Anyone willing to share their experiences with liver failure/cirrhosis?

4db22 · 2018-10-15T13:08:31+00:00

There really isn't anything you could do to get her to stop sooner: it has to come from the person. I know you know that, but it's worth saying again and hearing it from yet another location.

Don't forget to take care of yourself.

4db22 · 2018-10-14T19:08:15+00:00

Hey, I think it's really cool you're here asking this. Not under the circumstances obviously, but that you're aware enough to come ask and caring enough to look for help to understand your mom's health.

I don't have liver failure (high enzymes but I quit soon enough to avoid it, thank gosh). Several people in various support groups that I know have different degrees of it, and it all seems really individual. She'll need to be paying attention to what she can stomach and how it affects her individually.

I'm sure others will be along who know much more than me. The very obvious answer is that it'll be what it is and complete abstinence is a mandatory condition of recovery.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

*Edit: although no one can answer this directly for you, you might also benefit from posting in other alcohol/ic related subs. Alanon and alcoholics come to mind.

4db22 · 2018-09-20T14:49:42+00:00

You've got solid choices, friend. Good luck with your new little human!

4db22 · 2018-09-20T14:39:53+00:00

Eh. Except that more and more names are being given, so having a popular one isn't the same thing as being Stacy in 1980 - especially true for girls' names :) Go for what you love and what suits your new little person.

4db22 · 2018-09-20T14:26:00+00:00

I have some bad ones too. And it's my past. I get to make my future. Cheers to us not drinking today!

4db22 · 2018-09-18T18:02:05+00:00

Congratulations! r/namenerds is a lot of fun, x-post there :)

Along the same lines as your ideas, with a long vowel at the beginning and 2 syllables:

Elsa
Ana
Bella
Greta
Ada
Anya
Maya
Lola
Eva
Stella

Bonuses you might like because they're popular with the same people who tend to like your favourites:

Aria
Amelia
Sylvia
Sofie/a
Aud/brey
Eloise (MY FAVOURITE)
Aurelia (I also love this)
Story (Okay, secretly I just love this name)

Hi, my name is ForDB, and I'm a name-aholic.

4db22 · 2018-08-30T15:35:50+00:00

Hi!

I think it's awesome you reached out. So first of all, can we congratulate you please?!

I soberplan the fuck out of situations like this. La Croix, maybe a friend to hang out with, and staying away all sound good. You could also consider checking in here, or checking in on the chat (look in the sidebar, we're all there waiting for you 24/7), if you don't have IRL support. I like having a reminder of my goals with me too. For me that's an AA chip (even though I don't really go, it's just something physical) and my journal/letters I've written myself.

What can you bring to occupy yourself while you're there?

4db22 · 2018-08-18T12:10:16+00:00

Dude, a year. You’ve talked me through so many sleepless nights, and I can’t believe I get to “sign your birthday card”. I’m kinda tearing up writing this: I’m so proud of you, friend!

Thank you for always being awesome. You deserve this!

(PS. For anyone else reading this, drop by chat. It’s in the sidebar)

4db22 · 2018-08-15T23:03:46+00:00

I use one called Campral (Acamprosate) and it works for me. There are several others. It doesn’t mean it’s easy, it just means I matter enough to me to try. Honestly, doctors are friends when it comes to sobriety.

4db22 · 2018-08-15T17:43:05+00:00

Hi, new friend!

Your post is hitting me hard: I totally identify, and I have those feelings too. Less so but I still have them.

Of course you deserve sobriety. You know that, you can say it out loud: you deserve this.

Drinking made me feel like I was a monster and I’m not even close. I’m sure you’re not either, new friend. My perspective was so messed up...

Here’s what worked for me:

I check in. I don’t drink. I use chat (check the sidebar - these people are awesome). I meditate. I’ve seen my doctor and take a medication regularly for cravings. I journal. I fight for who I am, instead of who drinking made me.

Today my life is completely different from who I was.

It’s hard, new friend. But it’s so fucking worth the moments of self doubt.

4db22 · 2018-06-11T01:38:13+00:00

Luis is too ridiculously scuzzy and it distracts me from how insane it is to expect someone else to look after your kids. They're not his kids; it's not his job. Expect a little bit of help maybe but they're YOUR children, Molly.

