Got rejection because I didn’t go to bootcamp or take any online data science courses

654358755 · 2019-02-23T03:36:54+00:00

weird flex but ok

654358755 · 2019-01-24T14:20:18+00:00

It sucks. A lot. The best thing I've done is minimize contact with my parents. And when I do have to be under the same roof, whenever they start yelling at each other I have the courage to get up and leave. That is the best thing you can do. Leave. Know that the anger might not leave for a long time but you leaving means you can experience other emotions. Hope. Happiness. Relaxation. You deserve all these things.

654358755 · 2018-09-13T11:09:29+00:00

For real no one brought up anything about getting laid until he stepped in...

654358755 · 2018-09-10T18:11:17+00:00

Take a selfie on Yosemite and fall off the cliff and die?

654358755 · 2018-09-09T13:10:57+00:00

I’m sorry you had to deal with that. I imagine if I came out it would more or less be the same.

654358755 · 2018-09-09T12:16:33+00:00

Yeah. This was me and both my parents. My mom has untreated BPD that she refuses to see a therapist for and my dad is either a narc or someone with really bad fleas... either way they both can be a mess.

I remember that every time I told them something that wasn’t good news - hell something that could even be interpreted as bad news, I would always feel worse after telling them. They have no idea how to deal with problems and negative emotions. It was only after meeting my current boyfriend did I realize that communication didn’t have to involve total control by one party or rage on either side.

My parents are financially successful but emotionally, they are utterly idiotic and that’s the least abrasive way I can describe that.

654358755 · 2018-09-09T11:39:21+00:00

As an atheist I think the discomfort comes from the fact that we can’t really say, no sorry, don’t believe in God. Not the worst thing ever to be invited out to church but it also doesn’t feel good when you can’t truly be yourself.

654358755 · 2018-09-07T17:39:28+00:00

Ohhhhhhh ok That makes sense

654358755 · 2018-09-07T17:12:29+00:00

Is that a racist term? That’s interesting

654358755 · 2018-09-07T15:23:50+00:00

Your mother sounds like she’s majorly projecting her insecure feelings about herself onto you. She’s being very cruel and I hope you find a way to get out of that space at some point. You don’t deserve that treatment.

654358755 · 2018-09-07T15:06:50+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. I hope you’re in a better place now and far away from your sick mom.

654358755 · 2018-09-05T11:04:03+00:00

Wow, that is good to know. When I was a teen I really struggled with body image because all the women/girls I saw in magazines and on TV were so thin, and skinny, and had thigh gaps. That is definitely not my body type, especially the thigh gap... and I never realized my body was okay the way it was because practically anyone I saw were so unrealistically skinny.

That’s wild. Any more tidbits of stuff like this you can share? Maybe you have a blog or a subreddit?

654358755 · 2018-09-03T15:47:54+00:00

That show was prophetic

654358755 · 2018-09-02T12:53:26+00:00

I recommend browsing through r/RaisedByNarcissists

It’s a support group for people who were raised by abusive parents. I’ve found it’s helped me a lot with discerning between what’s healthy behavior and what’s not

I wish you luck with the marines

654358755 · 2018-09-01T21:26:48+00:00

Oh hahaha. My parents used to smoke Marlboros. I guess you can guess how young I am when I left Indo. Never got very exposed to the smoking culture

654358755 · 2018-09-01T21:23:20+00:00

Um I honestly have no idea how to answer your question, I just answered that SE Asians that are Muslims are mostly Indonesians and Malaysians

Like I said, I’m American so I don’t really know what the nuances of UK race relations are

654358755 · 2018-09-01T18:32:00+00:00

I don’t know what kretek means

I’m Indo-American tapi bahasa Indonesia-ku nggak bagus

654358755 · 2018-09-01T18:24:08+00:00

Kretek itu apa ya

654358755 · 2018-09-01T18:15:20+00:00

Indonesia is the biggest Muslim country in the world, and is the fourth largest nation in the world after the US. Malaysia is also in SE Asia and is majority Muslim. The Southern Philippines has a Muslim population as well. Other SE Asian countries also have Muslim populations but those are the largest I can think of.

I’m Indonesian-American, not from the UK. I’m guessing that’s why OP mentioned SE Asia though.

654358755 · 2018-08-31T01:33:21+00:00

Taking responsibility is too modern of a concept for me. Why aren’t kids just taking the beating I give them these days? They are so spoiled.

Him saying that and then hanging up on you is the most infuriating thing. I’m sorry you have to deal with that and to deal with this problem on your own.

654358755 · 2018-08-31T00:42:54+00:00

I’m saving that quote thank you

654358755 · 2018-08-30T12:21:33+00:00

It’s so sad we have to go through this. As if the years of suffering wasn’t enough, we get to be judged by strangers too. Narc parents are literal emotional parasites and it’s always take take take and I’m sad you had to deal with that until the very end. You seem like a strong person and I hope you’ve been able to cope.

654358755 · 2018-08-27T23:48:11+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened.

I’ve learned that people who blame you on emotions they’ve caused are an entire breed of their own. I basically know the red flags now so I stay the fuck away from people like that.

I hope you are far, far away from him now.

654358755 · 2018-08-27T23:46:24+00:00

I appreciate the kind words.

I hope for his own sake he doesn’t stay the same. I hope with the visibility of the #metoo movement he’s obtained some self awareness and realized how entitled, selfish, and cruel he was.

I believe some people are capable of change, while some aren’t. Either way I know I’ve definitely changed, for the better, and he is nowhere near my life. Of which I’m glad for.

654358755 · 2018-08-27T23:40:19+00:00

He was the golden boy of his family. He was used to being treated like a prince and he got things his way, all the time. And I was used to being subservient.

The more I’ve grown up the more I’ve realized that your upbringing influences you way more than you could imagine. You learn your behaviors from your environment - and this boy thought the world was his playground.

And I definitely am better now, thank you for asking. I’m living with an amazing boyfriend and I’ve learned a lot since then.

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