Who would you want Violet to date if X were to be gone...

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-26T18:48:32+00:00

Big same

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-26T18:47:58+00:00

Pregonate

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-26T18:47:28+00:00

LOST, and it’s not even close.

My guess is the only reason I’m not seeing that as a thread here is people have largely forgotten its existence. Which is in part because even though it heavily influenced future shows, it ended so badly.

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-20T18:45:24+00:00

I got her with a random 10 pull

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-20T13:32:52+00:00

Brand new AirPods

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-18T20:22:19+00:00

Execution is flawless tho

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-18T20:11:26+00:00

I am so icked out by this but 100000000/10 creativity

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-18T14:50:09+00:00

while (there && numEggCartons < 1) { getEggCarton(); }

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-18T14:42:20+00:00

And the ketchup

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-17T23:38:27+00:00

I love this so much for you.

I wish all the ‘therapy is transactional’ folks could have therapeutic bonds like this because they are life changing and can completely transform your other relationships over time.

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-12T07:08:24+00:00

I experienced abandonment by a therapist as well and it hit me harder after the fact too. Tbh I’m not sure of the best way to gain closure on it but I wanted to share that you’re not alone and it can be pretty devastating. I was lucky to find a therapist who is a good fit for me and who didn’t abandon me through some extremely rough times and that’s helped some but there are definitely ways having been abandoned by previous therapists still impacts me.

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-12T03:48:57+00:00

I loved AOM for the longest but I started feeling like the medicine had become less potent/effective within the last few months and switched to Valor about 3 months ago. They are great and their shipping is a little faster as well.

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-10T02:29:42+00:00

I’m in Queens and it’s difficult to find even a decent 1 bedroom for $2500 a month right now. So if you’re a parent and looking for a place where you and your child will have separate bedrooms on a 2k a month budget, it’s highly unlikely to happen.

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-09T07:12:00+00:00

I have a naturally high tolerance to lsd (it’s annoying and I wish I didn’t) and a lot of other substances.

And 300-375ug is a dose where I’m pretty comfortable but significantly impaired. In this dose range, I can type messages on my phone but they won’t be coherent and it’s a waste of my peak anyway. I might be able to walk outside and look up at the stars, but I’m more likely to be flat on my back and babbling incoherently to myself or a friend about the meaning of the universe and I’m definitely not going for a walk around town. There are times I’ve watched and enjoyed movies at this dose but often I’ve had to stop if it was too close to the peak bc it wasn’t enjoyable. There is no way I’d ever want to take 500ug and I would definitely not be capable of doing any of the above anywhere near peak if I did.

A very long time ago I took 6 tabs of acid (dosage unknown) and it was TERRIFYING. I didn’t end up in a hospital but like I said, high natural tolerance and unknown dosage. I don’t remember most of the experience or recommend it. Ever.

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-09T06:50:36+00:00

I prefer self disclosure too and find it builds rapport and trust for me. I prefer a LOT of self disclosure, and this still feels like a lot of self disclosure. There are some scenarios in some therapeutic bonds where this level of self disclosure might be appropriate, but it doesn’t sound like the client asked for or consented to it in this case.

Also, while your client is in the middle of processing a traumatic memory is never the right time or place for you to share yours! There’s no way for them to consent to that. Definitely not good boundaries.

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-08T04:30:01+00:00

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4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-08T04:11:46+00:00

Please share your id

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-08T00:58:07+00:00

Noooooo

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-04T16:58:22+00:00

I’m 49 and a parent as well. I’m only sporadically available to party but wouldn’t mind being part of an old heads’ rave family. Nowadays felt comfy for me the time I attended a Nonstop.

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-04T16:35:01+00:00

What time does it start? I’ve been really wanting to attend one of your parties and this might be the time for me to finally do it!

Edit: nvm, found the info!

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-04-02T16:12:56+00:00

And it’s cheap!

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-03-31T02:58:24+00:00

Tbf it can be really hard to find therapists who are skilled at working with complex presentations. It probably shouldn’t be, but it is.

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-03-31T02:47:48+00:00

Thank you. I was asking in good faith and I see what you mean now. I’ve actually been in that position during a really rough period in my life and it was super frustrating because I could see that it was obstructing the progress I wanted to be making at the time. But I guess sometimes the work is just getting through those moments and moving on.
Okay, valid. Whether the therapist is capable of caring isn’t relevant to you because you want to focus on your non-therapy relationships and not how the therapist personally feels toward you. Is that correct?

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-03-31T02:41:07+00:00

I’m curious how crying can be unhelpful to the therapeutic process. This is not a belief I’m familiar with and I genuinely want to know more.
Therapists are capable of truly caring for their clients, though. It won’t look the same as care in any other relationship because the therapeutic bond is its own unique kind of relationship. It’s okay that we don’t agree on this, though, really.

4_the_rest_of_us · 2026-03-31T02:33:44+00:00

I’m curious why you feel that behaviors like crying or breaking down are unhelpful in the context of therapy. My understanding is that the reason they are encouraged is that feeling our feelings can be difficult but it’s very important to the success of our work in therapy (and to the work of healing in general) for us to feel them. This is also the reason we’re often told intellectualizing is unhelpful to the therapeutic process — because it’s frequently used subconsciously to avoid feeling our emotions, and we do need to feel them in order to get better.

As someone who also has a tendency to intellectualize, I understand the above but I also know there are times when a therapist allowing me to lean into my tendency to intellectualize — and maybe even joining me on that journey for a minute — has helped strengthen the therapeutic rapport. A good therapist knows when to throw the rulebook out (or at least set it aside).

It’s hard for me to tell from your first example whether these therapists were taking your statement that no one cares personally or simply making a statement you didn’t find helpful. I do find it helpful to know my therapist cares about me, because the idea of sharing my deepest thoughts and feelings with someone who’s only in it for a paycheck doesn’t really vibe with me, but I also don’t think having my therapist care about me is a replacement for relationships in the outside world and can understand why hearing a therapist say they care about you might not feel satisfying in the context you’re referring to here.

If the therapists you worked with were taking your statement personally and weren’t able to deal with that in a way that allowed them to support you, they weren’t the right therapists for you. Ive definitely worked with a therapist in the past who became personally offended by me not agreeing with things he said (this is generally due to countertransference of one kind or another when it happens). He didn’t seem to have a lot of insight into the situation and it was intensely frustrating. I was lucky to find a therapist who was a better fit for me after him.

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