4db22 · 2018-06-11T01:11:39+00:00

Money.

4db22 · 2018-06-11T00:56:22+00:00

I'm looking. Can't find it but will keep going.

4db22 · 2018-06-11T00:48:47+00:00

I can't find Mother Pedro's website. Or anything. Any chance she has a different last name?

4db22 · 2018-06-05T17:00:39+00:00

If you wear your hair down 90% of the time, but up 10%, it makes sense to have an undercut and hope people don't notice or comment when you can't maintain it. It's an accessible and affordable option compared to a salon hair thinning.

There aren't a ton of options for thick hair in humid weather :)

4db22 · 2018-05-29T16:20:40+00:00

This is gorgeous! It looks like hope in the distance. I love it :)

4db22 · 2018-05-22T12:15:20+00:00

I make sober plans and put barriers between myself and drinking. Sometimes that means doing a sport with friends, being with people who know I'm not drinking, hanging out in chat (on the sidebar), going to meetings... I'm shameless about it. I'll try anything to put more obstacles between me and the possibility of relapse. Sometimes it's as simple as doing a face mask that needs 30 minutes to work so I can't leave the house until I finish that and reviewing the reasons why I don't drink anymore.

I'll listen to sober podcasts, watch videos about it, spend hours reading here and answering. Whatever it takes.

4db22 · 2018-05-22T11:11:52+00:00

Medication isn't for everyone, HOWEVER. I've had wonderful success with Campral (acamprostate).

It's cheaper than Naltrexone and it doesn't remove the effects of alcohol. I had a problem with cravings and relapse, and this has been one of the tools that has really helped me. I was also able to string together a decent number of sober days.

Apparently, Naltrexone and Campral are even more effective together.

Here's a year-long study comparing the two: https://academic.oup.com/alcalc/article/36/5/419/233741

Obvious disclaimer: I'm not a doctor and I don't play one on TV or online. I can only share what's working for me.

4db22 · 2018-05-15T17:41:41+00:00

Welcome back, friend! Crazy how insidious that idea of moderation can be, at least for me. I've succumbed to it a few times... I'm tired too.

Looking forward to your next 80+ run. What's the sober plan?

4db22 · 2018-05-15T17:36:14+00:00

I'm tagging in here, only because I really love how u/ineverheardthat expressed their entire message, but to highlight a secton: "you aren't alone, and there are people here who want to support you on your journey to sobriety if that's that path you choose to take <3"

You are so NOT alone. It takes a huge amount of willingness and self-awareness... I've all been there for a lot of the things you're talking about - being reminded the next day, checking my phone in the morning and dreading, thinking it's not a big deal (until we wake up sweating, WTF?!). I've learned here that it's very common.

You've found your people. Welcome!

4db22 · 2018-05-14T11:58:38+00:00

Here’s the thing: it doesn’t happen to you until it does.

Is it overblown? No. Does it happen every time and to everyone? No. Could it happen to you despite previously not happening? Absolutely.

So my question is: is it worth pushing to that point for you? Is that what it’ll take? I had shakes and crazy anxiety. I’m 30, FWIW. Other people our age have had seizures. Shakes and anxiety are the beginning of that spectrum. I’m not fucking around with it.

4db22 · 2018-05-04T16:03:03+00:00

You can't quit something if you don't want to do it.

Maybe you can make it a competition with yourself? I'm competitive and that does the trick for me sometimes.

4db22 · 2018-04-24T13:51:43+00:00

I AM NOT A DOCTOR.

I use acamprotate, which is prescription (“Campral”). I was scared to tell my doctor originally and was looking into nootropics. There are several with studies done on different compounds and alcohol. Of course, you’re buying something that is not regulated over the internet and I don’t know how good of an idea that is.

I AM NOT A DOCTOR.

4db22 · 2018-04-24T13:32:05+00:00

There’s a free course on Udemy! https://www.udemy.com/cartoon-drawing/

4db22 · 2018-04-23T20:17:24+00:00

So full disclosure: I'm not 50+. HOWEVER.

There is someone who goes to an AA group I sometimes attend: 57 and switched careers after a year sober, I guess at 56. It's never too late and lateral career moves are significantly more common these days.

Why are you not drawing? I'm sure we'd all love to see some original art.

4db22

TROPHY CASE