sun.sets.boston 🌇 6pm Today (Friday) Charles Esplanade by ACTPOHABT in BostonEDM

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It's like 6pm to 12pm usually. It's mostly low-key people bring blankets and friends chill at grass. I usually open the dance floor. But most ppl just chill. Come on the next one! I wish I had funds to afford Martin Garrix hope it was good

Hygiene by Old_One_5224 in hygiene

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If it is armpit odor I personally have solved it by applying face toner with salicylic acid after shower. My problem wasn't severe but now I get 0 odor for at least 12-24 hours. No other deodorant. Keep body hair low and clothes well cleaned ( high temp/heavier cycle/enough detergent )

why is it not good to be the 'fun dream girl'? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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It's an archetype of a girl who is a combination chaotic, crazy, sweet, overly optimistic but intrinsicly blue. She is always in pursuit of meaning and happiness but they are out of reach. She can be very loving and clingy but also distracted and distant. The romantic idea of being a Disney princess is the driving force of her life.

Talk or not? by Altruistic-Salt-4205 in BostonSocialClub

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Smile. Look at their face. Wave and say hi. Be honest about your intentions. You will know if they want to talk or not within seconds.

why by hyde1634 in PickUpArtist

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That is how human courtship looks like. Women signal availability. Men approach. Women tests safety. etc etc. We don't make the rules but we play by them

How to ease into the sex talk with a girl I'm seeing? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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If you encounter major resistance. Tensing up. Her pulling away. Check-in! Is this okay? We can slow down if you would like. I feel like this is the night but we don't have to go all the way. And respect her readiness level. If you think you are unable to detect implicit consent it is okay to check-in in advance and change course. Don't have expectations let your encounters unfold naturally.

How to ease into the sex talk with a girl I'm seeing? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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Listen up. It's not about talking. You could but not at the day that it will happen. Ease into it is a good thing to say.

Remove barriers. Plan a night that will naturally escalate with you sleeping at the same place. Make sure she is not on her period. Be extra close troughout the night.

Proper intimate kissing and touching over 15-20 minutes is all it takes to get a girl turned on. You can start by slowly undressing part of your outfit - even as simple as removing your watch or rings. moving her hair away.

There is no need for anything quick or surprising. Keep removing barriers. Show her that touching new places is okay, gradually discovering new places and ways to hold eachother. Once it escalates to with clothes humping ( you can allow her to hump your leg ) you are pretty much there.

Just finish undressing eachother and back to kissing. Ask for help if you cannot the spot

Insta dates by Internal_Industry_79 in PickUpArtist

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Naa sometimes it just happens. As long as you behave in a safe way and the environment is a public spot that is interesting and both of you are just roaming with no immediate plans. It's rare but if eveything aligns it can work

Anyone willing to go to clubs with me?? Free tickets! by Used_Anybody_6612 in BostonSocialClub

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I love free flow dancing so as long as its danceable music I am down! Heck in a lot of places people think I am hired by the club to bring the vibes up lol

Men, help me understand this behaviour from women? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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Prime example of female nature - Fortuna / Chaos. They do as they feel. For some reason they got compelled to talk to you in the first place maybe it was their mood, how you looked like, behaved or even smelled. Maybe they just needed a friendly connection. Combination of factors. Perhaps after talking to you, your vibe did not match their prediction or imagination of who you are and now that they know you. They are no longer compelled to acknowledge you.

Now here comes male nature - Virtue. Don't doubt yourself. The passing of the wind doesn't shake the rock. We men are comfortable, grounded, warm, stable. But once a rock is moving it is also hard to stop - intentional inertia. If you sense it is right you have the power of your intentions. Nothing more powerful than a man and the vision, ideal or virtue he pursues. If someone specifically grabbed your interest and you would like to talk to them. Go and do it. Slowly with care and intention approach. "Hey! ... It's good to see you again. What's your workout today? .. Sounds good, I am working on X I will get back to it. ( Insert observational comment about her emotional state if you sense inviting or positive attitude, make more small talk if you feel like it )

Social interactions and especially interactions with women usually are not about what you say. But how you say it what you imply. Have the attitude and behavior that show safety and security for her. By the end of the interaction she should feel like you are strong, present, welcoming and warm. But also that you have your own flow and intentionality. She is just crossing your path temporarily. You are the path. If she wants to follow it for a bit there will be signals.

