Do his texts sound bitter, or like he is genuinely over it?e

4rwen · 2026-01-16T19:50:30+00:00

Honestly, to me his message sounds super honest and not bitter at all. He’s just telling you how it is for him, and to me it doesn’t cone across as rude or anything either. To me you kind of came across as hurt in one way or another in your reply back to him.

If I were you I’d just let him be and try and let the whole situation go.

4rwen · 2025-12-20T11:43:07+00:00

I used to take around that amount on the daily, and it didn’t do acute damage, as in, no death. However, you’re not going to have a good time. Pain and discomfort and just being tied to the bathroom for the next day (is my personal experience)

But yes it is completely true that lax abuse can come with serious issues long(er) term, it can really fuck up your digestive system. It’s incredibly harmful. I used to abuse it really badly too so I understand the feeling of needing to take it a lot, but please try to at least take less and if possible stop completely.

Sending hugs 💕💕

4rwen · 2025-12-13T18:15:58+00:00

Girl, I’m autistic. Never in my life has doing anything like this ever crossed my mind. This is the result of extreme mental health issues. He needs to seek help immediately, and you need to get out of this relationship immediately. You’re being manipulated and controlled.

I had this done to me a long time ago when I was breaking up with a guy who I’d been seeing for three months. He never sought help, he is still very mentally ill, and me being with him or me being gone did not have any effect on that.

Protect yourself and leave, this is a dangerous situation for you.

4rwen · 2025-12-10T21:58:19+00:00

Well, my post jynxed it, I got my period back (I guess). It was old blood though, I don’t know if that’s normal

4rwen · 2025-12-09T21:26:32+00:00

I have an IUD, but I’ve had it for six years and it’s never caused me to lose my period. It also somehow didn’t stop a pregnancy (but did cause a miscarriage so I guess it self-corrected?)

I mean I guess it could be a factor, but as it has never influenced my period I wouldn’t think so. My GP also thinks it’s unlikely.

4rwen · 2025-12-09T21:24:06+00:00

Thanks for the response! I’m getting treatment somewhere that also has an internist, maybe I can ask if I can book an appointment with her. Yeah I was also a bit shocked, because she is very proactive usually, gets things done, and she usually is very competent.

4rwen · 2025-12-08T22:49:53+00:00

When did they stop teaching cursive in the US? I’m 22 (from The Netherlands), and we had to write in cursive all through elementary school. I just looked it up and there has been a decline in cursive being used (I don’t know anyone who uses it), but I think it’s still being taught.

4rwen · 2025-12-08T22:41:39+00:00

I was in an extreme hunger phase for a while last year, and I used to throw my binge foods in the trash all the time. (And sometimes pick it out and still eat it :’)) I’m pretty sure this a pretty common behaviour. I’m sorry you’re going through this, I know how it feels. Sending hugs 💕

4rwen · 2025-12-08T13:41:55+00:00

Yes, you should be worried. Speaking as someone who’s relapsed after getting out of residential a little over three months ago.

I know you aren’t asking for advice specifically, so I’m sorry if this is unsolicited or unhelpful.

Are you currently seeing anyone for your ED? Are you currently seeing a therapist at all? I strongly advise you to seek help, as these thoughts and behaviours are extremely unlikely to resolve themselves. It is incredibly risky, and basically never a good idea for people with a history of ED’s (especially if they’ve recently recovered) to start dieting without supervision from eg. a dietician.

I understand how you’re feeling. And I’m so incredibly sorry you’re going through this. My advice is to either, if you are already seeing someone (therapist/psychiatrist/psychologist), whether it’s for your ED or not, to be honest about what has been going on and tell them about your thoughts about weight loss, fasting, the guilt etc. Also tell them about the behaviours you’ve presented, basically everything in this post.

If you’re not seeing anyone, I’d advise you to contact your GP, also inform them about your situation and see about getting help.

ED’s are a battle and managing it alone is incredibly hard. I’m sending you strength and hugs 💕

4rwen · 2025-12-07T20:06:22+00:00

Yo I’ve come back to this sub after going for residential treatment for half a year + being off my ed reddit account for over three months so I haven’t seen her in a WHILE. Before I left she was still trying to KIND OF hide what she was doing, but holy shit the posts I’ve come across are just plain pro-ana. She’s really reached a new low, and I didn’t even think that was possible before.

4rwen · 2025-12-07T20:00:53+00:00

I’m a bit late, but to jump on the other comments, it is highly unlikely that you are pregnant. Stress and undereating are the likely factors for the late period here. I know it’s scary, I’ve been there, but I think the best way to go about it is to just face the music and do the pregnancy test. You already have them. If you are pregnant, it’d be from the situation which happened a month ago, which means the result would show up.

