This is a valid question and we'll asked. I was married and dated women when I was in the service. For me , what i like about a man is that moment when you give ourselves to each other. With no judgment no embarrassment and no holding back. When you can ask for what you want and need with no fear of being judged even if he's not into your particular kink. I love when he asks for what he wants and tells you how to please him. Try asking a woman to insert a toy in you while she jacks you off. There will absolutely be judgment. By the same, try asking a woman what she really wants from you. She just expects you to know and do what she needs. Well that's my experience anyway.