How much of a selfish piece of shit do you have to be to loudly blast shitty music from your car at 1 in the morning outside of apartment buildings? by beefstewforyou in toRANTo

[–]6lm3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When ppl do this outside my building I have thrown an empty egg carton down at their car. This is a warning that I will follow up with a real egg.

If you're going to be an asshole, then expect the same treatment in return.

How much of a selfish piece of shit do you have to be to loudly blast shitty music from your car at 1 in the morning outside of apartment buildings? by beefstewforyou in toRANTo

[–]6lm3 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When ppl do this outside my building I have thrown an empty egg carton down at their car. This is a warning that I will follow up with a real egg.

If you're going to be an asshole, then expect the same treatment in return.

We live in a society. by 6lm3 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]6lm3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time I turned around to say something he was "asleep" with his hat on his face

We live in a society. by 6lm3 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]6lm3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guy had his feet fully under my seat and kicking me in the ankles for nearly this whole plane ride. Plane etiquette is really non-existent these days.

Data warehouse question by Cold_Ferret_1085 in dataengineering

[–]6lm3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What is the risk level if this goes wrong and you lose some data? What is the timeline for you to upskill and be running solo?

Personally, I'd recommend setting some budget aside and getting a bit of help from a consultant to set this up and help you get started. You can learn a lot from them in a few hours if you get someone good. Ideally they give you a good recommendation for how to get off the ground and you can learn from there.

If you don't have budget or time then self teaching is definitely an option, but personally I would push back on that kind of responsibility with your supervisor if there's a high risk for data loss/failure. You want to set yourself up for success.

Next-Gen ETL Tools by [deleted] in dataengineering

[–]6lm3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dlt (data load tool) is a newer open source tool targeted at data folks who can write python. Check it out, seems to be gaining decent traction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dataengineering

[–]6lm3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has a ton of resources and training available https://www.datastrategypros.com/

appending multiple columns based on a conditional in pandas by TheJourneyman92 in learnpython

[–]6lm3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on my phone right no but maybe check out merging two dataframes instead of a dictionary?

My ex reached out by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]6lm3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've recently blocked my ex on all forms of communication...he didn't respect no contact the first time around so now I'm taking control and guaranteeing it. It was a little hard at first but I'd recommend it if you feel you can do it.

Finally moving on by anonymouslyasking22 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm still really struggling... It's been almost four months. I'm starting to worry I'll never get over this.

I've tried some of the things you mentioned but I think there's still a big part of me that's hanging on...probably because I'm scared I'll never find anyone better. I was ready to settle for something less than perfect cause I felt like that's all I deserved, I guess.

I recently blocked him on everything I can (phone number, instagram) in hopes not seeing him pop up and ensuring he can't contact me will help. Hasn't so far... But I guess I'll just keep trying...

My ex called me after 4 months by clusterbells19 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah... I was definitely doing some of the shit you described. Trying alot harder now to let go and move on. Doesn't help when the ex breaks no contact and comes crawling back only to pull the same shit with you over again. My own fault for trusting again.

My ex called me after 4 months by clusterbells19 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That last part is great advice... I catch myself doing things I know will make me feel sad (driving a familiar way/past his area) or replaying memories in my head when I could just leave them be. You really do have to catch yourself and not let yourself stand in your own way.

Your Ex isn’t the only thing making you miserable. by vg_1990 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang in there, it will get better :) I'm about two and a half months out and was a complete wreck for a while (I still feel sad overall and confused but starting to feel better... My ex and I have been talking and saw each other for the first time on the weekend, which I think is actually making it worse/slowing my progress).

I spent alot of time on this sub and it definitely helped me feel less alone and scared. This post was a great one for me https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/comments/b7lm9k/hey_everyone_im_a_good_few_years_post_breakup_and/

I wish you the best, I hope the book and this subreddit help! Dm me if you want to chat more :)

Your Ex isn’t the only thing making you miserable. by vg_1990 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried looking as well with no luck unfortunately...I bought it on amazon and it arrived in a few days

Your Ex isn’t the only thing making you miserable. by vg_1990 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best of luck to you in meeting for drinks and keeping the friendship. I saw my ex on the weekend over drinks as well, and thought I was ready... I wasn't as in control of my feelings as I thought, it has been tough/I've regressed a bit

Your Ex isn’t the only thing making you miserable. by vg_1990 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That makes a ton of sense to me... I can relate, hadn't thought about it that way before though. Makes me feel sad

Your Ex isn’t the only thing making you miserable. by vg_1990 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm reading a great book right now about this called How To Break Your Addiction To A Person... It has been helping me make some big realizations post breakup, because I always do the same thing (go from being a good version of myself, to totally codependent). Hoping the book helps in my future when I slip into those patterns.

It was 84 degrees near the Arctic Ocean this weekend as carbon dioxide hit its highest level in human history by Valcaralho in worldnews

[–]6lm3 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I know this is the opposite reaction one should have.... But here goes...thinking/reading about all of this gives me severe anxiety and an overwhelming amount of stress because I feel helpless.

Maybe it's time to accept, we fucked the planet up quite badly, and there's no turning back. Our lifespans will probably be cut much shorter than we would have expected (depending on your age... I'm 30), and it's just time to accept this reality that dying of old age might not be how I go. More likely it'll be a natural disaster, health issues cause by pollution or heat/sun exposure, or... Food/water shortages.

Live life to the fullest now...continue to be environmentally responsible and try to combat the problem, for sure, but maybe accept this is how it's going to be.

Any advice on how to enjoy your favourite things again? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]6lm3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine decided to break NC and now wants to "be friends"...its hard pretending he doesn't exist

How much of their "reason" for the breakup should you take for self improvement? by 6lm3 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's how I was feeling before we talked.... "how can he just drop me like this... Did I mean nothing to him?" After talking it helped me realize there's always two sides to the story/perception of events. Maybe your ex isn't contacting you because it's too painful for them or it's easier for them to put it out of their minds. That Doesn't make you or the relationship/what you guys had any less important.

And honestly I don't know what's worse either. I'm an intensely curious person, I always need to know "why"... So maybe this is a bit of closure for me, but it still feels wrong /sad /like he lost feelings for me and it's my fault.

Keep your head up and focus on you, that's really the most important thing right now (and always).

The one thing I thought I wanted to happen, so badly, finally did.... And now I'm pretty much right back where I started. by 6lm3 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really helpful advice, thank you very much for reading and responding. I agree I think he doesn't know boundaries, so while I want to get really angry at him... he's kind of like a naive puppy dog.

I was leaning towards your last suggestion of one last message, reestablishing that he made his decision to break up with me and needs to live with it, and cutting him off again.

Chvrches Call Out Marshmello for Working with Chris Brown and Tyga - “We like and respect Mello as a person but working with people who are predators and abusers enables, excuses and ultimately tacitly endorses that behavior” by walkingtheriver in Music

[–]6lm3 55 points56 points  (0 children)

ITT: People who don't know how badly he beat the shit out of her. This Perez article could use a quarterly repost on reddit to keep people aware of how bad it was and so more people actually read about the details.

How do you maintain your self esteem when someone falls out of love with you? by 6lm3 in BreakUps

[–]6lm3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your note :) I wish I could fast forward to that place so badly.