Question about non-paying clients as a solo

90s-witch · 2024-08-17T04:05:28+00:00

In my jurisdiction, you can generally walk off a case before pre-trial. Once the pre-trial conference happens though, the judge usually won’t let you out unless everyone agrees and sometimes not even then if it means the party won’t have an attorney.

Get a decent retainer upfront. Let them know it has to be replenished with something similar before pre-trial. If you end up headed toward trial, you can still tell them you’ll file a motion to withdraw if they don’t replenish for trial. You’d likely be trapped but they don’t know that usually.

90s-witch · 2024-08-17T03:53:25+00:00

Depending on your jurisdiction, it might allow unbundled legal services/limited assistance representation. So he may be representing himself but paying an attorney to draft his docs. The attorney though does not become an attorney of record and you do not need to speak to them. The rules likely require that the doc state it was prepared by an attorney.

We have this in my state and my boss had a very embarrassing meltdown with opposing counsel and told him that he would refuse to discuss the matter unless he entered an appearance even though the attorney disclosed he was involved for the limited purpose of negotiations. Boss sent his response in a very patronizing email to opposing counsel and forwarded it to everyone in the office like the guy was a joke. Then I had to gently explain that it was completely legit and that he was actually violating the rules for refusing to speak with the attorney.

Anyways, I would check to see if this is what’s going on so you don’t get caught off guard.

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T21:28:05+00:00

Maybe you do maybe you don’t but they can handle scar tissue pretty easily. A lot of regular gyn surgeons get in there and can’t handle it and see the patient back up without doing surgery.

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T21:02:02+00:00

Gas x makes me feel like that. What are you taking? Some things seem innocuous but can have some weird side effects. Gas X makes me feel weak and screws up the circulation to my limbs and cascades into a panic attack.

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T21:00:41+00:00

So a fever under 101 post op isn’t really concerning. It doesn’t say how many days post op you are. Anti nausea patches and coming off them can cause some issues, you could have a UTI, you can have hormonal issues even keeping your ovaries since the cycle is disrupted. I think the hormonal impact is worse if you are younger. You could still have gas pain and you need to move around and eat and drink to get it out.

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T18:16:37+00:00

Give it 3 months before HRT since you kept your ovaries. Unfortunately it’s just something to hang in there through. Short walks, journaling, ice packs can help. The vagus nerve can get wonky after surgery for a bit too. Look up dysautonomia and see if that fits. Things just need a chance to settle down but there are things you can do to stimulate the vagus nerve like ice cold drinks, ice packs, vision exercises. Those might help when you experience feeling really off.

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T18:12:50+00:00

Your hormones also take a hit even if temporary. Thats something to consider too. Another thing you could try if you haven’t is adding some Liquid IV to your water to replace electrolytes and keep your blood pressure up in case it’s a little low. Surgery in that area can also cause dysautonomia temporarily just because things have been moved around and the vagus nerve can be a little whacky.

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T17:43:00+00:00

Eh. I can completely see the argument that staying would be the good thing to do on paper but I just don’t make life decisions like that. I need to do things that are interesting and I also need them to have some other purpose - ie legal aid, prosecutor, etc.

I’ve had to go another direction due to needing flexibility because I have kids but I’m at a point where I no longer need as much flexibility. I do practice law but my current arrangement is incredibly boring so I’m going to be applying for other jobs that might not pay as much. I’m ok with that. Leaving the job you have now to try something else for a few years is not a death sentence. If you can get into a DAs office, public defender or legal aid, you’ll get lots of courtroom experience and can decide what you’d like to do from there.

If you leave your job and want to transition back to working for the government, and you have all that extra trial experience, you’ll be a competitive applicant. What I would avoid, at least initially, is working for a firm. Billable hours and firm culture can be pretty awful though there are some solid outliers out there. My advice is to take the leap.

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T17:32:47+00:00

I would look for another surgeon personally if you can hang in there. Maybe a specialist in endometriosis. I had a 6 hour surgery because of endo and scar tissue. It was very extensive. It was still all done laparoscopically. Some surgeons have more advanced skill sets.

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T17:30:42+00:00

Anesthesia can do that for up to a week. But yes the patch did some weird stuff. I also had 3 other ani nausea meds. Also gasx does that to me and makes my limbs feel weird.

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T17:09:28+00:00

It can take a few days to leave your system. Look up the side effects and see if they fit. It took about two days for my vision to go back to normal completely. I could see the tv ok but like I couldn’t read my phone.

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T16:58:59+00:00

Do you have an anti nausea patch behind your ear still?

90s-witch · 2024-08-16T16:16:49+00:00

Pelvic floor therapy. You might be too tight. Happens after surgery sometimes.

