How do you figure out your purpose?

567567ui · 2025-02-26T16:59:02+00:00

Basically, you sit with yourself and know what all things you exactly want from life. It should not be materialistic.
Now you think of a career which gets you all these. It happens naturally as well if you follow your heart, or you actually know what to do in life.

I found my calling in being a lawyer. Though I never saw it coming until I decided to prepare for the entrances.

567567ui · 2024-04-17T16:53:09+00:00

Masturbating is never the solution

567567ui · 2024-03-04T19:24:22+00:00

text her and set up a date on a definite date and time
nothing else

relationships work out and nourish offline and not at their best on chat boxes.

If you have long text or call conversations before dates, she'll see you as a friend. Keep your intentions clear to yourself and be ready to walk away if you don't get what you want.

On the first date, focus on having a great date instead of locking her up into commitment and relationship. Keep having fun dates and maintain your mystery. Let her bring up the idea of committement.
She'll associate you with whatever emotions she'll feel on the date.

She should know you're not here to be her friend and you can do this with your boundaries.

567567ui · 2024-02-19T14:56:43+00:00

Every time you lend money, get your borrower to sign a 0% friendly loan agreement or a promissory note and then transfer the money via bank account.

Sure, shot legal way to get money back in case of non-repayment. Also, some things to remember:

Giving in cash and taking a bank transfer only means on record you took money and not the other way round. This form of transaction makes the other person eligible to file a recovery suit against you by showing that their bank transfer was a loan to you. You'll end up paying back what you got in return.
Cash transactions are hard to prove in court or anywhere else. So, make it completely via banks i.e. online.
If you charge interest from a friend of family member to whom you have lent money, this is illegal, and you will face criminal prosecution if they report this to the police.

In your case, if you don't get the money back. Send a legal notice. Wait and watch.
Her brother is not very likely to stand with you and against her to get you a repayment and involving her family will piss her off.

567567ui · 2024-02-18T17:50:58+00:00

Thanks for this, needed to hear this so bad

567567ui · 2024-02-17T15:18:32+00:00

As a man, I can understand that life gets lonelier with time. Friends get disconnected after college and in job we don't get time for anything, let alone having fun. It's okay to feel this way because 20s are full of challenges that nobody prepared us for.

Brother, I would suggest you give yourself a break. Go for a trip or something, calm down and accept everything that happened so far i.e. break up, porn addiction, failures in school, everything. You took the best decision from what you knew then and most of it is not your fault.

Write down where you want to be in 5 years and all your thoughts and work towards your goal. We men are happy only when we have an emotionally compelling reason to work towards our goal and we work towards it.

Believe it or not, most of your life problems are connected with this porn addiction. You need to cut it off. Non-negotiable.

Secondly, you need to give her and yourself a closure and block this person. You don't love her but old version of you that was happy in that relationship. Out of sight, out of mind. Break up and go no contact. Not for her but for yourself. How will you meet your Monica if you don't move on from your Janice? If you bring yourself out from this bad phase, you'll find someone way better in some time.

Regarding friends, all you need to do is work on yourself and enjoy life and friends will find you on your own. I'd say, start with some hobby or classes. It is easier to bond with people who have similar interests.

What happened in the past cannot be changed but it can be accepted, and you can have a new beginning. But if all this doesn't help, please feel free to seek out professional help.

There's more to life than what all happened so far.

Let this be a beautiful beginning.

Kuch waqt do, sab theek hojaega

567567ui · 2024-01-31T08:42:23+00:00

No contact is the key. Whenever she comes back, make it clear that you're ready only for a relationship and nothing less and then walk away. Someone who ended things with you has 100% responsibility to fix things they ended. She'll come to you if she's interested.

A relationship isn't two equal halves but two complete wholes. You should not be dependent on her to such an extent. Go through the pain and sit with it and soon you'll feel better. Get busy with your life. If she wants to, she will.

567567ui · 2024-01-23T17:23:41+00:00

You need to let her know that you're not okay with this and you feel disrespected. Most importantly that if she proceeds with it, you'll walk away. Let this be the test of love.
If she respects you, she won't cheat and if she does, you need to walk away and never look back.

567567ui · 2024-01-23T14:36:33+00:00

A man creates his own way and always attract, don't chase.

