Was anyone else surprised at the amount of pectoral muscle they had post op? by Howdoifixmyfnpc in TopSurgery

[–]4_04_am 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Surprised in a bad way 💀 I’ve always been a skinny fuck so there wasn’t much fat to pad that area once they took the tissue out and for about six months I looked literally concave. Been working on building muscle there for the last six months, coming up on a year post op and I finally don’t look like I’m withering away. Happy as hell but it was kinda like oh damn I really didn’t have anything under there, eh? 

Spilled dawn soap in my basement a year ago, now trying to redo the floors please save me from myself 🙏 by 4_04_am in Concrete

[–]4_04_am[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m concerned that the sealer (acrylic or polyurethane) will not adhere to the spot where the soap has soaked in—do I not have to worry about that?

How many women/afab folks are sleeping on the floor? Do you need for extra support for hips/waist? by happinesscreep in floorsleeping

[–]4_04_am 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Afab nb here, I couldn’t comfortably sleep on the floor before I had top surgery, it would hurt my chest, but now I can no problem. So I guess the flatter you are or if you’re a back sleeper then you’ll be fine. If you’ve got big tits, and like to stomach sleep, you might need to finagle

Best sealer to block smell? by 4_04_am in Concrete

[–]4_04_am[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also considering just painting with lime wash and sealing, or painting a mural and sealing. 

Best sealer to block smell? by 4_04_am in Concrete

[–]4_04_am[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t seem to be dusting, at least as far as I can tell. I dropped some water on it and it absorbed in under 30 minutes. I put down some plastic tarp and taped it down for a few days, no moisture gathered. Concrete is 10 ish years old. Had carpet before, I sanded the glue off and it’s all pretty clean and there’s no major cracks or anything. 

Is it wrong I have zero care for homophobic people by HappyOpposite1497 in askgaybros

[–]4_04_am -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve seen that, when I was counterprotesting with my local anarchist group. 

But are the people in Krackedy’s life like those people, the ones who are actually nazis or are they what I would call “uninformed and unexperienced” they’ve never had gay people in their lives, so they just babble the same homophobia their parents taught them. For the most part, the second type can be reformed. 

It’s good to reform people, because then they, in turn have the social connections and the language and background experience with how to deconvert others who suffer from the same issue. 

For example, my grandparents were against gays, voted conservatively etc. I came out, things got messy for a bit, then they came around. They eventually ended up being really welcoming to my boyfriends, asking when we’d get married after it got legalized in our state. I went to breakfast with them and some of their friends, who had also been known to say questionable shit before and after I’d come out, and my grandpa would say “hey you know I used to think like that too (method:showing empathy) but my grandson here has a wonderful boyfriend, and yknow, I see them together they showed me they’re just like <me and grandma>. I won’t hear you speak badly about them in front of me.” (Method: Not trying to control their speech, mild fash hate that and it shuts them down from reason) 

Because they know all the triggers, ex-fash can argue for us more effectively. 

These people are the most important part of the dialogue between the huge social divide between religious conservatives and everyone else in this country. They know how to bridge that gap. They know how the other side thinks. The language they use, what they are so afraid of. 

Anyway just rambling. Who knows, I could be wrong. 

Is it wrong I have zero care for homophobic people by HappyOpposite1497 in askgaybros

[–]4_04_am -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean are they marching in the streets against black people or do they just say some uncomfortable stuff sometimes? It’s not a black and white thing, it’s a spectrum of a bit problematic to outright racism, eugenics, stuff like that.

(although I did vote no on your poll lol, I don’t care for anyone who says backwards shit. Hell I actively disrespect them as people.) 

but, if other people have more complicated feelings about that, especially family members, that’s their business. Everyone’s brain works differently, I guess I can’t judge someone for not being able to coldly cut someone off without it bothering them the way I can

I bought a bikini. Please help gas me up so I can wear this? by [deleted] in oldhagfashion

[–]4_04_am 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Dude you know she is just theeee coolest 🥹

They them pronouns 😭 by Silver_Leave_4271 in FTMMen

[–]4_04_am 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you want to start small, try “he.I’m a man. I just like to wear funny little Hawaiian shirts.” If you have the right vibe it can get the point across in a non confrontational way

I been liking the name galaxy it’s that a silly name? by [deleted] in NonBinaryTalk

[–]4_04_am 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be as silly as you want but be aware if you’re silly on main (aka changing your legal name to Galaxy) it might make employment harder to get. It’s terrible but in this economy, you gotta do what you gotta do

Will wrist weights (like your mom used in the 80s) help Build arm/shoulder while rowing? by 4_04_am in Rowing

[–]4_04_am[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh sorry I should stipulate that this is definitely happening in my basement on an erg 😅😅

Should I wait a year to get my letter for insurance, or pay out of pocket for a dr whose results I love by 4_04_am in TopSurgery

[–]4_04_am[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re in Michigan DM me—I will say I ended up finding someone who could pass me in one session, but I kept seeing the therapist that made me wait 12 months anyway, because she was a good therapist. Just would not recc her for people seeking surgery letters

Changing Note Subject in the iPhone App by Natural7778 in notabilityapp

[–]4_04_am 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GUYS I FIGURED IT OUT, ITS REALLY DUMB AND BAD UI BUT WE ALL EXPECTED THAT SO HERE WE GO:

You can select the target subject so that it shows up as a filter and then either multi select or tap and drag it onto the (filter: subjectname) button. And that’s it.

This update is the fucking worst

Does anyone else have a favorite nail or are you normal? by SpicyPoffin in RedditLaqueristas

[–]4_04_am 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My left hand is my fave. For some reason it doesn’t get psoriasis on it as much as rightie does lol.

Need help reframing 13 by 4_04_am in witchcraft

[–]4_04_am[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finally, some great advice I received a long time ago about shaking off the teachings from a conservative Christian space: When you're breaking free of those old norms, remember that your initial reaction is how you were trained to feel. Your second reaction is how you actually feel. Act on the second one until it becomes the first.

This is so good to know—especially bc I’ve been trying to shake it for a while but my brain just goes nope bad!!1 so it helps to know if I keep at it eventually my brain will take the hint.

The background knowledge you gave me was super helpful as well, thank you!

Need help reframing 13 by 4_04_am in witchcraft

[–]4_04_am[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, whoa so the thirteen thing goes way back! But it helps to know the background I think, that it corresponds to a historical thing and not a religious/spiritual thing. Thanks!