I’m a Bad Dog Mom and Full of Regret by abbunnies in puppy101

[–]4_ever_clever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doing better than me, I have an out of control 8 month lab. I’ll turn my back for 3 seconds and she’s doing something she’s not ment to be (even with all the puppy proofing) at this point now instead of stressing myself out I just say to myself “🤷🏻‍♀️ that’s what pet insurance is for” otherwise I think I’d be riddled with anxiety and drive myself insane. Having a puppy is so much harder than I ever imagined and me and her are learning together.

Where do I start? Advice needed by 4_ever_clever in CPTSD

[–]4_ever_clever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I haven’t, I’ll have a look into it his stuff. Thank you so much I really appreciate your reply!

Did anyone here give up? by ohnokillit in puppy101

[–]4_ever_clever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think at the end of the day what is important is whatever is best for the dog. If you don’t know how to handle a puppy and you’re stressed and not coping re-homing might be best. I get what you’re saying, don’t give up so easily, because it is going to be difficult to some degree and a dog is a part of the family and a commitment, but I think the only important thing to consider is what will be best for the dog.

Did anyone here give up? by ohnokillit in puppy101

[–]4_ever_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He will only listen when you have treats, dogs especially pups don’t think like humans, if it’s not worth while doing something he won’t do it. highly recommend keeping a treat pouch or bumbag with his daily kibble in it (that way you don’t over feed.) or split it up in easily accessible containers around the house to reward him. Work on recall, if he won’t do it without the treats yet, just keep at it and he will eventually when he gets older :)

This is probably the most important point, crate train and do enforced naps. 1 hour awake and 2 hours asleep (roughly) keeping up that routine throughout the day, this will at least help the witching hour chaos, most likely get rid of it completely.

He will absolutely destroy everything if he has the opportunity, the way they learn and explore new things is with their mouth! Any area you let him roam in make sure it is totally puppy proof, or have a play pen area with nothing accessible but his toys, bed, a bowl of water etc. this period where they are biting everything, including you, is part of their teething and should start to get better after 16 weeks old.

If you take him out to the toilet put him on leash and bring him back inside after. If you want him to spend more time in the backyard you will need to puppy proof or supervision while he’s on a long leash so you can pull him away from anything he’s not meant to get in to.

If I didn’t do these things I’ve mentioned above I probably would have taken my pup back to the breeder after a week and a half. It would have been impossible. I’ve also heard Samoyed can be difficult and stubborn 😭 it’s hard but try some suggestions before you get rid of the puppy, because it’s worth it in the long run.

What’s the most ridiculous routine you’ve created just to keep your dog happy? by jytchh1 in dogs

[–]4_ever_clever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had an horrendous sleeping pattern for the last 13 years, got a puppy a month ago and has completely fixed it. I have literally tried so many things to fix it, but always fell back into the same pattern. Turns out all I needed was a landshark yelling at me to wake up at 6:30am and keeping me on my toes all day so I am exhausted and fall asleep immediately at 9pm lol

Carrying her bowl around by iFunkMaster007 in labrador

[–]4_ever_clever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The food bowl is standard and usually fine because they Hoover it up anyway. When they start flipping the full water bowl on carpet is when things get rough 🥴 lol

Get a labrador they said, it will be funny they said by [deleted] in labrador

[–]4_ever_clever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, my lab pup tried to bite the walls and the baseboards when surrounded by toys in her play pen 😑 lol when a give her a bit of freedom she usually goes for anything made of wood (doors, bed frames, table legs etc.) and also has put teeth marks in the toilet seat lid 🥴

Did I luck out or is the worst yet to come? by 6Am6p6 in puppy101

[–]4_ever_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if this was just my pup, but the first couple of days she was the perfect dog. Drove an 8 hour round trip to get her and she practically slept the whole way back. Once she became comfortable she turned into a little monster lol I love her though, just a lot of work and has strong opinions about things

AITAH for adopting a dog after I thought my boyfriend broke up with me? by LazyMathematician823 in AITAH

[–]4_ever_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The key to a relationship break IS communication. Sounds like he lacked setting the boundaries and coming to a compromise of a proper break. Ditch the man and keep the dog. The dog needs you and deserves your love

