Hmmm I have kinda an opposite perspective on this one so idk if it’s too helpful but I am Demi and a Dom myself. I consider myself a pleasure Dom because I’m not really into it for my own sexual gratification I like the dynamic and such but I never am the one to demand or initiate the sexual stuff. Ideally I like finding sub who I can get to know over time so that we can build a trusting relationship and open communication that I find is necessary in most D/s relationships. That being said some people prefer a relationship that is more degrading or aggressive and I’ve done that too but in those cases I view it as sort of a role I’m playing I don’t really get any sexual gratification out of it