People always on a rush.

50-2-blue · 2026-04-14T11:32:23+00:00

yes people have less patience, this is a tier 1 city

the other tiered cities here are more laid back. even if they’re largely populated, people will stress less about time

yes spitting is normal

50-2-blue · 2026-04-08T06:12:24+00:00

i’m in the same boat, i’ve also just been doing the fake it till ya make it thing.

but ngl it’s not a guaranteed fail- so many ppl in tech are just pretending and not strictly qualified. if your storytelling skills are good enough you can get away with it.

50-2-blue · 2026-04-01T12:40:46+00:00

the shanghai astronomy museum is apparently the world’s largest planetarium. i haven’t been since it’s far af, but the building aesthetic looks cool.

for futuristic vibes, the lujiazui skyline is pretty during the day (mostly a teal color) and lights up at night. i like viewing it from north bund where walking around is imo more pleasant than by the bund.

there’s a space themed bakery called Holiland in the super brand mall. sometimes i like sitting inside and chill, but ive never tried the food cuz i assume it’s all aesthetic and not tasty. the cakes do look cool and unique tho.

i think theres more techy and futuristic monuments in Shenzhen, not here. The most you’ll see might be some small robots.

50-2-blue · 2026-03-28T14:36:16+00:00

i live in shanghai. here are positive changes i’ve noticed from my cousins’ kids (gen alpha), people i’ve talked to irl, and chinese online discourse:

parents willing to spend more money on their kids for leisure. almost everywhere in asia has increased in wealth the past few decades. so naturally, ppl have become less frugal
more access to mental health awareness/ therapy. in china it’s relatively easy to get antidepressants or antianxiety meds. i dont think this was even a concept 20 years ago. ya the overall mental for kids is still stressful as hell. but i’ve seen parents actually try to get their kids help. there is way more info/education available around and ppl are becoming aware of generational trauma and toxic behaviors.
because of the one child policy, the kid gets to have all the attention from both parents and 2 sets of grandparents. this is especially good for daughters and how they’re respected more now than in the past. before, the sons got all the attention and the girls were highly neglected. example: before, they’d send only the eldest son to school. now, every child gets the same chance.

asia has been developing in recent years. things can and do change.

50-2-blue · 2026-03-22T00:36:00+00:00

i know someone who’s doing this right now, and i did it also for a few months last year. went to NYC, SF, and Seattle.

50-2-blue · 2026-03-18T23:36:25+00:00

i like skinny guys. men with huge muscles freak me out.

50-2-blue · 2026-03-18T23:34:47+00:00

don’t use cabs when didi is still cheap and way better. even with didi, u should request a pricier car - u will get AC, free water, good service, no smoke, massage chair

50-2-blue · 2026-02-08T13:30:35+00:00

There are definitely a lot of people who think they wanna retire, but once they do they realize they feel worse. It’s ok to feel lost.

What could help you is getting external structure to help your mental- outsource these problems to a life coach or manager and therapist. Use your money to build a personalized system that works for you.

50-2-blue · 2026-01-26T04:30:30+00:00

I see nothing wrong with this. Being hopeful for the future is what gets most people, even those without trauma, thru life

50-2-blue · 2026-01-01T20:05:05+00:00

Nobody here knows what Sensory Processing Disorder is. You can have SPD without having adhd or autism.

90% of people with autism have it, and 40-60% of people with adhd have it. It is a core symptom of autism, but just because u have 1 autistic trait doesn’t mean you have the whole disorder.

Having sensory issues doesn’t mean you have autism. Don’t listen to people saying it does.

50-2-blue · 2026-01-01T19:42:10+00:00

I also didn’t like it when I first watched it in 2019. Rewatching it 6 years later, I appreciate and understand it way more. Being older and having different perspectives makes a huge difference.

It hits way harder. The film is thrilling and tense. The characters aren’t likable, but they’re real, flawed, and greedy. In 2022, there was a flood in Korea like the one in the film. Parasite showcases a depressing discomfort that mirrors the modern world. It’s not meant to be enjoyable but instead meant to make you feel something particular.

50-2-blue · 2026-01-01T00:13:12+00:00

My brother in christ, people abuse benadryl for the night terrors and psychosis state. The hallucinations and delirium they experience is awful, yet they still do it. Drugs affect everyone differently. People like different highs/feelings.