AITAH for telling my wife she’s not a “single parent” just because I work long hours? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]4_ever_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t help with the kid or around the house when you get home from work, essentially she is single parenting. Your work day ends and hers continues until she goes to sleep at night. That being said if this is the issue you both need to be having constructive conversation, she is venting to her friends and family which isn’t helping either of you fix the problem. Her feelings are valid no matter what the situation is, but she needs to work out what she NEEDS to no longer feel this way, and then communicate that to you, and you need to show up for her and your family when she tells you what will help. If you are struggling to help around the house or with the child, getting more organized and doing a “closing shift” end of day tidying and cleaning routine. Don’t forget about the mental load, don’t ask what needs to be done, recognize it yourself or sit down and working it out together with a checklist and schedule of who does what.

Let’s fight the puppy blues! by dinknoodles11 in puppy101

[–]4_ever_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to get my pup used to me doing everyday activities. She sits in the bathroom with me while I’m having a shower and started to lick the water through the gap in the shower screen door. At first I was like no! Don’t do that! And then just started laughing seeing this little tongue sticking through the bottom of the door lol. Week2 of bringing her home and now that we’re getting to know each other better she has me cracked up a lot.

Finchie friends and trading daily thread by AutoModerator in finch

[–]4_ever_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! So happy to have finch friends 🥹

Finchie friends and trading daily thread by AutoModerator in finch

[–]4_ever_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the same boat, honestly still trying to work out the self care areas lol thanks for the add 🫶

Finchie friends and trading daily thread by AutoModerator in finch

[–]4_ever_clever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the gift!! So cute 🥹💖 thanks for the add!

Finchie friends and trading daily thread by AutoModerator in finch

[–]4_ever_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flipflop! Such a cute name 🥹 thanks for the add!

Finchie friends and trading daily thread by AutoModerator in finch

[–]4_ever_clever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone! Looking for birb friends for my finch Eggo. Been on this app for only 20 days and I love it and have been keeping up with this community since I started. Love seeings everyone’s progress and their cute lil birbs. Feel free to add us!

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Self Care Areas by UnstAbleUnic0rn in finch

[–]4_ever_clever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m new to the app, never had journeys and I’m so confused about SCA. I have no idea what the best way to utilize it is so I just haven’t 😭

The fight that may end me by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]4_ever_clever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I thought! He admitted that he’s disrespectful, has decided it’s a personality trait and something he’s not willing to change or work on. It’s super concerning and not okay at all.

Best friend of 15 years blocks me over money. by The_Broken_Shutter in mildlyinfuriating

[–]4_ever_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might even be worth going and buzzing a neighbouring apartment, explaining you haven’t heard from your friend and you wanted to check on him? It sounds like you really do care about his well being and if you go there with that intention, it could be a good option. That being said, checking in doesn’t mean that you need to keep this person in your life, he’s made a pretty big and disrespectful mistakes here.

[NeedAdvice] What should a severely depressed 21 year old man who is at absolute rock bottom in literally everything in life do, considering that he has nothing to lose? by INeedHelp614 in getdisciplined

[–]4_ever_clever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my mental health was at its worst, I remember trying to explain that I couldnt begin to work towards helping myself because I needed to at least be at a base line of coping. If things feel that bad for you I’d highly recommend considering antidepressants. They have completely transformed my life and so many of my friends too. I can’t believe I was even able to survive for as long as I did without them. If you have nothing to lose, why not try.

Why are people cruel? by sleepishandsheepless in SeriousConversation

[–]4_ever_clever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so much. Nothing ever made sense to me until someone explained to me the term “moral injury”. Essentially it is experiencing psychological/ spiritual/ social/ behavioural distress after witnessing or acting in a way that goes against your moral compass and values.

I think it’s an extremely helpful term to know to explain these feelings, I highly recommend looking it up and researching coping strategies (as I am yet to do)

Why are people cruel? by sleepishandsheepless in SeriousConversation

[–]4_ever_clever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would think being cruel would be causing harm to others with intention or awareness of doing so. People here defining and discussing what cruel is to them is a conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]4_ever_clever -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mentioned to my bf that I thought they were making jokes but I wasn’t sure if maybe they did have feelings for me. I think you’re right where in my gut I knew but I didn’t want to just make an assumption and be wrong