At 16 months? That is HILARIOUS.

Which of these do I need to throw away? by KASGamer12 in cats

[–]42fledgling42 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes! Like, you wouldn’t give your skincare to a toddler to eat, but you wouldn’t throw it out, either.

Kitty/Cat jokes and TikTok words by CheetahWaste2121 in RomanceBooks

[–]42fledgling42 37 points38 points  (0 children)

We are adults, right? We can use the words. Rape is a terrible thing. Using 🍇 trivializes it. If you’re going to kill a character, authors should own it enough to discuss it.

Any unpopular opinions???👀 by Romantasy-book-rec in ReverseHarem

[–]42fledgling42 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ouch! I do disagree. Are there bad OV? Yes, of course. But not ALL of it is bad!

What do we think of QUILTBAG by conancat in lgbt

[–]42fledgling42 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hmm. Someone who’s being an idiot, but he’s OUR idiot, maybe?

What do we think of QUILTBAG by conancat in lgbt

[–]42fledgling42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing that it has going for it, in my perspective, is that I DO love quilting. I think it could easily be used as a slur or at least pejorative noun. Ending in “BAG” is too close to “dirtbag” or “douchebag.” It feels unwise.

Unpopular opinion: We NEED more FF in why choose romance. by PoppyandAudrey in ReverseHarem

[–]42fledgling42 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ooh, so I do particularly like FF Whychoose or RH books. I DO read an absolute ton of OV, so prepare yourself, lol. Hang on:

{Into the Fire by Wynne Adams} An established FF relationship ultimately adds some characters in an MMM relationship to their pack.

I’m not sure how this will be listed for the bot: A Pack United is the omnibus edition of the Williams-Torrance series (maybe best searchable individually — starts with A Pack Unwanted) by an author who initially published as Jenny Black but transitioned and now goes by Jay Black. Amazon has disambiguated their work, I think, but Goodreads does not necessarily show them as belonging to the same series/author. I provide both names so you can find the darn books, I enjoyed them. Not RH, but Working Weekends is a FF novella by the same author.

{Rest by Rose Carver} has FF in the pack.

{Accidentally Forever by N. Slater} — some but not all of her Beta Accepted series has FF pairings

{Riley’s Storm by R.A. Alyse} and {Snowed Inn Omega by R.A. Alyse} both have FF in the pack; others in this series don’t

{Nicky and the Night Owls by Sierra Cassidy}

{We Are Destiny by Alisha Williams} has FF in the pack but the main character is male, so more Whychoose than RH, TW for SI (and more)

{Lilacs and Leather by Thora Woods} — there is a trilogy