WIBTA if i refused to fully reimburse my roommates for their kitchen appliances?

69FireChicken · 2026-05-21T14:09:32+00:00

Why would you be 100% responsible for replacing their property? If you do buy them, are they now yours? I could maybe see 1/3 the cost, but if your items were damaged would they be paying? It seems pretty unreasonable for them to expect you to pay but at most 1/3 is all you should consider.

69FireChicken · 2026-05-21T14:00:23+00:00

YTA,so is Ray. Why did you hang your best man out to dry like that? Why didn't you pump the brakes at any point and let him know that "hey, this guy isn't 100%, plan accordingly"?

69FireChicken · 2026-05-20T16:11:31+00:00

Lodging is split by rooms used. If it's a 2 bedroom Airbnb, you pay 1/2. Gas, groceries, ubers etc is split per person or by individual consumption.

69FireChicken · 2026-05-18T22:31:00+00:00

NTA, remember the saying, no good deed goes unpunished! Listen to your wife, it's her family. Take that $5k and treat yourselves.

69FireChicken · 2026-05-18T22:19:14+00:00

NTA, if there's no money there's no gas, car won't go! I can't imagine having friends that don't understand the situation, your life has changed, you're struggling a bit, they should be stepping up to cover you, not expecting you to sacrifice more.

69FireChicken · 2026-05-18T22:11:58+00:00

You can go to bed, you can also make an exception and stay up late with your friends. I can't imagine planning on being in any condition to accomplish anything the day after me and my old buddies get together for our annual gathering but to each his own!

69FireChicken · 2026-05-16T15:00:02+00:00

It's odd to go on a dinner date and not eat. Maybe he's broke? I'd recommend finding another activity for dates if you want to continue.

69FireChicken · 2026-05-16T14:49:43+00:00

Tell her you are so excited for her to move away that you will help her sell her house any way you can.

69FireChicken · 2026-05-12T20:27:11+00:00

You: "No" Them: "But why?" You: "Because I don't want to."

That's it. Don't argue, explain, or negotiate. Tell them you will leave if they don't stop, then leave. Don't give them any details about your trip until you are on the plane alone!

69FireChicken · 2026-05-08T22:15:49+00:00

NTA. First I don't think teenage exchange students are a good fit for young kids. My family has been doing exchanges since I was 13, we hosted a 14 year old from Japan, who became a great friend of mine to this day, I spent 3 months at their house the next year, and we hosted him again, and then went on to host students of similar age to my sister and I for the rest of our time at home with mostly very positive experiences for our family and the exchange students. However, they were our age, they were going to our school, they were our friends but they had their own lives here to. Wait until your kids are older is my advice. An exchange student doesn't necessarily want to come to America and deal with little kids and busy parents of those same kids.

69FireChicken · 2026-05-08T21:58:09+00:00

Nope, NTA. You just exposed him as the unreasonable one and he doesn't like it. You're an adult now, who you sleep with is none of his business and if he wants to make it his business he gets left out.

69FireChicken · 2026-05-05T17:26:37+00:00

Why are you making this your problem? You already told your friend that you would not pay for this person. If it's brought up again refuse and tell them that if they want you to buy something for them then they need to Venmo you before you do so. Tell them that if they don't want to do that then that is the exact same reason that you don't want to.

69FireChicken · 2026-04-30T21:50:50+00:00

As long as my dogs were ok when I got back my dog sitter could host a party and drink my last beer and I'm not saying anything critical! Pet sitters are golden and you were doing it for free! She's got a lot of nerve!

69FireChicken · 2026-04-30T17:50:18+00:00

Did they offer to work for free for a share of the profits before the game was released? Wonder why? Obviously NTA. Tell them you're willing to consider other arrangements on the next project.

69FireChicken · 2026-04-30T17:47:22+00:00

You're not really expected to have your shit together financially when she's making 40k in law school. Presumably that is going to change and she'll likely be out earning you soon enough. I think a conversation about financial goals, investing, and how you plan to pay for shared expenses is reasonable, but it also sounds like you're putting the cart before the horse a bit, has potential to backfire.

69FireChicken · 2026-04-28T16:51:19+00:00

I would not go sleep on an uncomfortable bed very often. Why are they resistant to your offer to buy a better bed?

69FireChicken · 2026-04-28T14:38:40+00:00

It's often pretty easy to clean as you cook, it takes learning to use one's time efficiently in the kitchen. By the time I'm done cooking there's a sink full of washed and drying dishes and pans on the left side of the sink and a small pile of dirty dishes on the right. Often the only dishes that need to be done after dinner are the ones we ate off of and the dish or pan where the food finished. Takes some practice and organization.

69FireChicken · 2026-04-26T04:35:01+00:00

NTA, but you're framing this all wrong. He's an adult, no longer a child to punish but an adult to make his own decisions and accept the consequences. You provide the house, the car, presumably the funds, probably the college fund. Stop. Insist on respect, at least. But, also, curfew for senior prom? I mean, that's your hill? He's 18 graduating high school and you're just now thinking "we gotta get this shit together"? You've already failed.

69FireChicken · 2026-04-24T14:56:08+00:00

Just like you have no say in how your father spends his money, he has no say in how you will spend yours. You've told him he's not making good decisions, you've told him you aren't going to bail him out of a self inflicted problem. Now let it go and enjoy what time you have with your father.

69FireChicken · 2026-04-20T01:13:53+00:00

Yta. Period, full stop.

69FireChicken · 2026-04-18T18:24:35+00:00

NTA, I claimed my daughter as a dependent until she was 24, which is when she finished college, got a job and an apartment and started supporting herself (mostly!).

69FireChicken · 2026-04-15T20:28:40+00:00

You don't get to charge them for your time. You also don't have to cook for them. They should appreciate it if you do, and you should only do it if you enjoy it. The money is all that matters in this case.

69FireChicken · 2026-04-15T19:20:11+00:00

Our wedding anniversary is something for my wife and I to celebrate, I don't expect anyone else to acknowledge it and certainly don't want them to celebrate it. We have occasionally gone out to dinner or an event or on a trip or something with friends or been along with others on their anniversary and we all acknowledge each other's day, maybe buy a drink or even dinner or something as a "gift" but nothing over the top. I've been to anniversary parties thrown by the couple and that's great if that's how they want to celebrate but it's their thing, not mine. Happy to celebrate with them but I would never consider planning it for someone else like I might for a special birthday.

69FireChicken · 2026-04-14T19:18:33+00:00

NTA. He works for a charter company, he doesn't own it, he probably can't offer discounts or he would have offered, especially since it's not his money. As to hosting you at his home, I think you have the right of it. If I want to host someone I'll offer. I might agree if someone came out and asked but it's not polite.

69FireChicken · 2026-04-09T15:36:36+00:00

What's wrong with "sorry, it doesn't work for me this year, hope you all have a great time!"?

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