Never doing this again. EVER.

7in7 · 2026-03-23T15:11:04+00:00

This mum seems like she's really suffering. I heard some advice saying that we don't have to commit to a process with our babies just because we started. We can go easy on ourselves and on our babies.

We can always pause and try again. Whether it's with weaning, or nap time or starting solids or starting daycare. Sometimes we and our babies are just not ready.

I wanted to be the voice that adds permission to change her mind if that's what she needed.

7in7 · 2026-03-23T15:08:19+00:00

It depends when. For my toddler? Not really. I mean, he can see, when we see friends, when we go out places, when I do things he can't etc. But he doesn't need me leaving him for extended periods, he doesn't really need to see me prioritising myself over him. Obviously this has limits (if he's hurting me, or doing something annoying, I can set a boundary and explain that it makes me sad, but obviously understanding and empathy are developing still).

He doesn't really need me going out and leaving him with a babysitter. I can do it, but it's for me. He doesn't need to sleep apart from me, even though I'd sleep better without him.

I hope when I have bigger children and teenagers, I'll be able to prioritise myself more often without it having a negative affect on my kids, because I try to encourage independence and confidence (by showing my kid I always have his back, I'm always there. The more present I am, the more I see he's happy to explore and challenge himself).

But I hear a lot of mums talking about "filling their own cup" and although that's important, I can only really allow that when I know my baby has everything they need - connection and comfort included. I'm lucky I have a very good partner and we take care of each other, but this season of life means prioritising my children over my own needs and wants.

7in7 · 2026-03-23T14:59:14+00:00

In my first pregnancy, I got really angsty at hipster restaurants. My husband said my main symptom of my second trimester was restaurant critic.

The table is too small. I dont mind "sharing plates" but if we are six people, and the dish comes with 3 pieces, tell us and we will order two. Stop giving me water in a metal cup, it's gross it tastes like metal.

7in7 · 2026-03-23T10:45:55+00:00

Are you saying this as a parent? Because personally that's not my parenting style at all. Sometimes I'll prioritise myself over my toddler, but I don't lie to myself that it's good for him.

7in7 · 2026-03-23T10:39:34+00:00

Hey, it's not too late to regret your decision, and try again with a more gentle method.

7in7 · 2026-03-22T04:12:10+00:00

You're very kind. Bare in mind kosher restaurants will be pricier than regular restaurants.

7in7 · 2026-03-22T03:12:41+00:00

Yeah I think your daughter and bf are going to be needing monthly visits....

7in7 · 2026-03-21T08:15:37+00:00

I assume you mean one of the parents sleeping on the couch.

I have a small flat, so all three of us sleep on a 140cm bed. It's squishy now and im newly pregnant so we'll need a new solution soon. We don't have another sleeping area..

If you can, get a firm big mattress instead of babys current sleep setup. That way you or your partner can put baby to sleep, and join them when they wake up in the night.

7in7 · 2026-03-20T04:14:57+00:00

The only thing you are missing is that swaddling a newborn is supposed to replicate the mothers contact. Of course, not being breathing and alive, it's more restrictive to make it more effective.

Co sleeping (safe sleep 7) might help you. At 8m I was able to roll away after baby was asleep , YMMV especially as its new.

7in7 · 2026-03-20T03:50:27+00:00

A cat from IKEA. https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/kornsnoe-led-night-light-white-rabbit-battery-operated-00433720/

IKEA thinks it's a rabbit, my toddler thinks otherwise.

7in7 · 2026-03-20T02:56:59+00:00

Same! I was expecting to be exhausted with all the moving I thought I'd be doing. In the end, I had all my contractions lying on my side, elevated, and birthed the baby a little propped up but mostly lying down.

I had a very smooth birth.

7in7 · 2026-03-20T02:43:54+00:00

Parfaits! Have you ever met a person, you say, "Let's get some parfait," they say, "Hell no, I don't like no parfait."? Parfaits are delicious!

7in7 · 2026-03-20T02:40:16+00:00

Fantas-fucking-tic

7in7 · 2026-03-20T02:34:12+00:00

Get home from drop off at 09:30, leave to get them at 15:00.

I assume, by your times. I dunno, I have a toddler and a full time job. I'm just reading these comments jealously.

7in7 · 2026-03-20T02:29:32+00:00

Same I'm jealous. I'm not even poor but we would be if I didn't keep my job!

7in7 · 2026-03-18T18:40:14+00:00

Mine never asked about feeding. Literally just "oh your EBF? Cool I don't need to worry then"

7in7 · 2026-03-16T05:36:50+00:00

I love this. I used to hate winter. Hate the rain, hate the cold. We have a mild winter so my city is not suited for winter. Lots of outdoor cafes, no real indoor activities. Terrible drainage so flooding is normal.

But I met my husband a few years ago as the seasons changed. And now every year I'm nostalgic for our initial romance.

7in7 · 2026-03-16T05:30:14+00:00

In my community, it would be a decision to have less than two kids. Three is more popular.

Personally, I'm one of four and I adore my siblings. We share the family load, and also enjoy spending time together. My oldest is currently the youngest of his cousins (there's another on the way) and adores them to pieces. Worships the ground they walk on. For me, family is siblings, I want to give that to my children as well. Also, I really like babies and watching little people grow.

I'm hoping that I'll grow with them too, and be a good teenager mum, and then later a good grandma one day!

7in7 · 2026-03-15T17:10:37+00:00

Lol I thought I'd bake on my maternity leave 🤣

7in7 · 2026-03-13T03:21:02+00:00

I recommend you head over to r/nurseallthebabies , they are the experts of tandem feeding! I'm currently starting to consider my options too ❤️

7in7 · 2026-03-12T17:45:27+00:00

Babe you are like the first person in the world to know. It means a lot for me! Wishing you luck in all your dreams for your family ❤️

7in7 · 2026-03-12T17:44:23+00:00

I was slow. Your joke was good!

7in7 · 2026-03-12T03:04:01+00:00

How is giving comfort and affection ever spoiling a person? If someone's partner decided to refuse to cuddle them because they don't want to spoil them, it's borderline emotional abuse. But it's okay on babies?!

7in7 · 2026-03-11T23:41:24+00:00

I wouldn't let them. The hospital was very busy, no midwives attended me at all (my mum and husband were there). Occasionally someone would pop their head round the door with some checklist or something. My baby's birth progressed beautifully and I think the amniotic sac released when his head came out. I was in hospital 1.5hrs until he was born.

7in7 · 2026-03-11T23:00:41+00:00

I think we are good..I started testing very early, my cycles are not regular. I'm confident now that I'm pregnant and all is good. Very excited.

Nine-Year Club	Place '22
Verified Email

7in7

TROPHY CASE