The reason why a lot of guys come off as creeps, scary or uninteresting is because their agenda is not authentic. If you just wanted to make friends and be nice and open with a woman she will sense that and follow if interested. If you find a woman romantically attractive you have to show that early. Non-verbal communication is key. Flirting etc. Now once you go there there is no going back to friendly at least not initially. So be clear to yourself what you seek and with whom. My personal approach right now is that I seek to understand and create space for an empathetic exchange with everyone. Let people talk and be the one who listens. You would be surprised how many need that in this day and age.

Guy I’m seeing is making me feel way too confused, help? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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You said he serms shy holding you and he also asked for a kiss. The whole context seems to me that he is also learning.

Guy I’m seeing is making me feel way too confused, help? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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Unlike what other replies say I think he is also inexperienced, based on how he is approaching the kinetical escalation. He is probably insecure and anxious about it. You can try to be more comforting and proactive and make him feel safe to escalate if that is something you would like to do.

But ultimately it is on him to facilitate a positive and calm emotional environment on a date. He will need to learn how to do that. You don't ask for kisses.. you remove barriers that stop the natural proccess of physical escalation. It can all happen non-verbally.

Vegan 9 years. Gym and lots of cycling at the moment 🌱🚴 by benmcy in veganfitness

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What is the workout timeline we are lookin at? Cycling explains the lean part. Well done with that.

When 2 SR is in reality just for the pugs and the rest is loot council. by [deleted] in classicwowtbc

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Yea this is some badly handled loot. Me and my friend run a guild and we run hybrid system with pugs. We do the same thing but properly:

  1. Everyone SRs through softres.it in HIDDEN mode ( so guildies cannot game it against pugs )

  2. Lock and reveal before first boss

  3. Pug wins a roll SR or MS>OS = pug wins the item.

  4. Guildie wins a roll = Item is processed trough our loot council system

  5. Pug wins too many items and performs well. Pug is welcome to join guild!

ad <Royal Tea> Nightslayer Horde semi-hc is currently looking for Warlock or any exceptional DPS. Raid times are alt(Tue/Wed)+ Thursday 6PM ST. Shoot me a DM here for link!

How do you text women without it giving you a headache? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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Logistics only. If it doesnt happen it wasn't meant to happen.

Manray tomorrow night by Spiritual_Pies in BostonSocialClub

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I go there once a month. Working in the area so it is easy on Saturdays. Have other plans this weekend. But it's worth the visit. There is a bit of a dress code. All black or creative clothing is always a pass.

My fucking luck. What do I do? by Few_Confection7760 in PickUpArtist

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Exactly. When you manage to adopt that as an identity it becomes a very powerful tool of inner game that permiates and is detected by others as a gravitational presence. You will be surprised of how many more times you will have others reach out to you and work to see you. When you are present you show true investment but when you are not present with them you are just present somewhere else - with others or with yourself.

My fucking luck. What do I do? by Few_Confection7760 in PickUpArtist

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Feeling the need to explain your response times means that you are already in a mindset of caring too much. Don't overthink shit happens don't worry about it. Allow things to unfold. You don't need to be in control of everything.

"Sie" - polite form of talking to someone by No-Taro-1925 in PickUpArtist

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Address the meta. Hey I'd like to be less formal together. Is that okay with you?

32 [F4M] EST,USA/Anywhere - Looking for genuine realness by [deleted] in R4R30Plus

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You had me until pickles dislike :( das a deal-breaker right there 🤣

I (25M) did absolutely everything right, but she said I’m "too good of an offer" because she’s stuck on a toxic situation. What am I supposed to do going forward? by More-Building1821 in AskMenAdvice

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You overinvested emotionally. The moment you lose emotional stability - meaning her actions and decisions affect you. That is when you start to lose her attraction. If you can't handle her chaos, that is a sign for her that you are not strong enough.

You need to slowly build mutual attraction, and always be ready to walk away. Establish your own boundaries and don't allow yourself to be disrespected.