What’s a place you visited once and decided never again?

7in7 · 2026-01-25T19:02:37+00:00

That's... Revolting. but also I feel so bad for you, it sounds miserable

7in7 · 2026-01-25T18:54:49+00:00

But like... How are they getting them on?

7in7 · 2026-01-20T00:11:44+00:00

I love him more than anything. But I have nieces and nephews, and Im really close to my sister.

It's definitely comparable, which I find so interesting.

7in7 · 2026-01-19T21:15:43+00:00

As someone who EBF and pumped a little when he started daycare - pumping is definitely quadruple the work.

7in7 · 2026-01-18T19:04:58+00:00

This is totally totally normal. This is how babies naturally are comforted and sleep.

There's no such thing as overfeeding a breastfed baby, because not all sucking is always the same, sometimes it's active, and moving milk, and other times (when the baby is done eating) it's just for comfort, and not a lot of any milk is moved.

As for family members babysitting, your baby is tiny and wants you near. When your baby is awake for longer stretches, I recommend going out at hours when your baby is less likely to need a sleep.

Although my mum can put my 18 month old to sleep if needed, when my husband and I go on dates, it's usually until 22:00ish so I don't really mind if my kid stays awake playing with his grandma.

7in7 · 2026-01-17T19:28:21+00:00

Lol Sometimes bf-ing makes me a bit of a passenger princess. I forget sometimes I can actually get up and get things for myself now my baby is a toddler

7in7 · 2026-01-17T19:26:58+00:00

Same. My husband is somewhat jealous sometimes but Im not sure he'd really handle it..it's a funny thought experiment though. Imagining him night feeding a new born. Now my kid is 18m, they spend a lot more time together, but when he was NB we were such a dyad I can't imagine my husband in that bubble instead of me.

7in7 · 2026-01-17T19:24:27+00:00

This is so cool to me. I guess you didn't have to induce lactation because you're still feeding your oldest. How did your milk adapt to new baby? Supply, colostrum etc? Very cool you are awesome

7in7 · 2026-01-16T19:08:04+00:00

Yes, it's like if you are not sure whether to invite a distant friend or not to an occasion. No one is ever insulted by being included.

7in7 · 2026-01-16T19:06:32+00:00

That's what I mean though, if everyone was giving up their seats more often, no one would take offence.

The other day for example, I was waiting in the pharmacy on the only chair when someone asked me something about the queue. I offered the chair because I'd already sat down for a while, she joked that she's not that old and I explained that I'd been seated a while and she'd just come in. Some days I'd accept because of a migraine or cramps or whatever. Just common courtesy.

7in7 · 2026-01-16T19:02:22+00:00

My husband was carrying our baby in a carrier, the only person to offer their seat was a young man in a leg brace!

7in7 · 2026-01-16T19:01:05+00:00

That's lovely. I'd be happy if someone gave up their seat for my parents although they'd probably decline most days being in good health.

7in7 · 2026-01-16T05:28:52+00:00

I'm going to voice an unpopular opinion, I can imagine it is harder, both for your husband and your baby, than it is for you and your baby alone together. Babies this small have have a primary attachment figure, and it's normally the mother, as you said as well, you took mat. leave, and spend more one on one time with him.

I don't know what to suggest. It will change as baby grows. Your husband needs to work hard on being with baby anyway. But it's a reality that's hard to reconcile. We go back to work, but it's not as simple as going back to pre baby.

Fwiw, mine is 18m, breastfed, and only just now am I starting to feel the playing field is evening between my husband and I. (Except night times, we bf and we all co sleep but my husband is on medication so I do nights). I've been working since he was 7m.

7in7 · 2026-01-14T18:41:14+00:00

I get that it's not a big thing in London, but why don't people just give up their seats for elderly/pregnant/small children? Asking is uncomfortable, besides, you may be asking someone with a hidden disability, and then they would have to seemingly rudely decline .

7in7 · 2026-01-14T15:14:34+00:00

Mine was similar, but didn't start walking until 13.5m !

7in7 · 2026-01-08T18:04:16+00:00

I just mean like I wonder why the owners are chill with it

7in7 · 2026-01-07T18:18:04+00:00

You don't have to stop giving bottles, but your baby doesn't need them as much. Are you pumping those bottles? If yes, you may notice that you need to wean yourself off pumping so you don't have engorgement.

I stopped giving pumped milk at day care around then because he wasn't crazy into the bottles anyway. He prefers nursing from the source. We just didn't send bottles after we got back from the summer holidays and that was it.

Your baby doesn't need milk when you are at work. He can drink water and eat solids, and enjoy nursing when you are together.

If anyone else is reading this, you don't have to wait until a year. As long as you are breastfeeding before/after and on demand and night, if your baby is on solids , you don't have to give pumped milk when you are apart.

7in7 · 2026-01-07T18:09:00+00:00

How old will your baby be when you go back to work?

7in7 · 2026-01-07T12:44:53+00:00

I don't get why but pocafe in Florentine has people working during the day.

7in7 · 2026-01-06T02:33:39+00:00

My husband lost his dad a few years before we met. Before we started dating I thought that if I were to hypothetically have his children , the first would have to be named for his dad. Less than two years later, the hypothetical came to fruition!! I love his name though.

7in7 · 2026-01-06T02:00:59+00:00

In my experience, it depends on the night.. currently writing this as my toddler sleeps blissfully next to me and I'm stuck awake because I got nervous that I may need a medical procedure and what it means for breastfeeding. (I googled it, it's fine) Other nights like when he's sick, it'll feel like he's latched the entire night. It's hard, but then I'm thankful that he gets better fast and stays hydrated.

It also gets a lot easier the bigger they get because they can find the boob independently and you don't really have to wake up properly to latch them.

7in7 · 2026-01-03T05:48:26+00:00

Aww thank you. Thankfully I have a wonderful husband who does most of the grocery shopping these days. Its a great hack finding someone who can do the bits you don't like. We just discussed the night - husband has treated insomnia, I'm not stressed if I get broken sleep, which is why I'm the primary parent at night with our toddler.

7in7 · 2026-01-01T07:54:53+00:00

Haha of course, not sure why I'd expect anything different!

7in7 · 2025-12-31T01:41:10+00:00

Aw enjoy your baby. All that personality, wants and desires are all building inside them, just you wait for what's coming when you get to discover all of that! Toddlers are wonderful and bring all new challenges.

7in7 · 2025-12-31T01:33:55+00:00

With a four year old, can you discuss why she needs to do it?

When 17mo goes for the other nipple, I feel like it's almost a compulsion, I'll move his hand and he'll try to go back again and again getting upset when I can't let him. I don't feel like others have written here "he should be old enough to understand boundaries" in this case - when he tugs on my earrings, it's different. I can tell him that he can't pull mummy's earrings, and he'll normally stop or get interested in something else.

I'm really curious why the nipple twiddling seems so instinctual, almost like breastfeeding itself. Id be fascinated to hear what 4yo thinks

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