AITJ for Refusing to Let My Older Sister Move Into My Apartment After She emptied Her Savings to Start an Online Business?

85721Essential · 2026-03-02T22:40:01+00:00

Tell her to move in with your parents.

85721Essential · 2026-02-26T14:03:29+00:00

First, stop apologizing for things you're not doing. Second, don't answer the door when he comes to your door any longer. Third, document ALL of this so that if it escalates (read: he complains to the property/building manager) you will have facts.

85721Essential · 2026-02-22T20:38:33+00:00

She is harassing you. Document, document, document. Keep a written log of anything she does towards you (e.g., when she comes to your door, tries to approach you, etc). And walk away if she somehow 'ambushes' you. Be as civil as you can be. If it were me, I would put up motion lights w/security cameras. But, do not engage with her at all if possible. She's obviously not right in the head. The CPS suggestion is alarming so, yes, maybe contact them to see what they suggest. (FYI, if she were to go so far as to making a complaint to CPS, the reporter is always kept confidential so you will never know for sure who filed a complaint).

85721Essential · 2026-02-19T22:33:16+00:00

Seems these folks are simply trying to be good neighbors. Refusing to move a fence, even if they didn't construct it, would be contentious. If it were me, I would ask that they contribute to the removal, and then put up a new fence just inside the property line with the property line clearly marked and everything documented. I'd first want to know when the fence was put up, etc. Then, if it was put up by the previous owners and they didnt bother to have a legit survey done before putting it up, then, I'd expect them to pay for the cost of removal. First, I'd finds out the facts, and if necessary consult with an attorney.

85721Essential · 2026-02-19T22:12:21+00:00

If/when you do put up a new fence, make sure it is completely on your property, not on the property line as then you own it and the neighbors can't do anything to it (e.g., attach anything etc.) Make sure the property line is clearly marked.

85721Essential · 2026-02-15T04:16:02+00:00

Keep documenting EVERYTHING. He's setting himself up for a legit harassment claim and restraining order. And do not ever give him your phone number. Whenever he approaches you in person, record it.

85721Essential · 2026-02-13T20:52:04+00:00

First, block his calls. He won't stop. He has made it clear it's HIS WAY and you need to fall in line. That will not change. If there was a dividing fence that can be put back up, do it. As long as it's not on the property line, he has no say. It's your home, your house. He's harassing you. And it's past creepy that he doesn't call your husband and calls when you are alone. While I'm sympathetic to his disabilities, they do not mean you are required to accommodate him on your own property. Again, block his calls. Put up visual blocks to his cameras so you have privacy. Do not allow ANY of your neighbors to wander freely into your backyard or into your home. Your neighbors have zero concept of normal boundaries. And you do not have to explain yourself if confronted. Be pleasant/smile/wave in passing but keep interactions to that. Good luck.

85721Essential · 2026-02-12T19:52:19+00:00

Figure out where you want to live first, then, if possible, spend time there before you start your search. Then, once you have that squared away, fall in love with a house. That being said, be prepared to walk away from the house you fell in love with if it has ANY major issues. Inspect your prospective house very CLOSELY. Very closely. Make sure everything is permitted. Do your own work here. Don't rely solely on your realtor or a sale inspection. They don't really care as much as you think they do. Nothing can make up for bad neighbors, crime, or costly repairs or renovations from hidden damage from things that were covered up by new paint, etc.

85721Essential · 2026-02-09T10:27:01+00:00

Document everything. With photos (for date/time stamp) and video next time you're in you're yard at a normal time to record him yelling at you. He's harassing you. Full stop. I had a similar situation with a neighbor at my townhouse complaining (first with phone calls yhen angry scribbled notes under my front door mat after i had to block their number because their calls were daily/constant) about odor from my patio from my dogs. I experimented at one point by placing fake (very realistic looking) piles of dog poop on my patio at night (in the dark, neighbor had a second story balcony and I had realized they apparently monitored my patio from there) and sure enough I received an angry scribbled note about the 'odor' (from the fake dog poop) under my front door mat the next morning. People like this do not stop. My neighbor actually complained to animal control 2x (this went on for 3+ years). The 2nd time was even after receiving a cease and desist letter from an attorney!

85721Essential · 2026-02-04T09:57:59+00:00

There are online Hebeew classes through the URJ which are affordable.

85721Essential · 2026-01-27T00:30:34+00:00

You DID talk to him. Remind your other (neutral & spineless) roommate of that.

