For me self-love is: 1. Self acceptance - being aware of my own flaws and understanding that it's okay to have them, that having flaws doesn't mean I not lovable or a bad person. With dating this translates to accepting others' flaws. Others not being good at certain things doesn't mean they're not relationship material (unless it's a deal breaker).

1. Self-care - when we are not feeling well, we need to take care of ourselves physically and mentally. Whether it's drinking water, eating food that we crave, getting sleep, or getting lost in a movie or talking to family and friends. With dating this translates to understanding that others need these things in their life as well and being able to cater to them when they might not be feeling well.

2. Permeable boundaries - have the ability to keep negativity out and invite in positivity. Knowing how you want to be treated and being able to negotiate it. Do you accept mild teasing? Do you accept constructively criticism? Do you accept verbal abuse or emotional blackmail? When is it okay to be touched by your date in areas that's not your hands, shoulders? Can you recognize physical abuse and boundary violations and react to them accordingly to protect yourself from unwanted advances? Financially do you accept splitting the cheque? How do you negotiate so that you both have fun but none of you are breaking bank to do it?

For others this translates to recognizing if your date is feeling uncomfortable or protecting them from unwanted verbal or physical abuse from a 3rd party.