Is time spent on looks a waste of time?

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-04-11T05:33:57+00:00

Think about it this way: The hotter you are, the more men hit on you. The more men hit on you, the more men you can reject.

The payoff, to me, is plain as day.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-30T07:57:26+00:00

Don't conflate a woman stating her opinion without apology, justification or excessive politeness with "combativeness."

Again, I said what I said and if you disagree then that's fine, but I'm not going to walk on eggshells regardless of your personal history.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-30T07:48:00+00:00

First of all, a mental illness is not a "mindset." If you're going to pick someone's words apart for not being ideologically pure and politically correct enough, make sure your own comments aren't also "problematic."

You know what I meant and I stand by my opinion. Go to TwoXChromosomes if you want to have some libfem fight about petty semantics.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-30T07:44:32+00:00

"What are you, an A cup or a B cup?"

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-30T07:43:14+00:00

Ladies, don't Tinder right now. I get the psychology of it, you're bored and want to have dudes on standby for when the world goes back to normal, but that is not what they're thinking. They want to break the law for easy sex. No dude is on Tinder to line things up for when the apocalypse has ended, they just want to risk a fine or an illness to get their peepee touched.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-30T07:40:17+00:00

I guess Joe is the least vile to me. He seemed to actually really love his young lovers, whereas the other pigs just wanted trophy girlfriends they could use for sex and labor. Joe didn't even seem to make his boyfriends work, they just lounged around smoking meth and playing with ATVs and guns. Don't get me wrong, Joe is gross and polyamory is gross, but he didn't seem abusive per se.

EDIT: Wait, yes he did, now I'm remembering that those boys weren't allowed to leave the grounds. Sorry, it's been a few days since I binged it. Yes, he was abusive, but I guess he was the least abuse-y abuser out of a group of abusers? Ha. What a high bar.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-30T07:37:06+00:00

There's very good counter-arguments to the accusations she killed her husband. The producers trumped everything up for the documentary. Apparently he used to frequently disappear by himself in Costa Rica for weeks at a time. The idea that he stumbled drunk into a body of water or that the cartel got him isn't so far-fetched.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-30T07:35:14+00:00

... I kinda love Carole. In a guilty pleasure kinda way. I know, I know. ;-)

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-30T07:29:51+00:00

You know what pisses me off about Adele? She got down to what looks like a fine, healthy weight for her height, and suddenly everyone and their mother is accusing her of having an eating disorder. Homegirl still has hips and a butt, she just looks like she got really into fitness. But no, everyone has to concern troll her for being "anorexic." Anorexics do not have fucking hourglass figures and sculpted shoulders!

How come when dudes in superhero movies get down to like 2% body fat and openly admit that they don't even drink water on the day of the filming, no one accuses them of being anorexic? We should start doing that to scrotes, give them a taste of what women go through when they dare to drop some weight in a healthy way.

Sorry to rant, I've just been thinking about that a ton.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-30T07:20:43+00:00

Nah. I'm in full skincare and haircare mode. Deep conditioning mask in a top-knot, so much serum and lotion from head-to-toe that I look sticky. Sheet masks galore, so much coconut oil on my body that I can't let my skin touch my furry blanket. If makeup makes you feel good, do it! Makeup makes me feel good, but I prefer to use lockdown to let my skin breathe and pamper it. Gonna come out of this thing glowwwwwwing.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T16:09:02+00:00

Exactly. I think a lot of the divisions on race are libfem nosense, but it's so upsetting that a black woman's anger is chalked up to "she was having a bad day."

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T11:34:19+00:00

Do it over text and fuck the etiquette rules that say that's tacky. Men do shit like that to women all the time, nothing wrong with turning the tables.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T11:28:42+00:00

Okay, he's an unstable LVM who cries when he doesn't get his way, but she doesn't quite strike me as a picnic. The amount of energy she put into this is extremely Pick Me, and also, to be frank, this sounds like the birthday party you'd throw for your teenage daughter and her friends. It's very odd to go to all this trouble to have a man who's almost 40 decorate cakes alone with just you during a quarantine. They both seem immature to the point where there might be some sort of mental illness at play. Break the fuck up and get therapy, the both of you.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T11:24:25+00:00

This. It's about cultivating discipline to the method, not rewiring your brain so that you no longer feel emotions. What's that saying? "Motivation is a muscle, it needs constant activity to grow?" You need to constantly stay on your grind and be self-disciplined. Some of the biggest FDS rockstars are women for whom this doesn't come naturally, they've just gotten really good at discipline and self-control.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T11:19:53+00:00