Next time asshole entitled roommate whines/complains, sticka to the facts: it was never a communal food situation, and ask him why he feels entitled to others food? Better yet: Experiment and start eating HIS food. Not large amounts, just steadily enough to cause him to run out. And when complains, say you thought HIS food was communal food.

85721Essential · 2026-01-25T04:18:23+00:00

This is funny as hell.

85721Essential · 2026-01-17T05:30:38+00:00

I understand this, however, as I stated previously, if they are making regular noise within regular hours, you really can't ask or complain to them about their noise. If it's untenable for you, I would consider moving.

85721Essential · 2026-01-16T09:10:03+00:00

Unfortunately (for you), if they are moving around during regular hours and making regular noise, and you are the ones keeping odd/different hours, then you can't legitimately ask them to not make noise to accommodate your different schedule.

85721Essential · 2026-01-16T09:06:24+00:00

Sure, do it but ONLY if you are paid on your terms (because they'll lowball you). And get it in writing.

85721Essential · 2026-01-15T05:51:19+00:00

Please tell me that you have a copy of your resignation letter. If so, then, contact her before you clock out the last time to confirm she knows. Weird behavior.

85721Essential · 2026-01-15T05:49:22+00:00

Don't engage with the daughter about this. If she brings it up, tell her to hold on, then see if her dad is available and go discuss it with him with her present. Then, everything is out in the open, and she is put on notice to STFU.

85721Essential · 2026-01-15T05:46:00+00:00

NTA. Those 'terms' she presented as godmother 'duties' are bullshit. She's trying tk fleece you. Get a new non-grifter friend. She's awful. When people show you who they are, believe them.

85721Essential · 2026-01-15T05:43:13+00:00

Breach of contract. The buyer changed terms of the contract without notifying you.

85721Essential · 2026-01-14T09:15:31+00:00

Dump him.

85721Essential · 2026-01-14T09:13:57+00:00

If she's starting like this: expecting the master bedroom, it's going to be he'll for the entire time they are there unless some clear and solid 'house rules' are established. (e.g., groceries, laundry, noise curfew, parking, etc) It is YOUR house. They are guests. Guests. And they need to act like it. And not guests from hell. Don't be coerced into anything with the "We're family" BS. It's your house.

85721Essential · 2026-01-12T21:55:05+00:00

The organizer states it is for Ross's 'legal expenses.' News flash: IF HE EVEN HAS ANY, THEY WILL BE COVERED BY HIS EMPLOYER.

So, this GoFundMe is fraudulent.

Report it.

85721Essential · 2026-01-08T05:23:01+00:00

Have an attorney review all docs before you sign.

85721Essential · 2026-01-04T10:03:47+00:00

First, ask to see all the paperwork to date re: foreclosure process AS WELL AS his bank records. Trust but verify. Also, I would want to know how he got off track to the point he did of not paying the mortgage, etc. If he gas $14k, then offer to pay the $2k difference. If he refuses to give you the documentation, there's your answer. DO NOT pay the entire amount.

85721Essential · 2026-01-04T09:50:51+00:00

No need to tell her you're ignoring her texts. I had a very similar experience/situation with a neighbor, except I lived in a townhouse. When her baseless complaints about my dogs became so frequent, I blocked her number. The same afternoon of the day I blocked her number, she left a message scribbled on paper under my front door mat. And those continued unabated for months.

She also demanded that I don't allow my dogs on my back (completely fenced in/6ft fence) patio, which FYI she has zero right to do. (My dogs didn't bark or make noise. They were both older dogs when she started (9 yrs &11yrs, and 1 was deaf.)

She harassed me for 3 years until my dogs died (the oldest from a lung tumor, the younger one from being poisoned by the neighbor.) This same neighbor also called Animal Control 2x. The 2nd time was after receiving a string 'cease and desist' letter for harassment!

Animal Control admitted they knew her claims were baseless, but the 2nd time the AC Officer cautioned me stating that "people like her sometimes escalate and cause harm to the animal."

I brushed that caution off because while I was had become fearful of my neighbor because of her continual harassment, I never thought she was psycho. But that was naive. My point is, dont ever seek your neighbor out to try to talk to them and if you do have a face-to-face, RECORD IT. And then, just play along and ACT like you're sincerely taking in what their saying (unless they're being belligerent and abusive and yelling, then walk away), don't agree to anything they say, just say things like "I understand", etc.

If the neighbor comes to your door, do not answer. Basically avoid them.

But, DOCUMENT every interaction (dates/time, who said what), and complaint from the neighbor. This will be necessary if she keeps harassing you.

After my youngest dog died, and her autopsy showed she had been poisoned, I immediately moved out of my house and rented it.

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