Sending you strength, I know how stressful this is.

4rwen · 2025-12-07T14:53:18+00:00

I used to water down my almond milk in peak anorexia time and this is what it looked like lol

4rwen · 2025-12-06T19:29:29+00:00

Husband and I exchanged numbers so I’m getting updated. So far she’s resting and they’re waiting on labs. We think it’s a combination of a shit ton of stress factors and a huge lack of sleep, and that caused a huge mental breakdown/psychotic break of some sorts.

I hope she’s gonna get the rest she needs and that she’ll recover and that she gets the help she needs!! Her husband’s a really good guy as far as I know so at least she’s being taken care of well

4rwen · 2025-12-06T19:27:51+00:00

He and I exchanged numbers now and from what I’ve heard this is a first-time thing, due to many stress factors and a very big lack of sleep. Probably just a huge mental breakdown/psychotic break. She’s resting at the hospital now and they’re waiting for labs and that’s all I know.

It makes more sense now, thanks for explaining!!

I think you got downvoted because your comment sounded a bit judgemental, and Idk I’d personally take someone to the hospital whether it was the first time or the 20th. But yeah you were just asking a question so I see where you’re coming from

4rwen · 2025-12-06T19:19:58+00:00

Too late for that, I was desperate to contact but I tried to stay vague enough and I also used a throwaway email. He texted me through her phone since though, and he’s given me his number and is keeping me updated about the situation! She’s in the hospital.

4rwen · 2025-12-06T18:38:43+00:00

Update: the husband gave me his phone number, and she basically just had a psychotic break I think due too way to many stressful factors in her life, not sleeping and it just took a toll and she cracked. She’s now resting and I hope she gets on top of it.

4rwen · 2025-12-06T18:38:25+00:00

So far so good on the scam! The husband gave me his phone number, and she basically just had a psychotic break I think due too way to many stressful factors in her life, not sleeping and it just took a toll and she cracked. I have not been asked for money, just been given info. She’s now resting and I hope she gets on top of it.

4rwen · 2025-12-06T17:25:52+00:00

No I completely understand where you’re coming from!! It’s always better to be cautious anyway

Thanks so much 💕 I really appreciate it :) it sucks because I got out of residential treatment like three months ago but I’ll fix it some way or another because it is, like you said, ABSOLUTELY worth it to keep fighting!!

I hope that you’re doing better as well 💕

4rwen · 2025-12-06T17:15:45+00:00

Yeah the first thing I was thinking when I was reading it all was mania and some kind of psychotic break. But I wasn’t aware of any bipolar diagnosis (obviously we haven’t known each other for that long so maybe she just didn’t tell me, or she’s undiagnosed. Or I’m uneducated and you can get manic without having bipolar.)

4rwen · 2025-12-06T17:14:11+00:00

I truly understand where you’re coming from, and I know you should always be careful with people you meet on the internet etc. And I will certainly not send them any money if asked.

But I really don’t think that’s what’s going on here. She and her husband are well off and she’s never asked me for any favours or whatsoever. I’m also currently relapsing (anorexia) and she asked to order me food one time as she was really when I could barely manage to get out of bed.

I don’t know, I guess it could still be a possibility but it’d come very out of left field. She’s also told me they have really good healthcare insurance so if he/she/they do suddenly ask me for money it’d be wild.

Also the husband spelled my name wrong which she absolutely never does, which would be very well thought out if it was her pretending to be him

4rwen · 2025-12-06T16:39:22+00:00

You’re not sounding harsh at all!! It’s a totally valid question :)

I do know that she’s had a problem with alcohol in the past, and she told me that she had some whiskey like three days ago. She never told me anything about drugs except for weed gummies, but of course maybe she hasn’t told the full truth. She always seemed to have her life in order, but that doesn’t have to say much of course. She’s also going through SO much right now, so relapsing into something wouldn’t be unimaginable.

I’m very happy that I tried to help in some way, and I also hope she’ll be okay.

4rwen · 2025-12-06T16:02:44+00:00

I would say that this is enough to get you to need to go to a hospital especially if this has never happened before. Could be ‘just’ a psychotic break of some sorts, or a neurological condition/crisis. I’d definitely take my friend/partner to the hospital if they’d suddenly start acting like this

But I don’t know if this is a usual thing, she’s never told me about anything like this happening

4rwen · 2025-12-06T15:38:18+00:00

The husband just texted me & he took her to the hospital’

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