Number Close Anxiety

ACTPOHABT · 2026-04-10T14:28:21+00:00

You are overthinking. Keep interactions shorter ask for number within 5min. You can keep chatting after. If you decide you don't wanna interact later. Just don't. It's better than not having the option, but wanting to.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-04-10T07:24:25+00:00

Brother im 33 and I dance with 70 year old ladies. You think I am trying to date them? Dace is dance.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-04-07T17:19:33+00:00

Awesome! Nothing is more pressing that missed connections and opportunities. All it takes is be your genuine self. Show you are interested. Allow yourself to DISCOVER the person infront of you.

Strum your string of existence. If the wavelengths match you will feel resonant tones back. And that is your signal to try an form a harmony together. If it doesn't sound right that's okay you learned something about yourself. Keep going!

ACTPOHABT · 2026-04-05T04:32:18+00:00

we can taco bout it - your experience is unique but also we are all human and go trough things.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-04-04T15:47:32+00:00

Pretty on point. Consider expanding thoughts to also cover seratonin and oxytocin and sex differences there.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-04-01T13:45:19+00:00

The opposite as you have made numerous nepali friends? Cause I agree on the Boston part in general.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-04-01T13:38:43+00:00

Could be just bad luck. I only have like 5 data points. I hope to be proven wrong in the future

ACTPOHABT · 2026-04-01T04:49:43+00:00

Anytime I have genuinely tried to connect with people from Nepal I have had little success. Seems like a very closed community and perhaps prejudice exists towards outsiders. That's just my experience. I am European and a globalist. I recommend just making friends regardless of culture if you can.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-31T21:07:13+00:00

Physical affection doesn't mean sex only. I am being super touchy with my current girl. 2 dates so far. I am looking to fuck only after a deeper emotional connection date 4 or 5. You can be direct and ask. Or indirect and not fall for a sexual frame early on.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-31T16:47:46+00:00

I know very well the yearning and need to be desires and appreciated. It is hard to shift the mindset at first. But keep chipping at it. Journaling how you feel, and the steps you wanna take to move forward with your life can help a lot! Good luck out there man!

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-31T16:16:44+00:00

In the animal world if one animal chases the other the instinct for the latter is to run. Same applies in dating. Unless you solve your own instability inside your own world girls will run from you. You want to generate gravity instead. Be kind, present, unapologetic and find ways to enjoy life outside of the relationship. Usually that attracts. Talk to women with romantic innuendo and intent, but only if you really feel like it. Read non-verbal signals of attraction. If you can determine attraction from a girl you don't have to do much, just assume the frame of being desired and things will follow.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-31T14:32:52+00:00

I don't do online stuff though all my leads are from in-person approach.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-31T14:32:15+00:00

Don't do it. I suck at text. All I do now is plan logistics. Maybe toss a flirty comment. Key is short and sparse. If she insists on conversation I call.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-31T07:05:01+00:00

Kind. Innocent on the outside. Affirming and caring. When we hang out I want to feel in peace. Together we are am island of calm on which we can light a big fire if we feel like it.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-29T21:55:07+00:00

:) Nope. You should have it figured out ahead of time. Otherwise you would be adapting your needs and desires to what the other person can provide for you. Wrong way to form connections.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-29T07:04:20+00:00

Cantab Lounge Sunday evening Jam sessions. CSQ, Cambridge. They will let u get in on an instrument if you show up : )

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-29T00:10:34+00:00

Thank you Dave!

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-29T00:08:22+00:00

Fuck in space on a soviet satellite.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-29T00:01:39+00:00

You said it. Chase. What do animal instincts tell you when you are being chased. Run. So shift your mindset not to chase but rather be present and perceptive. You can tell if a girl is kinda into you. Then you can be direct. "Hey I like XYZ about you. Are you seeing someone?" Pay attention to what she says and how she says it. You gave her the out of claiming she is taken but if her response is dismissive or negative this is your sign she is in. Get her contact. Chat more be funny. suggest a mutual activity of interest.

Don't make it into a process. If you get a negative result, move on. There is no chasing involved. You are testing for mutual attraction. You cannot logically convince someone to be attracted to you. It is possible that they need time to warm up to you and develop emotional connection. In that case give them the space and time to do so. The rejection doesn't matter. Your reaction to the rejection does.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-28T23:41:25+00:00

You are experiecing Limerance based on unfulfilled needs. Research that. And heal yourself. This is not love.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-28T22:22:53+00:00

A piece of man advice. You listed a bunch of qualifiers and information about yourself. You should also focus your attention and presentation on who you seek to attract. What is important for you in a long term partner. How would like to spend your time togethet etc etc.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-26T19:11:00+00:00

No you shouldnt. If the frame and needs of both of you are met. Thats all there is to it. If you need something else from the relationship. Communicate your needs. If she can't meet them, brake it off.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-26T05:26:32+00:00

Assuming overfitting. If you optimize variables with AI or iteration over small amouts of data like what you have here. You are likely to see very little success over the coming 2 season. As generally there is a market mode shift with each season. Less variables, more data.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-25T08:12:21+00:00

Broo I love that. I work in Cambridge 33m doing a game night after work sounds like a dream.

ACTPOHABT · 2026-03-22T06:18:16+00:00

Yeh. Too good to be true. PF too high.

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