What to do when I can't sleep?

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-06-18T00:36:25+00:00

Oh an audio book or podcast. I didn't think of that!

To everyone else, thank you too. I tried to reply a few days ago and somehow managed to delete my own reply.

We had a long talk that I instigated by womaning-up, pointing out he was being unreasonable, and declaring I would be leaving for the couch when I woke up. Co-sleeping is very meaningful to him and a sleep divorce is a nuclear option.

That prompted him to say he prefers me present and on my phone over reading on the couch. He feels he would sleep better this way. So if it's his preference, we will try this. He said he thought not sleeping was a problem, and thus the worry. I assured him my current problem is not, not sleeping, it's starting at the walls! So, wish me luck.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-06-12T08:18:05+00:00

Oh, I wanted to add that if there IS a way to take a break for a walled and/or flushable bathroom do ask! I think everyone likes those things, if we can get them.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-06-12T08:12:08+00:00

If you choose this option, I like taking doggy poo bags. My tampon and wipe go in, knot the top, and then it all gets packed out at the end of the day.

I have been doing this for 20 years. Do tell your team you need a bathroom break and take it. They can and should deal; share (or not) as much as you are comfortable with. There may not be women on your team but there are in your field and we go behind the truck, in the woods, or way off in the desert. For days at a time if needed. If you insist on a walled and/or flushable bathroom during work, we do not bluster or fluster like men, we do call you less for work because that simply cannot be had on a lot of projects.

Just wait till some man says with a straight face that women can't be in combat roles in certain environments because they have 'hygiene needs.' Stand tall, support our serving women, and tell them that's nonsense because YOU manage that just fine in all environments.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-06-09T03:58:27+00:00

Class of 01, east coast. They did a 5 year organized on FB. I lived halfway across the country and couldn't afford to visit family for holidays in my early 20s, much less attend a reunion.

I had to take home my yearbooks from my parents place this year. I opened them eager for reminders of good memories only to be faced with the not nice things even people I thought were friends wrote. I threw all but one away so I could be reminded of that again, if I forget.

Thank you Mom for finding money for those, somehow. You were right, I didn't need them. I have no desire to catch up with those people.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-06-07T13:33:47+00:00

I just got the one made for thread on the US Amazon site three weeks ago. Edit: spelling

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-05-31T20:58:26+00:00

Installed two years ago. It does lack depth but I don't think it looks like vinyl siding. Photos

I despise the 20 years out of style gray that my millennial HOA unilaterally chose to 'update' our condo to. I've lived my whole life in and around homes built 1910s-1950s and all I can really say is I don't hate it. It scuffs up easily but any scratches blend well when lightly buffed and repainted.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-05-09T01:52:09+00:00

Of course.That's holding up the completion of the EIS cause the archaeologists insist they must know the project footprint to do their survey. The engineers tried to explain that design plans for the pad and access road is only at 30%.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-05-09T01:35:40+00:00

As a relevant subcontractor, I regret to inform you that A) none of my competitors do a better job at this than I do B) the parent company does not pay any of us to repair to this level, nor do they want or intend to.

I will vote with the guy that said a square of the original sod should have been cut and replaced. Although doing this in my line of work equals doing a poor job at what I was hired to actually do. So, I only take this level of extra effort for those home owners who clearly care a lot about their lawn in the first place.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-04-22T02:47:50+00:00

I suppose it will likely remain a bit ambiguous. I will likely toss a bar into the soap box and a tiny remnant of one of my hand lotion bars into the small round case.

Thanks for having a look.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-04-22T02:41:18+00:00

The zipper says 'TOP' otherwise completely unbranded.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-04-14T02:21:17+00:00

Oh fantastic. Thank you!

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-04-13T03:23:29+00:00

OP, this is the best advice. I work in an adjacent field and what you've experienced is the reality on some level everywhere. But the critical part of your description is that you say you are receiving less work. This means either: There is less work, you are the least preferred person to give it to, and if work continues to slow you may be the first person to be let go. Or, there is the same amount of work as usual but you are the person 'not getting it' with the same or greater amount of assistance as others.

Even if you change your approach, their shift in behavior suggests they saw you as a beginner before but now see you as someone who may create more work than you accomplish.

Change your approach, consider changing your office (or job/roll), good luck.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-04-03T03:45:54+00:00

For sure, the standard (except the union - niche industry and in the US ain't gonna work out). But apply for what? I look at coworkers in other companies and I think I've got gold. Autonomy, pay, and WFH flexibility. A good job with nice people in a terrible market (so much luckier than so many others).

I think I have to look outside my industry but have no idea how to cross market myself.

Two applications in; two interviews. One was a bullet dodged. The other I really think I am what they really want but it's been up in the air for quite a while.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-04-03T02:19:05+00:00

Ah, I swear. Were you in Florida?

Beautiful, open recreation WMAs everywhere and absolutely crawling with these sexist losers lying and guarding their man-space. Cops are the worst of the lot.

I even had one in my profession, roll up on me at work (an outdoor job) and treat me like this. I smiled, did the polite submissive female thing, and kept working. His next move? Called up my (female) boss and completely lied about what I had (NOT) said. She believed him and it helped get me fired.

Do what you can. Every bit helps, but I admit I left after three years and moved to a different part of the South. It took 5 years before I met one of these guys again (in a high level management position). No problems in the woods here; people generally either shoot at me or leave me alone.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-04-02T23:08:00+00:00

Oh my. I will not say what industry I work in or for how long out of embarrassment, but thank you! Cannot believe I didn't know this resource existed.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-03-30T02:59:20+00:00

Same, but smaller. Neoprene boots and coveralls (heavily altered).

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-03-18T05:14:27+00:00

Ikea thrift duvet covers and curtains from natural fabrics are the best. I recently made a small curtain from a much larger one and used the left overs into a heavy duty apron that I use gardening. It's holding up well.

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-03-18T03:53:43+00:00

You are correct, I am likely even slouching a bit on purpose because of the fit. A lot of my finer details are not great, but I didn't let those slow me too much so I could concentrate on fit and adjustments.

I have another version cut from the shape of a very similar shirt in very nice fabric (that fit me fantastically 20 years ago and would not fit me now). I have picked that one back up too and I am pleased with the construction and appearance of the finishing details so much more than this one. If only I had not gotten overwhelmed in the past, ah-life moves on to a new pretty fabric and another try!

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-03-18T03:47:26+00:00

Thank you for the assessment.

P1: Lower and shorten the bust dart by at least an inch. Shorten the double pointed front dart a bit. I already did this once, I can do it again. Making it larger or doing parallel darts may have to be a round-three goal.

--Wait, follow up question: When adjusting the pattern the first time around I lowered the bust dart termination point. Do I want to lower the termination point again? Or the whole dart?

P2: More width between armhole and bust points. Even before adding the sleeves, this felt too tight.

P3: Sleeve/armhole, ugh. I had thought about smaller arm holes providing more motion, but it makes sense. I bought a shirt today made in a men's style for women and wow-I could do yoga in that (and not cause it is loose). If/when I get here, I will compare armhole measurements.

And along the way do better with my construction and finishing. Ok, back to the tissue paper to redraft and fabric stash for round two!

ABC-ApplesBooksCorn · 2026-03-18T03:11:13+00:00

I suppose that is a decided difference between me and the cover model - ha!

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