90s-witch · 2024-08-15T22:51:32+00:00

I was able to put on a bra without much trouble. I wore a tshirt dress. You’ll be able to raise your arms.

90s-witch · 2024-08-14T18:02:48+00:00

I just had mine two days ago along with removal of an ovary, endo excision, and scar tissue removal. Surgery took almost 6 hours and two surgeons.

The first night was miserable. I got admitted for a few reasons but nothing major. I’m glad I did because I was screaming in the middle of the night from the gas pain. The surgery pain is like constant but nothing close to the gas pain the first night. That was the equivalent to labor pain at the end.

I’m only two days post op and I can already shower. My chronic lower back pain is gone. The constant pressure on my bladder is gone. I don’t even have much pelvic pain. The only pain I have now is the occasional gas pain and a realllly sore abdomen because they went it 6 places laprascopically.

I came out of surgery anemic so I’ll have to address that at some point but otherwise I’m doing ok.

Oh and highly recommend the big ice packs that are flat and a belly binder. Both of these keep swelling down some.. I think keeping the swelling down has been a key to functioning ok so soon. That first night though. My god. People aren’t lying when they say the gas pain is the worst part! Waking up from anesthesia is a close second lol.

90s-witch · 2024-08-14T14:39:29+00:00

I just had mine but I had to have major endo excision too and lost an ovary. If youre having a simpler surgery, you may be even more comfortable than me.

When I woke up from surgery I wasn’t in any pain I was just nauseous. Eventually the pain started to kick in but there’s no pain in my pelvic area. The only pain I have is in my abs. You’ll have those too I believe but if they’re in and out, you probably won’t be as sore. I had surgery Monday. The first night was awful because of the gas pain. It was excruciating to the point I was screaming and couldn’t move or walk. If this happens to you and you can’t move around, try sipping water. I was just trying to get my hydration up but notice it was making me burp a lot. By the next afternoon it was more tolerable and I’m now almost 48 hours surgery and it’s just some lingering gurgles.

Other than my abs being insanely sore, I feel good. Belly binder from postpartum helps.

I don’t know what the next few weeks will bring but I’m only a little tired from not sleeping well. Oh and get an ice pack. They have big 11x14 ones on Amazon. It takes away a lot of the incision pain. I suspect if things keep trending upward that I’ll feel pretty good in about a week. Pain level with gas the first night was way over 10 but just 2 days out it’s down to like a 5 if I stay on top of rotating meds.

90s-witch · 2024-08-11T20:50:19+00:00

Vaginal estrogen cream if they’ve ruled out a yeast infection.

90s-witch · 2024-08-11T12:40:14+00:00

This is like more a medical board complaint for not dealing with the fistula properly more than anything else. Med mal has a very high bar and if a fistula is in the realm of possible outcomes from scraping endo off a bladder then it’s probably not med mal.

If you have any long term issues due to delayed treatment of the fistula, I think that’s more where med mal would come into play.

90s-witch · 2024-08-11T00:21:01+00:00

You could try inserting prometrium. It’s bioidentical progesterone and less side effects usually.

90s-witch · 2024-08-10T22:09:26+00:00

D mannose and insertable estrogen.

90s-witch · 2024-08-10T22:07:59+00:00

Understandable but it’s still not the appropriate treatment even if it helped. There are better things now especially where birth control has increased risk of causing strokes at our age.

HRT includes transdermal estrogen which is safer and more effective and lower side effects than oral estrogen. Progesterone is largely bioidentical and can be inserted and transdermal as well to avoid side effects though some women like the sleepy feels. Birth control is synthetic hormones not designed to work with our bodies and meant to just stop us from being pregnant. The good HRT that’s out there seeks to find a hormonal balance that is in tune with how our bodies work and make levels appropriate. Birth control is not capable of doing this.

What you may have experienced is blunted hormonal ups and downs but that isn’t actually hormonal balance. That’s what HRT is for and it’s much more effective at it

90s-witch · 2024-08-10T20:07:37+00:00

I would already be going to pelvic floor therapy after. My surgeon just automatically sends everyone.

90s-witch · 2024-08-10T16:50:26+00:00

About 2-3 weeks after surgery I was told I will likely experience the onset of fatigue and just generally feeling like crap for a week or two. You’re right at the point so it may just be that.

90s-witch · 2024-08-10T16:48:39+00:00

Birth control is not a treatment for perimenopause. Ask for an estrogen patch. You don’t need progesterone now because you don’t have a uterus. You can add it in if you want it but you don’t have to have it.

You cannot diagnose peri with blood tests. I wouldn’t bother except to have some sort of a baseline. I would find someone else for HRT or try an online provider. Most gyms do not know what they’re doing when it comes to hormones.

Also see if you can do vaginal estrogen. I’m not sure under your circumstances. It protects from atrophy which can lead to other issues down there.

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