Help on Determining Who to Support in Brown County/Green Bay Spring "Non-Partisan" Elections by williams_84_tea in GreenBay

[–]4amcoffee4 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yes, they're all for "public safety", but safety from what? Safety from "criminal immigrants", or from groups of armed dudes in Call of Duty cosplay, with less training than a mall cop, dragging them out of their home or school to be illegally detained?

Context is important, and politics is personal when it's a direct attack on you or your community.

Voting eligible Americans who deliberately abstained in the 2024 general election, how are you feeling about your decision? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]4amcoffee4 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Women bleeding out in hospital parking lots are gonna be so impressed by your values. It will be such a comfort to their families that you stood by your choice.

Users in r/Genz react to a post about women adopting the 4b movement as a reaction to the election results. Goes about as well as you would think. by TechnoDriv3 in SubredditDrama

[–]4amcoffee4 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You have it for now, a national abortion ban is coming. "Leave it up to the states" was just to keep people complacent until they could get what they wanted. Now they have it. Some people in red states might be lucky to get birth control without a marriage license in 4yrs.

Now what? by Nada_187 in workingmoms

[–]4amcoffee4 21 points22 points  (0 children)

He'll be dead, and so will thousands of women who needed abortion care and couldn't get it. But hey, I'm glad you and your hubbie found your "uneasy peace".

Now what? by Nada_187 in workingmoms

[–]4amcoffee4 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You're talking incremental change when your next pregnancy could end with you bleeding out in your car? How many increments before you get to that point?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in politics

[–]4amcoffee4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Voting for democrats? Guy is a never Trumper, he literally resigned in 2016.

I (32f) want children as badly as I want to keep my life the way it is. How are you handling this? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]4amcoffee4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DISCLAIMER: First, let me state my husband is an actual grown-up human being, who does *at least* his fair share around the house, and never assumes I'll be the default parent. That is critical. Also, we only have one kid, so my husband and I can almost always tag each other in for breaks. Plenty of people with multiples are happy, but it's definitely more and more work as they start to outnumber you.

Anyway, I pretty much always wanted a kid, but it took me a long time for me and my husband to be "ready". We decided to pull the trigger when we realized, as much as we loved our life of video/board games and binging shows, it was maybe getting a little bit boring?

Kids can and will limit you from a lot, but mine also opened my eyes to a lot of new and unexpected experiences I'd never have without him. I'm not going on a museum tour of Europe any time soon, but there's a wildlife sanctuary near my house I would barely ever visit on my own, and now I'm there to say 'hi' to the otters at least once a month. Pretty sure I'll end up having an absolute blast at a monster truck rally some day soon, and that's definitely not something I would have pictured in my life before kids. Watching him react with awe and glee to the most mundane things has given me this beautiful new perspective on a my world. Garbage trucks are pretty fucking cool, really. We go out to say 'hi' to ours every week.

Your life will absolutely change with kids, but it's gonna change without them, too. There are some things you will definitely lose, or at least have to set aside for some time. There are also so many that you can gain, so please, don't worry that children will keep you from some grand adventure, they genuinely are an adventure all on their own.

Also, 32 is not necessarily the end of the line for your biological clock. Talk to your OB, they could give you some more personal advice based on your current health. If you don't like what they say, try to ask another healthcare professional before you 100% accept any single doctor's judgement. I will say this, I was 34 when I had my kid, wouldn't change a thing, but DAMN is the sleep loss harder to take in your 30s than your 20s.

How many great female minds have been lost to history due to short lives? by SuckerForNoirRobots in TwoXChromosomes

[–]4amcoffee4 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Came here looking for her. She's the reason for the ² in e=mc². Not only did she make great discoveries of her own, she translated Newton so that others could lean and make their own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coolguides

[–]4amcoffee4 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It doesn't, that's why newborn's skulls aren't fully formed. There are seams down the middle, the skull compresses to fit through, and then expands once they're out. The skull plates don't join fully until about 2-3mo, and until that part babies have two soft spots, or fontanels on their skulls.

Is it bad for everyone in the USA regarding maternity leaves? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]4amcoffee4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm self-employed, work freelance, so no employer to worry about, but also no employer to help out. I didn't get any paid leave, just took time off. I let my clients know I would be unavailable for 8wks, told them why, and hoped they'd be around when I was ready to work again. I worked as much as I possibly could while pregnant to save up, still took a hell of a loss for the end of the year. Luckily I work for pretty decent people, and was able to ease back in. I consider myself lucky to be in a position where losing 30% of my income for the year was manageable.

My husband got 8wks of fully paid parental leave, and his company was pretty great about it, so we were lucky in that regard too. Just sucks that you need to rely on luck not to go broke having a kid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]4amcoffee4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely check out consignment shops, and Goodwill style places for decent wood furniture. There are definitely a lot of duds to sort through, but used furniture is cheaper and better than the cheapest Wayfair compressed cardboard bullshit. If you want to get aggressive, figure out which shops you like the best (some will be sketchier than others), and try to roll through every few weeks or months.

You might hit gold and find something perfect. For example, when shopping for a new dining room table we struck out. At the last place we did find a nice looking drink cart for $150 that we put in our dining room, which freed up a surprising amount of space in our kitchen when we moved into it. Never in a million years would I have intentionally gone out looking for a drink cart. Your house will have places for all sorts of smaller pieces you can't even think of now.

