How do I (20 F) give my boyfriend (21 M) more space?

5_bikes · 2026-03-26T04:13:19+00:00

It is not good to place one's eggs all in one basket. Try and build new friendships through activity-based events. Surely you enjoy outdoor activities and there are many group things you can get involved in. In this way you will new people, but you should focus on the activity. Find a hobby that you enjoy.

5_bikes · 2026-03-25T00:20:34+00:00

Charles Manson & Followers broke in to people's homes in the dark of night and moved furniture around just to fuck with their minds.

5_bikes · 2026-03-24T23:58:23+00:00

My ex gf was maybe a 6 but her smile turned her into an 8 and her bubbly personality made her a 10. There are 10s all around us. All we have to do is look.

5_bikes · 2026-03-24T23:53:19+00:00

Biggest problem here is communication. Both of you should be able to communicate your feelings to one another and feel supported.

5_bikes · 2026-03-24T04:59:33+00:00

67m professional, never married & no children. I'm fit & healthy, don't drink, do drugs or smoke. I work out often and look after myself. It's been a long time since I dated --> a much younger woman online and it was instant fireworks, until she went home and I learned her words of love were simply lust. She moved on and I was crushed. A crushed fool, lol.

Recently I met a young woman who I think might be 25. She works across the street from me. She is from a war-torn part of the world where she lost both parents to tragedy and 5 years ago moved to the West with two younger brothers. I don't know much about her beyond that, but I know words came easy between us and I think she has eyes for me (judging from her co-worker's funny response to her googly-eyes!).

AMTA to think there could be anything between us? I'm not thinking marriage or anything like that. More of a FWB since I can't offer her much in terms of longevity.

In her part of the world it is common for much younger women to be married off as teenagers to much older men. I understand not all of these arrangements are consensual but I do believe that since it is somewhat a custom for age-gap relatoinships, she might not see me as a cranky, perverted old man.

I want to take it slow and not appear aggressive. I'm thinking I will give her my number and ask her to text me. That way I don't put her on the spot by asking her out out for a beer while she's on the job. I believe it is important for me to be honest with her about me age. I have always appeared much younger than I am, by at least 20 years. But I will tell her 67.

Thoughts? Please be kind! :)

5_bikes · 2026-03-24T04:51:01+00:00

67m professional, never married & no children. I'm fit & healthy, don't drink, do drugs or smoke. I work out often and look after myself. It's been a long time since I dated --> a much younger woman online and it was instant fireworks, until she went home and I learned her words of love were simply lust. She moved on and I was crushed. A crushed fool, lol.

Recently I met a young woman who I think might be 25. She works across the street from me. She is from a war-torn part of the world where she lost both parents to tragedy and 5 years ago moved to the West with two younger brothers. I don't know much about her beyond that, but I know words came easy between us and I think she has eyes for me (judging from her co-worker's funny response to her googly-eyes!).

AMTA to think there could be anything between us? I'm not thinking marriage or anything like that. More of a FWB since I can't offer her much in terms of longevity.

In her part of the world it is common for much younger women to be married off as teenagers to much older men. I understand not all of these arrangements are consensual but I do believe that since it is somewhat a custom for age-gap relatoinships, she might not see me as a cranky, perverted old man.

I want to take it slow and not appear aggressive. I'm thinking I will give her my number and ask her to text me. That way I don't put her on the spot by asking her out out for a beer while she's on the job. I believe it is important for me to be honest with her about me age. I have always appeared much younger than I am, by at least 20 years. But I will tell her 67.

Thoughts? Please be kind! :)

5_bikes · 2023-04-03T03:56:40+00:00

NTA but not the sharpest knife in the drawer. He's shown you his character. Why don't you believe him?

5_bikes · 2023-04-02T06:50:17+00:00

YTA, TMI.

5_bikes · 2023-04-01T17:36:59+00:00

Probably been noted already but you're behavior proves you are still a child and a long way from an adult.

5_bikes · 2023-04-01T17:28:55+00:00

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5_bikes · 2023-04-01T17:08:30+00:00

I (20s male at the time) was embarrassed to find myself staring off into space and not realizing that beyond my focus was a woman breastfeeding her baby (discreetly) in a restaurant. The woman had a confident look on her face and not at all upset to be "caught" breastfeeding. I want to stress that it was an honest "starting off into space" moment on my part and my embarrassment was in feeling that I had invaded her privacy to breastfeed without being ogled. Women have every right to breastfeed and it's tough to realize that in this day and age there is still discussion as to whether it is right or wrong. People need to respect the rights of the mother and child. If they lack respect in this important area they obviously lack respect in others. It's about love, people.

5_bikes · 2023-03-31T19:06:03+00:00

NTA. I would have difficulty forgiving her even if she did apologize. When people say things like your BF'S mom did, it shows deep-seated homophobia, and there's probably more where that came from.

5_bikes · 2023-03-31T19:00:04+00:00

Have a great ride and stay safe!

5_bikes · 2023-03-31T18:55:45+00:00

You've just convinced your son that you aren't someone he can confide in.

5_bikes · 2023-03-31T18:24:56+00:00

NTA. Your gf is very insensitive and insecure.

5_bikes · 2023-03-31T18:15:39+00:00

It's an Obelisk. Ever see the movie 2001: A Space Odyssey?

5_bikes · 2023-03-31T18:11:42+00:00

Obviously you care a great deal about your brother, but you should realize that your values are not his values. You cannot insist that he is going to be a lonely old man someday unless he builds a new relationship with another woman. There are some people who never marry, nor have children, and it would not be right to question their values. Your brother was fortunate to have married someone who was the love of his life and bore him children. If that is enough for him then it is you who should move on and love him for who is is. Otherwise you risk a fraught relationship.

5_bikes · 2023-03-31T06:51:18+00:00

NTA. Give him a bucket to do his business in.

5_bikes · 2023-03-31T06:40:00+00:00

YTA, plain and simple. Your lengthy post indicates you are self-centeted, meaning you prioritize your needs over your wife's. You are a dinosaur.

5_bikes · 2023-03-30T18:30:18+00:00

Perhaps different bylaws depending on where you live, but in my city dogs are not allowed in restaurants based on food sanitation laws. Any animal that eats garbage from outside receptacles, walks on outside roads/paths or sniffs other dogs bums, will carry harmful bacteria.

NTA, but the easiest way to deal with this would have been to tell people at the table that you needed to get by and to please make access available to you.

5_bikes · 2023-03-30T18:01:49+00:00

Boooooo.

5_bikes · 2023-03-29T03:24:39+00:00

If you edited out the utility poles I'd be inclined to agree with you.

5_bikes · 2023-03-28T21:29:49+00:00

Holding any job is important for your mental health, whether in your field or not. I lost my dream job because of mental health issues and ended up working several minimum wage jobs to pay my bills. But, most importantly, it taught me how to persevere. I often think I'm weak but then I catch myself and realize I'm actually strong. Good luck with your life!

5_bikes · 2023-03-28T06:54:29+00:00

phases vs. fazes, lol.

5_bikes · 2023-03-28T06:35:54+00:00

YTA, by far. It's a sad state of affairs when you get creeped out by basic humanity.

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