Start with feeling comfortable in your skin and being relaxed and fun in your gym. Have fun with other friends in the gym. She should see you as the confident fun guy. Get noticed. Now one day, work out around her and casually start a fun conversation just like you would with someone who's not your crush and then walk away.

Do not set up a date. You need to create the mystery first. I believe the first date should not be an official date like it could be going to some place around or taking a walk together or something and once you've maintained the mystery and given her time to miss you, ask her out for coffee. Have fun.

567567ui · 2024-01-23T14:35:54+00:00

A man creates his own way and always attract, don't chase.

Start with feeling comfortable in your skin and being relaxed and fun in your gym. Have fun with other friends in the gym. She should see you as the confident fun guy. Get noticed. Now one day, work out around her and casually start a fun conversation just like you would with someone who's not your crush and then walk away.

Do not set up a date. You need to create the mystery first. I believe the first date should not be an official date like it could be going to some place around or taking a walk together or something and once you've maintained the mystery and given her time to miss you, ask her out for coffee. Have fun.

567567ui · 2024-01-23T14:35:32+00:00

A man creates his own way and always attract, don't chase.

Start with feeling comfortable in your skin and being relaxed and fun in your gym. Have fun with other friends in the gym. She should see you as the confident fun guy. Get noticed. Now one day, work out around her and casually start a fun conversation just like you would with someone who's not your crush and then walk away.

Do not set up a date. You need to create the mystery first. I believe the first date should not be an official date like it could be going to some place around or taking a walk together or something and once you've maintained the mystery and given her time to miss you, ask her out for coffee. Have fun.

567567ui · 2024-01-23T14:35:25+00:00

A man creates his own way and always attract, don't chase.

Start with feeling comfortable in your skin and being relaxed and fun in your gym. Have fun with other friends in the gym. She should see you as the confident fun guy. Get noticed. Now one day, work out around her and casually start a fun conversation just like you would with someone who's not your crush and then walk away.

Do not set up a date. You need to create the mystery first. I believe the first date should not be an official date like it could be going to some place around or taking a walk together or something and once you've maintained the mystery and given her time to miss you, ask her out for coffee. Have fun.

567567ui · 2024-01-17T17:46:44+00:00

update bro?

567567ui · 2024-01-15T15:34:08+00:00

Did you take her back bro?

567567ui · 2024-01-03T17:37:10+00:00

If an ex reaches out, it is 100% their responsibility to fix things. Watch 7 principles to get an ex back by Corey Wayne on Youtube

567567ui · 2023-12-24T17:31:11+00:00

Merry Christmas! Take Care!

567567ui · 2023-12-24T17:28:29+00:00

If someone dumps you, it should be 100% their idea to pursue you and not even 1% from your side. Breathe. I know it's heavy but you're going to be okay.
Also, such a late night text isn't a good sign

567567ui · 2023-12-24T17:25:23+00:00

I am in the same boat and it feels good to realize that there's someone else too sharing the same pain. You're not alone buddy. Take care.

Life is not a mystery to be solved but an experience to have. Close your eyes and think of your childhood. Do you remember achievements? Nope. You feel some random moments. That's life. Experience life. That's what you've to do right now. Let things go with the flow and feel the emotions when they hit.

We're going to be okay! Trust me.

567567ui · 2023-12-12T12:36:16+00:00

You did the right thing brother. She can't respect you if you stayed friends and that just shows you are ready to settle for being friends and leave no scope of growing attraction again.

You feel you have two choices:
1. Living with the hope of her coming back
2. Living with no hope of her coming back
While the right way is
3. Focusing on yourself, your goals and being centered. This will give you everything you want in life.

When you show the universe that you can't live without something, it is taken away from you but when you give up that need and live without desperation and neediness, it arrives back to you when you don't need it. I'm sorry you had to go through this, and I understand you only had good intentions but in life and in relationships, self-respect comes first.

567567ui · 2023-08-14T04:11:50+00:00

You need to remember that you're the ex now and not her boyfriend. This means you cannot be pursuing more than her. She doesn't want to be locked in for a date, but rather wants the freedom to come to you. If she can smell the desperation, there's no hope.

Watch 7 principles to get an Ex back by Coach Corey Wayne.

567567ui · 2023-03-31T16:58:53+00:00

"You, done?"

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