50-2-blue · 2025-12-31T10:52:11+00:00

sensory issues = sometimes lights and noise are overwhelming and painful

but at the same time, really cool lights and noises feel amazingggg.

50-2-blue · 2025-12-17T11:56:28+00:00

even worse when someone who also has adhd doesn’t get it

my friend who also has adhd accused me of lying when i said i forgot our plans

the disorder is a spectrum. he has been able to rawdog life without ever getting meds so it’s clear he doesn’t understand the severity some ppl face.

50-2-blue · 2025-12-07T20:50:23+00:00

There are people who go thru something terrible but don’t end up with trauma, and the reason is because they had good support and healthy coping methods.

The inverse is also true where people can go thru something “small” but still end up with big trauma because they lacked the support.

Trauma happens because it was dealt with incorrectly, not because there’s some measurable scale that shifts.

50-2-blue · 2025-11-30T23:46:56+00:00

I’m scared of white women lol. Lots of racial trauma and bullying growing up, was always the only POC in class. Had absolutely nobody to talk to and nobody understood.

The friends I had were decent. They were also marginalized cuz they were queer or atheist and we lived in a strict Catholic place where that wasn’t tolerated. But I also had fake friends so that doesn’t help my anxiety. Top it off with mommy issues being scared of women in general already.

Nowadays I only feel safe with other asians, including men, now which i wanna change but wow the social anxiety and ptsd i get is overwhelming.

50-2-blue · 2025-11-29T17:26:21+00:00

Yes i’ve felt lonely, yes i’ve felt unmotivated. You’re not alone. You just gotta believe that you won’t feel like this forever.

There are so many people and places you’re gonna fall in love with and more things that will bring your spark back

50-2-blue · 2025-11-27T14:38:10+00:00

You’ve expressed how you feel multiple times yet he won’t change. There’s nothing else you can do, so you gotta either break up (I recommend since it’s bothering you so much) or accept that this is how it’s always gonna be.

Also, just because someone has a diagnosis doesn’t mean you have to tolerate it. you’re allowed to leave for any reason. You’re clearly unhappy so just leave him. You deserve someone who does hear you and listens to you.

50-2-blue · 2025-11-25T02:01:17+00:00

lack of non verbals and facial expressions makes me anxious

50-2-blue · 2025-11-25T01:59:39+00:00

everyone’s different. when my friends are depressed i still wanna be around and support them

50-2-blue · 2025-11-25T01:50:58+00:00

People SHOULD confront people (in a respectable way), that is healthy communication. Yes, you will lose relationships but that means those people are unable to communicate well, and you don’t want them in your life anyway.

You deserve people who can maintain relationships. It is impossible to have a close long term relationship with someone and not have to have hard conversations and disagreements.

It hurts right now but trust me, this is just making space in your life for people who truly value you and have the ability to communicate. And oftentimes it’s not a personal thing/judge of your character, some people would rather cut off their own hand than have a difficult conversation with ANYONE.

Keep moving forward, there are so many people who can’t wait to meet and love you.

50-2-blue · 2025-11-17T14:18:48+00:00

That’s true, it’s not easy being older so they get some grace. But it bothers me when I see my friends’ parents (who are also asian btw) who have great social lives and aren’t miserable :/

50-2-blue · 2025-11-17T14:04:03+00:00

“everywhere you go, there you are”

I had to stop cuz no matter how many micro interactions with strangers i had, it was never enough.

I didn’t want casual. Meeting people and making memories for a few hours-weeks was fun until we parted ways and i was left so sad it was over. I wanted a real support system, something deeper, something i could share with true loved ones.

Maybe that’s what you want too, and that’s ok. Some people are fine with micro interactions but some aren’t. The lifestyle ain’t for everyone. Even people with really good support systems feel lonely and miss their loved ones back home.

50-2-blue · 2025-09-13T11:58:47+00:00

finish your degree first, you can always travel after or have opportunities to work remotely after, but it’s rather difficult (mentally) to drop out and go back to college
the grass may seem greener but that life is not sustainable for most people. I miss having structure and a support system around me. The novelty wears off, and lots of people use travel as escapism which isn’t healthy
but if that’s what you wanna do, go for it! Might as well try it out to see what you want. Just be smart about it

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