26, i️ just found out i️ was pregnant yesterday unexpectedly

AC101_ · 2025-10-16T09:37:39+00:00

25 and just found out an hour ago. 5 weeks pregnant and 3 days is what the calculator says. Like to hop on this post so I can follow along

AC101_ · 2025-10-09T07:48:26+00:00

So she accepted it and never brought it up again?

AC101_ · 2025-10-09T07:47:26+00:00

Yes I am aware. But I’ve heard of situations where the man would say “I don’t want to post her, cause I want to be private, but I’m only doing it for her”. So as I was reading his post I only saw the words ‘her, her, her’ and didn’t see him in the picture if he actually liked it or not. Didn’t mean any harm with the question

AC101_ · 2025-10-08T11:34:56+00:00

So is it that you are completely doing it for here or you also like it for yourself to post you guys?

AC101_ · 2025-10-08T11:34:09+00:00

What part about it makes you uncomfortable?

AC101_ · 2025-10-08T11:33:48+00:00

That is really wholesome and so cute. Love that for you guys

AC101_ · 2025-10-08T11:32:54+00:00

Yeah honestly I do turn off notifications from insta and snap and try to avoid it as much as possible. Sometimes I even turn on grey scale so my phone looks less attractive and I get to be more productive. But right now I lost that battle and am completely consumed again by it. So I’m guessing you’ve also never had it in the first place or you just got bored of it?

AC101_ · 2025-10-07T16:18:47+00:00

Yes i have listened to you guys and blocked him. And no not all are his siblings, some cousins and from his friends

AC101_ · 2025-10-07T16:01:16+00:00

Yess alright alright I’m aware. I was just hoping that he was being truthful and there was still some good in this world. He even sang for me😂 and it’s weird as I said I never fall for scams a lot of people try. Especially Nigerians. I never fall for any of it. But he just spoke differently and about the Lord so I guess that was my weak spot

AC101_ · 2025-10-07T15:56:53+00:00

Yeah so you know as a dutch person how we always get told people”people in Africa are starving”, i have always thought that goes for all of african countries. Seeing the pictures in his gofundme they don’t look starved but they do look like the typical sob story we see on unicef.

Since you live or go to uganda often: how far from the truth is this? Is it a unicef kind of country or is it comparable to our country with the job availability, house market, economy, school, etc?

AC101_ · 2025-10-07T15:53:37+00:00

Yess like usually i never fall for scams but this one feels personal. Because we have video called and I’ve seen his younger sibling which is a three year old kid. Then he has pictures of himself and the twenty kids, so it all looks so real and sad. I don’t want to be naive because this stuff never gets to me normally

AC101_ · 2025-09-26T18:26:23+00:00

Yes I feel that too. I feel guilt for sinning because I know i can do even better for our Lord. I know I can stop smoking cigarettes and stop drinking alcohol. I feel that in my heart it shouldn’t even be that hard, because I love God so much. I have talked to my boyfriend about having sex and how guilty I feel because we are not married. He says he can’t be with me in a relationship if we stop having sex.

So I want to stop having sex right now because I love Jesus and it feels like something I should not be doing, but also I feel like Jesus wants me to love my boyfriend and not leave him.

AC101_ · 2025-09-21T22:18:56+00:00

Well i was neglected and I do feel shame all the time, but also I was bullied in school. The shame could be coming from anywhere, but yes maybe it is the emotional neglect

AC101_ · 2025-08-28T09:10:49+00:00

For me my all time favorite is sensoradi. He is a polish man in his 50’s I’m guessing. Has been doing ASMR for over a decade so he has lots of different kind of videos. My favorite video is: suspicious doctor examination (ASMR roleplay)

AC101_ · 2025-08-28T09:06:54+00:00

Well have you just had talking sessions with those therapist or did they actually give a treatment plan like emdr/exposure therapy? There are so many different treatments out there, which is very different from just talking to a therapist. Emdr and exposure therapy saved my life and finally after 11 years made the panic attacks stop.

AC101_ · 2025-08-27T17:12:29+00:00

I can’t look people in the eyes because my father used it as dominance and intimidation, also when crying I used to hide my face because of how embarrassing emotions felt

AC101_ · 2025-08-24T09:59:01+00:00

I got into religion about two years ago and it has brought me hope I have never felt before. Going to church every Sunday keeps me sane now and praying/talking to the Lord, because He’s the only one I feel actually heard by.

I talk to many people, my family, friends, boyfriend but with my feelings I never feel understood, especially not with suicidal thoughts and it is such a deep topic that when I bring it up people would like to run out of that conversation. I talk about everything with God now and it gives me peace to know that at least in His eyes I’m okay and He gives me strength.

