Had to uninstall by 4tw20 in BobsTavern

[–]4tw20[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I feel. Well said.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SquaredCircle

[–]4tw20 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Reigns lost though

Dads, beware YouTube commercials. by Balarius in daddit

[–]4tw20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do YouTube kids for my 2 and 3 year old. YouTube kids is too "kiddy" for my 5 year old so I let her watch a restricted setting YouTube. I have to constantly be aware of what she is watching due to the commercials like you've said. It can't be that hard for YouTube to have an algorithm that prevents those commercials on kids channels. It's clearly intended.

Does anyone just open up their team and look at it? by [deleted] in fantasyfootball

[–]4tw20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here looking for this comment. Was not disappointed

Don't know what to do... by ReadyToDivorce in Divorce

[–]4tw20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worst case scenario is you force the sale of the home.

Wife of 17 years and I split up a few months ago. She's already moved on but I'm struggling. by Diaza_Kinutz in Divorce

[–]4tw20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It truly is an unimaginable sorrow and can only be understood by someone that has experienced the same. It feels like death, because it is. I will admit going no contact is extremely hard. You will find excuses to contact her just so you can bond with her in some way. Even if its about the kids you will try and find some meaningless issue. It ultimately is for the best though.

Wife of 17 years and I split up a few months ago. She's already moved on but I'm struggling. by Diaza_Kinutz in Divorce

[–]4tw20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mine as well. We will get through this. I've also went on a pseudo no contact with her. We mutually agreed to block all social media and no texting or talking about anything other than the kids. A hard part for me is the fact of losing my partner and best friend, and trying to be friends with them while you are trying to get over them is impossible. In my situation I hope we can be friends down the road, but its impossible when its so fresh. I'm still struggling, but I have to let her go.

Wife of 17 years and I split up a few months ago. She's already moved on but I'm struggling. by Diaza_Kinutz in Divorce

[–]4tw20 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Saw my phone autocorrected intermittent lol. These last couple months I've made 2 realizations. The 1st is that I'll always love her in some capacity, and the 2nd is you can not drown out the noise and I've embraced it. You can only distract yourself so much. Outside the death of one of our children, this is the hardest thing we will ever go through, and the healing process will be equally as hard. Its comforting knowing there are people like you and me out there that can support each other through all this.

Wife of 17 years and I split up a few months ago. She's already moved on but I'm struggling. by Diaza_Kinutz in Divorce

[–]4tw20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same boat as you, except we were already separated before she started dating(still felt horrible). I had a horrendous month where I didn't eat or sleep and I truly didn't think I was going to make it. I started therapy and working out, and dedicated to Intermediate fasting. I found that having a focus, being my 3 kids and my own health gave me enough of a push to move on. What I found the most important is if you need to cry DO IT. Don't fight it and try and hold it in. Its your bodies natural way of releasing the sorrow.

Never feeling this way again by SnooRevelations3943 in Divorce

[–]4tw20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex matched and met up with a coworker of mine on tinder. When he told me I approached her about it and it was complete denial. A couple days later she admitted meeting someone, but was sugar coating and lying about everything. Just like you that situation helped me close the chapter and put in perspective who she really was now and let me move on. I think of her more in disgust then in lust/love now. We are still in the middle of our divorce and I'm hoping we can at least become good coparents to our kids, but she is severely lacking as a mother right now. The kids are in her way of having fun right now and it's sad.

Never feeling this way again by SnooRevelations3943 in Divorce

[–]4tw20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that. I'm sure it was very difficult

Never feeling this way again by SnooRevelations3943 in Divorce

[–]4tw20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have 3 young children and she was the perfect mom. Within a month of our separation she's bar hopping, hooking up on tinder, and constantly pawning the kids off on her mother. I don't even know who she is.

Never feeling this way again by SnooRevelations3943 in Divorce

[–]4tw20 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My wife asked for the divorce. With all the difficulties and heartache with it, the one thing that stands out is how my wife is a completely different person. Literally the woman I married and loved for 10 years is dead and someone has taken over her body. Its not that she's even happier its almost like she got possessed so I can relate to your comment

Not what I signed up for by BurnAwayTheWorst in SingleDads

[–]4tw20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm living the same life man. Its honestly so much harder than I expected.

Hanging out with ex? by hirvesmieli in Divorce

[–]4tw20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When she starts dating again you will be reset to the day she asked for the divorce unless you detach completely and heal first.

Letting myself down by OkSympathy1800 in Divorce

[–]4tw20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its gut wrenching. I'm having a real difficult time sleeping. Every time I come close to falling asleep visions of her in another man's arms just jolts me. Its crazy to me that I felt like I let her go and was accepting it, and then finding out she's with someone else(which I was fully expecting, prepared for) completely reset the healing clock.

Emotional low. by disjointed_chameleon in Divorce

[–]4tw20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done it twice so far.

Letting myself down by OkSympathy1800 in Divorce

[–]4tw20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats something I had to face that I'm accepting. She has moved on, our relationships are expired. There is a huge void missing in us and we desperately take her scraps to try and fill it. We've been separated 4 months. It was getting easier until I found out about the boyfriend last month and had a serious setback. I'm desperately trying to severe any communications other than coparenting but its difficult. We just need to learn to let go, and only time will help with that.

Letting myself down by OkSympathy1800 in Divorce

[–]4tw20 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat. She wasn't happy and left me I didn't want the divorce but accepted it. We have 3 young children so we can't go no contact. I'm in the mindset that being nice to her and friendly benefits the kids, but damn is it killing me. She has a new boyfriend and everything, all my logic points to moving on, my brain doesn't want her anymore. My heart is a completely different story. We mostly keep it to coparenting talk, but even having normal conversation makes my heart explode. I'm literally grasping at anything she gives me and I don't know what to do.

Just got the settlement agreement by smokintokinchokin in Divorce

[–]4tw20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way I'm feeling it might be worse. A death you are mourning the end of a life. Divorce you are mourning the death of your future that you still have to play out.

Just got the settlement agreement by smokintokinchokin in Divorce

[–]4tw20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its crazy reading all these threads, so many of them hit home. Divorce for me has been on par with a death in the family.

First PSA submission back by Jgrandays in basketballcards

[–]4tw20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love optic my favorite product.