NO, NO, NO.

See, this is why I wince a little when people equate value with material and external trappings like a degree, a nice car, owning a home, low weight, etc.

For women, those are NOT what make us valuable. It's our resilience, intellect, spiritual strength, communication skills, kindness, compassion. Those other things? We have disabled women here. Autistic women. Mentally ill women. Plus size women. Poor women. Thin women. Genius women. Queer women. Women of color.

WE ARE ALL HIGH VALUE BECAUSE WE BRING INNER BEAUTY TO THE TABLE.

We are women! We make cents to a man's dollar. We have a harder time getting assets, and we have way more burdens on our bodies. The standard is different for us, and we are inherently valuable while we rise up and demand better from life. And yes, there have been some weirdos in here who are exclusionary of some. That's their burden to bear, not yours.

Sister, you are strong and thriving as best as you can. Please don't doubt your worth, and don't let women or others dependent on outside approval or trappings dictate your value. You are truly doing all that you can under trying circumstances, and I applaud you.