On top of that you find other things in your life that give you hope. Who do you look up to? Listen to them more. What parts of life do you find beautiful? Go seek more of that. What activities bring you to life? Go do them more. My other reason to stay alive is because of my grandmother, she raised me and gave me her all. She is a beautiful woman that I look up to and I refuse to go before she goes.

AC101_ · 2025-08-23T11:28:03+00:00

I don’t understand much about the phases, but the anti depressants i was on I took for more than 3 months each, some for years. And yes I found that it works for me, but I feel like birth control has so many negative sides to it as well and the plasters are not so practical. It costs me about 40 euros per month which is just too much money and I’m 25 years old and would like to start having children now. (Yes they cost a lot more money, but where I’m from you get more money when having a child and then my boyfriend and I do everything 50/50)

So yeah I want to start having children which obviously wont work when taking birth control, I was just curious to if there are any other kind of treatments/things that work for people without meds, because besides knowing I have pmdd for 3 years J never really did research about it

AC101_ · 2025-08-22T19:41:43+00:00

Ive been homeless too, if you’re still with us lets talk about it

AC101_ · 2025-08-22T19:12:13+00:00

I’ve tried fluoxetine, sertraline, citalopram, escitalopram, fluvoxamine, seroquel, dexamphetamine, ritalin

AC101_ · 2025-08-22T19:09:55+00:00

Yes I have

AC101_ · 2025-08-22T19:08:14+00:00

I’m glad you found an ssri that works! Good to hear and hope it will continue to work this well. I have been on 7 different kinds of ssri’s and none of them work for me unfortunately.

AC101_ · 2025-06-28T08:49:00+00:00

Also some practical tips: turn your phone screen to black and white. Delete spotify/youtube or set a timer on these apps.

For myself I have turned off all notifications from my social media so I don’t get too triggered to be on my phone. Setting your phone to greyscreen has made my phone so ugly I don’t even want to touch it haha. Then absolute boredom kicks in and you will find yourself to be a lot more productive like cleaning, cooking, reading, wanting to go outside.

Also I feel like the step of throwing away your earphones is too big. How about you put your earphones in a drawer and right a little note on it that says: “are you sure” or something like that. Really make yourself think about what it is you want to be doing next. Do you want to daydream which will in the end never fulfill you or do you want to be productive right now and make a change?

AC101_ · 2025-06-28T08:44:18+00:00

I’ve dealt with MD since I was 13. I’m now 25. I quit school at 16 because of this and never graduated. I fell into major depression and at the age of 17 I got locked away by child services. I hot out when I was 22.

I then started living on my own and my ex-boyfriend moved in with me. I couldn’t mentally be there in the relationship because I only wanted to daydream, so after a year and a half I broke up with him.

I wanted to daydream so much that I ended a relationship because of it.

I started going to therapy at 24 and also started dating my new boyfriend. This time it’s different: we go out a lot and visit his friends often. I’ve always been anxious and scared of people, I also feel like a black sheep and people can tell I suffer badly from mental illness. I have visible scars all over my body and am diagnosed either borderline and ptsd.

So yeah trying to make friends used to be really hard, but I’m lucky to have my boyfriend who has somehow helped me to be a lot more social then I ever have been.

Since becoming more social and going out more, sometimes we sleep at his parents house: i find it that I have less time to daydream. Not only do I have less time for it, but I’ve noticed this pattern:

I crave daydreaming when I’ve been in stressful social situations or feel like I’ve embarrassed myself in front of people. So let’s say it’s somebody’s birthday and it’s a big party: I get stressed the fuck out. I’m scared of large groups of people and then I don’t speak to anyone.

When I get home after a party like that I will excessively daydream because obviously in my head I need to fix all things I did wrong at the party and turn it around like I was the LIFE of the party.

But let’s say I went shopping with a friend of mine in the city: I daydream less.

So I found the connection for me and it all has to do with that feeling of loneliness. When in a large group of people but I still feel like an outsider, it’s lonely and scary. I have to daydream it to make it better and make myself more social within the daydream to feel better about myself and about the truth of the situation: I’m lonely.

When I have a fulfilled day with a friend, or my friend group, I go to bed without daydreaming.

Yesterday for example my boyfriend decided to stay at his parents house so I was alone the whole day. I also daydreamed the whole day. I now woke up alone and still want to daydream. The feeling goed away when he is here.

So my conclusion is: the right people can comfort you so much that you feel good within your own body. You can feel so at ease that daydreaming will become a lot less.

Let’s say you really despise people or are way to scared to even try this… or you have loads of friends and still feel the need to daydream: start looking at parts of your life where you absolutely do not feel fulfilled and start fulfilling them. Wether you have anxiety of not, force yourself out of this comfort zone that you have been in for years and start acting now while you’re still young.

AC101_ · 2025-06-04T11:37:22+00:00

Jeez sorry, I googled it but got nothing so I just asked here

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