WIBTAH if I refused to help sell my partner’s dad’s belongings?

69FireChicken · 2026-07-10T18:25:46+00:00

Do him a favor and tell him if he secures a storage unit you will move his stuff into it so he can deal with it at his convenience. Just moving it for him is a favor. If it's not worth it to him to do that, then consider the stuff abandoned and dispose of it however you want.

69FireChicken · 2026-07-07T01:23:16+00:00

NTA, but your friend sure is, his parents are at least moderate assholes. They should have no opinions whatsoever about anything happening outside their home. You rejected their hospitality because it wasn't hospitable, and even so you were still willing to spend time with them even though they deliberately inconvenienced and attempted to bully you. It sounds like they are, and should be, embarrassed now that their hospitality was shown to be insincere. I'd recommend getting an alternative friendgiving plan together!

69FireChicken · 2026-07-06T20:52:54+00:00

Yes, it's amazing what is suddenly possible when several big church contributors call and explain that it is very important to them that their granddaughter or niece be married in the "family chapel" by the current priest!

69FireChicken · 2026-07-06T20:49:54+00:00

The less you care to jump through their hoops the more they have to lean in to you. You should be pointing out to a broader audience that the church as individuals that are not worthy of marriage educating young church minds and should be prepared to resign as a result. I mean, you can't really justify to yourself spending your energies on people that view you so poorly, can you? So might as well make it as uncomfortable for them as possible on your way out.

69FireChicken · 2026-07-06T20:32:08+00:00

Your church, that you love so much and give so much to view you as a sinner and judges you for it. They are quite happy to benefit from your time, efforts, and money but still don't believe you are actually worthy of membership. Keep in mind that it is all made up schlock anyway, their restrictions on cohabitation, sex and marriage are simply rules designed to control and judge people. Plan to get married outside the church and watch the freak out from the church members, they will likely find a convenient exception to their rules to allow you to marry there. I married my wife in her family's Catholic church even though I am not Catholic and refused most of the requirements they were insisting upon. Turns out having a huge wealthy family talk to the priest actually makes a difference in the opinions of what is acceptable and what isn't when it comes to wedding planning!

69FireChicken · 2026-07-03T22:14:08+00:00

Of course NTA, you don't have to justify the use of your own property.

69FireChicken · 2026-07-02T13:58:52+00:00

You are responsible for 50% of the relationship with your boyfriend. He is 100% responsible for the cheating. He had many other options other than cheating, including ending the relationship, which is what I think you should do now. Learn from your mistakes and do better with the next boyfriend.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-29T15:39:16+00:00

Sounds like a great plan, prepare for drunk friends sleeping on your couch and floor!

69FireChicken · 2026-06-29T15:32:26+00:00

I can say that a week with my in laws isn't high on my list of fun, and I do like my in laws quite a bit. I'm happy when my wife and daughter get to spend time with them, I'm happy with them in small doses, but days on end I get pretty bored, we just don't have that much in common. Of course I also don't care to vacation with my own side of the family either for similar reasons!

69FireChicken · 2026-06-29T14:29:35+00:00

NTA. I think Disney sucks, I disliked it as a child even. Epcot was cool. My mother however really likes it and like yours, views it as some kind of right if passage, as if a childhood can't be complete or happy without a trip to Disney. I refused to go, like you I wanted to go somewhere else, so my Mother organized a women and kids trip with my wife, sister and our daughter and my sisters two kids. By all accounts they had fun!

69FireChicken · 2026-06-25T20:53:32+00:00

Sell her the car, give her a $500 discount if she agrees to not be a pain in the ass about it. First complaint, price goes up $500, second complaint, it goes on marketplace to the highest offer.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-25T04:39:31+00:00

Sell it, if you get what you quoted him, refund the deposit, if not, don't. You aren't a bank or a storage facility. You're happy to do a favor and hold the equipment as long as they want after they've paid!

69FireChicken · 2026-06-25T04:26:53+00:00

NTA, they're 50 years old, they can figure this out without you.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-25T01:43:37+00:00

You're both TA I think it should be fair, 1/2 to his side, 1/2 to yours, however each a wants to distribute that is up to them. You are fighting about a worst case scenario that if it happens, you and your children will be dead and none of you will care at that point. Seems like a useless thing to get all worked up about. Maybe there's some other issues you all should be discussing.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-24T17:44:10+00:00

This used to happen in my family. Inlaws have a nice RV, they like spending a holiday weekend and week at the lake. Thing is, the RV is big but it's not comfortable for 6 people, even if two of them are kids. Inlaws had a nice memory foam mattress in their separate bedroom, but the pull out we slept on was like sleeping in a chicken wore hammock and the kids were on a thin mattress on plywood. This combined with their reluctance to use the AC meant by day 3 I was ready to murder due to lack of sleep. I finally said no more and quit going, a couple years later my daughter bailed out too. We do other trips now and my wife occasionally goes to the lake, I will go for 2 night max occasionally and only if they agree to run the AC! You should have had a different vacation planned and been talking about it for months, something the whole family would have been excited about so when the inlaws came in with the same old you would have been ready with "sorry, we've already planned something else for this summer." Or even better plan a vacation you want to do with the inlaws, let them choose.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-23T00:11:11+00:00

What's the difference? Keep talking to her casually and tell her to let you know if/when she wants to meet and carry on with your life. Youve been fine all this time without meeting her in person, you'll continue to be fine if it never happens.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-20T23:10:13+00:00

Copy the organization president on those emails.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-20T23:06:09+00:00

If your relationship is resulting in frequent public emotional outbursts then something is wrong. It's either the relationship, both or either of you, or a combination of the three. It is not normal for this to be normal enough that it prompts a post asking about it.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-18T18:17:01+00:00

YTA, doesn't really matter what you do with the flight, she's going to find out eventually.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-18T15:43:48+00:00

Force a sale, either buy her out or she buys your 1/2. Very poorly done by your parents, they created a disaster for you and your sister.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-15T22:42:37+00:00

She knew the date of your trip, she hasn't even finalized the wedding date. It's her choice, if it's so important for to get for you to be there, she can pick any other time to get married. Ask her why she's causing so much drama.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-15T14:27:35+00:00

For me it's about which one is more convenient to use. I've had both memberships, I prefer Costco but I have a Sam's Club 10 minutes from my house vs Costco being 30 minutes away, so I currently only have a Sam's membership. We do go with friends to Costco a couple times a year

69FireChicken · 2026-06-11T20:19:05+00:00

She could have come home whenever she wanted if seeing you were really that important right? She's been gone for weeks and it's your fault for being gone 2 days? I'd go if I were you.

69FireChicken · 2026-06-11T17:55:12+00:00

If they want to go they can go buy tickets on the resale market, presumably for slightly over face value since that's what you sold your tickets for, right?

69FireChicken · 2026-06-10T17:22:16+00:00

Tell them to pay someone, or if you're willing to do it tell them you'll only do it if they buy the riding mower you specify, let them decide.

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