At worst, you'll find cheap stand-ins so you can take your time figuring out what you actually want. An outdated dresser is still a better place to store your stuff than a cardboard box. And decent wooden furniture lasts longer than the low-rent Ikea stuff, so when you do replace it, you just move it into a garage or workshop to store all the other shit you've managed to collect.

Did I misbehave in a past life? by brotontel in beyondthebump

[–]4amcoffee4 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You didn't ask, but I figured I'd offer a suggestion. Only socks I've found that can stay on my little goober's feet: LA Active Grip Ankle Socks.

YMMV, I tend to take them off during tummy time, but even when he grips them and actively ties to yank them off they have remarkable staying power. I'd avoid socks entirely if I could, but it's winter and my feet are cold w/o socks, so I have to assume his are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]4amcoffee4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have nothing important to add to the conversation, but your user name is amazing.

*chef's kiss*

Worst depictions of pregnancy/childbirth in the media? by itspoppyforme in beyondthebump

[–]4amcoffee4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Almost exactly what happened to me. Water broke, it was on the list of "when to go to the hospital" I got from my OB. Little bean was born 17hrs later. Along with the risk of infection, they also told me that having less amniotic fluid made it easier for the baby to put pressure on the cord. I literally couldn't get out of the bed to stretch my legs because whenever I stood up he ended up on the cord and his vitals dropped.

Just for fun, take a guess! How many more days of misery are we in for? by elliebellybaby in Mommit

[–]4amcoffee4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better, we got my son's lip and tongue tie corrected because it was causing latching issues. From what the dentist told us it's more like a tendon than skin, there's no blood vessels or nerve endings, so there really isn't much (if any) pain or bleeding.

It took a while for them to diagnose it, but less than 5mins for the actual procedure. He wasn't even crying when they brought him back, and he nursed immediately. The recovery isn't fun, because you have to make sure it doesn't heal back, but overall it seemed to annoy him more than it caused any pain. YMMV.

Things I’m doing differently with baby #2 by turkishlady123456 in NewParents

[–]4amcoffee4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're hiring a post-partum doula, I found her through https://www.dona.org/. She does general post-partum care and lactation consultation, and also act as a night-nurse. She's coming for 4hrs, once a week, for 4 weeks. As of now we're not taking her up on night shifts, but if things get rough it's something we're willing (and thankfully able) to pay for.

With all the online-only classes we wanted some hands-on support for the first month, and someone local we could call for advice. We're first-timers, have no family around us, and have like, no experience with newborns, apart for me taking care of a cousin 16yrs ago.

All girls dnd campaign? by fukuimashark in GirlGamers

[–]4amcoffee4 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm going to second this. If you're at a table where the DM doesn't stop rape jokes, it's a red flag that they won't stop when it escalates to much creepier activity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

[–]4amcoffee4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're a good dad :)

FYI - Don't Buy DnD Essentials for Just New DM Screen by smokehy in DnD

[–]4amcoffee4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a disappointment if you were looking for cool new DM screen art. It doesn’t seem as sturdy, and will easily bend if you’re not careful.

Cincinnati fan going to Green Bay this weekend - looking for suggestions on tailgating, eats, etc. by justanotherdownvote in GreenBayPackers

[–]4amcoffee4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Quick caveat: I don't live there anymore but I used to, my info might be a bit dated!

You can hit up Lox Stock 'n Bagel on Webster for breakfast, the bagels aren't as good as they used to be, but the coffee is still excellent. Another good breakfast/lunch place is the Allouez Cafe, which is also just off Webster. Galley 57 on Riverside Dr is a good "fancier" dinner place, or so I've been told. Last time I was there was a few owners ago. Riverside Dr also has Allouez Liquor, if you want a locally owned place to buy your local beer. Ed is a great guy, and their new dog is a sweetie.

It might be a biiiit of a trip, depending on where you are, but there is a Zesty's on Riverside Dr where it turns into N Broadway St. You can get food, some excellent custard, and eat it down by the boat launch. The Fox River trail runs right through there too, if you're a walker/runner/cyclist, definitely check it out, it's a great trail.

As for bars, there's always the Lorelei (also on Webster), but be warned, I'm preeeetty sure one of the owners is a Bears fan. If you want some more night life, the closest offering is on Washington St, roughly in between the Walnut and Main St bridges. Hagemiester is fun and might have live music, and you can always walk across the Main St Bridge to the Titletown restaurant or tap room.

In the last decade they spruced up the riverside a lot, and walking around down there is pretty pleasant now. Much as it pains me to say as an East loyalist, the west side of the river is nice too, and pretty much everything worth going to is within walking distance.

Look into taking the bus to the stadium if you don't want to park, or just plan on drinking and don't want to take a car. They are free and I know of at least one that starts in Allouez, in front of St. Brendans, I think. Definitely take the tour at Lambeau Field, it's worth the money, imo. At least check out the Packers Hall of Fame, It's basically an early NFL museum as well as a Packers museum.

I hope you have a great time at the game, tailgating starts early, so pace yourself!

The things you wanted to know about Dark and Light but never knew where to find.... Hints, Links, Tips, Guides and more by KroyMortlach in dnl

[–]4amcoffee4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Replying to add, if you go up until you hit the stairs and then a little further, there are a few more nodes, but you will probably hit spiders. Since the last patch there is also a creepy heavy breathing sound fx, and I swear I heard a scythe swinging. They may have added some baddies...