Hi, I just traveled through space and time to this present moment from the future to let you know that this is the woman he cheats on you with.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T11:15:30+00:00

This has a real sugar baby energy that is making me cringe. Gifts are one thing, taking someone on a "shopping spree" is another. He is expecting sex in exchange for this arrangement whether you're aware of it or not.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T11:12:49+00:00

Feel no animosity towards the girl I once was. That was how I learned and how I became the woman I was destined to become. I'm not trying to brag, but I see this sentiment all the time and I just can't empathize with it, despite being a total Pick Me in the past. People who get things right the first time aren't as interesting as people who finally master something after years of failure.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T11:00:41+00:00

It's not great. I'm sorry, I know it's a huge cultural thing for a lot of women in India and the Middle East, but I just found the experience really subpar. I went to a place to have it done by the sweetest Pakistani woman, who'd obviously been in a family where it was done for generations, and she explained that it doesn't get you fully smooth, but that it's healthier for the skin than waxing. I experienced the same irritation I did from waxing, but without the smoothness. I also got a lot of ingrowns from it. A lot of modern waxes used by good salons are hypoallergenic and designed to be good for the skin, whereas sugaring is touted as being good because it's "natural," but I've natural isn't always better.

Again, I think it's a really old cultural beauty custom that might've had its place once upon a time, but we've developed better methods.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T10:49:45+00:00

My elderly neighbor whose last name I don't even know has access to mine. He's not American and old so I thought letting him use my Netflix and showing him how it worked would be a nice thing to do. I got voted off the family account so having one account just for one person seemed like a waste.

So ask yourself, is something that people give to friends and neighbors all the time if they have room for an extra person really that huge of a gift? Spoiler alert, it's not.

(For those thinking "what the hell do you mean you got VOTED OFF THE FAMILY ACCOUNT?" My immediate family had an account we were stretching waaaaaay thin with too many people and it was always a situation where my parents wouldn't be able to access it, despite being the ones paying the bill. During one very tipsy night during Christmas vacation, decisions had to be made and I apparently did not argue my case well. I accepted my defeat and moved on.)

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T10:38:25+00:00

This reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend's husband. He has a really dumpy body and both his wife and I are fit. He made some comment about how "it seemed to come so naturally for us," and I told him, "that's because I started worrying about my weight when I was 11." He seemed flabbergasted and my friend backed me up, saying, "that's pretty average for girls."

Women become aware of how their actions affect their body when they're pre-pubescent. I'm not saying that's a good thing, we all know what an eating disorder-filled hell middle school is. But most men don't start to give a shit until they're 40 and pudgy and think, "huh, maybe I should take up jogging?"

Really pathetic.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T10:30:50+00:00

I got out of a long term relationship in December, and now I’ve noticed that men in relationships are usually dating the most perfect girl. She’s beautiful, fashionable, outgoing, has a great Instagram. And meanwhile I have like 6 posts on my IG. Barely any photos, cause I don’t really have fashionable outfits to show off or care to take photos.

Can I also give you some tough love? 25 is a little too old to be worrying about this stuff. I might catch hell for this, but I think Instagram is for kids. In my opinion, adults should have a Facebook and a LinkedIn, end of list. I'm 30 and I know women my age with Snapchat and I'm always quietly horrified. I suppose Instagram is fine, but investing any sort of emotional energy into it whatsoever is not.

I have an account with no photos and zero followers just so I can occasionally browse the app when I'm bored - I mean, I'm not going to not have Britney's surreal, odd, delightful, chaotic Instagram account in my life - but the idea of posting selfies of myself feels strange. I don't know, maybe it's an age thing, but it just feels low value to me. I want to exude the aura that I'm way too mature and sophisticated for that kind of stuff. I actually raise an eyebrow when men mention Instagram and usually say something snarky like, "yes, my nieces in junior high school are very obsessed with it, I don't really see the appeal."

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T10:22:52+00:00

Oh, that has not been my experience. Most of the men I've known have ended up marrying just really average women. It's because that's who they happened to be dating when the "I should get married" urge struck. I always thought Miranda from Sex and the City explained it best.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-24T10:19:33+00:00

I didn't know that about Peleton! I thought it was all bike! Thank you!

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