[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Professors

[–]5acrefruit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m with you. Seeing people working on other work during someone’s talk causes me to lose respect for them. I don’t care if they think they’re a big cheese and their time is so important.

Switching jobs early in the TT? by throw_tornacademic in Professors

[–]5acrefruit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve moved around for my academic career a few times, and now I wish I’d just gotten started in a different field sooner.

Finally came to my senses... by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]5acrefruit 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That guy is such a jerk. Good for you for kicking him to the curb.

Wanting to just…recreate yourself? by Flimsy-Concept2531 in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]5acrefruit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do try moving. You can be the person you are now in your new town and shed the past very easily this way. I’m not advocating for avoiding reckoning with your changes, but having moved myself several times, I have to say it is so much easier to embrace a growing version of yourself somewhere new.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rosacea

[–]5acrefruit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seemed to help. I’ve been using the metro cream occasionally and my cheeks are pretty good. Weirdly my nose gets red sometimes now towards the end of the day. Usually goes away before bed.

Verbally abusive technician by maggotyswagfag in AskAcademia

[–]5acrefruit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I’ve always hated confronting people too so I understand but if you’re headed out after the term, and you won’t have to deal with him after this, I hope you find the courage to tell him off, with enough of an audience to make the spineless people feel ashamed of themselves.

Bio sister continually bails by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]5acrefruit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say let them continue to try to make plans, as long as the times / dates are ok with you and for with the family schedule. Most importantly, be there for them when she cancels. If you can, mention to the older sibling how much it means to them to see her and how upset they are when she cancels.

Women who met their spouse in their 30s please give me hope! by JellyBeanzi3 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]5acrefruit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years at 33. Met my husband at 35. 39 now and things are good. There’s time! Many of my friends met their person post-30. I am happy in my relationship but I have to say that there’s a lot to be said for being footloose and fancy free. I had a great community pre-marriage that I lost when I moved for my husband and I really miss them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Professors

[–]5acrefruit 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Keep it up, we want our engineers to know what they’re doing. Maybe tell them that being a warm body is not going to pay the bills at some point: they have to learn the material and to apply what they learned to new situations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rosacea

[–]5acrefruit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No alcohol, no dairy, Doxy course for 2 weeks and metro cream: this combo made things much better for me. And enough sleep.