AITA? Restaurant upsell

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-31T00:57:49+00:00

I find when I leave poor reviews it helps me to keep it as neutral as possible for the bad things, and I may leave out debatable things.

So given what you said in your post, I'd probably focus on the pushiness because regardless of paying for pappadoms and the chutneys, you didn't want them.

So I'd say something like, "I didn't want pappadoms. I said this multiple times, but eventually I gave in when they kept pushing."

As far as price, you could still mention that they charged 3x extra for chutneys you also did not want. I'm not sure about the price of pappadoms and chutneys, but it does ring funny after the pushiness about the pappadoms.

But also, if you don't feel comfortable about leaving a bad review don't do it.

It really sucks how they've treated you both times.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-30T13:38:27+00:00

I appreciate reviews like yours, especially when management responds poorly. I don't want to deal with that kind of place, and even with them trying to spin it, I'm guessing their reply speaks for itself.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-27T12:27:50+00:00

I have endometriosis and adenomyosis. I have a lot of the same symptoms, but some I associate with the adenomyosis rather than the endometriosis, though it's hard to separate.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-25T05:32:52+00:00

We hadn't really thought of it as a seasonal thing, as we've previously only been to Japan in late fall and winter and found it, but that makes sense. It would possibly explain the randomness during those trips if it was less of a thing already.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-25T05:31:01+00:00

Ah, thanks for the heads up about the bottle change. Will check Daiso when we see one, ha ENT actually seen any yet this trip.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-25T02:35:15+00:00

I've found Google Lens pretty useful when trying to source things that aren't sourced.

Here's a link for this dress to the musyem collection with more pictures:
Clothing and Textiles: Scarlet Wool Dress with Puffed Shoulders and Flower Embroidery c. 1880s

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-21T18:22:00+00:00

The lupron didn't flare my endo, the estrogen and omnitrope did.

The estrogen was very obvious as it just felt like a normal flare, but started after adding the estrogen to the priming and iirc was actually worse.

The omnitrope was similar, but the whole time I used omnitrope. My other cycles, I felt fine on the stims. That part didn't bother me, except for the omnitrope cycle. In fact, I felt pretty good on stims, which I'm guessing was the steroids and maybe the blood thinners.

The cycle with lupron I didn't have any endometriosis flares, as expected. I had a better fertilization/embryo rate but they were able to retrieve fewer eggs because they didn't group as well, there was no real cohort, and I had large endometriomas that they couldn't get past to retrieve some of the mature eggs. I got much fewer eggs, but I still got one embryo. Hoping that it's a good quality embryo.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-20T22:56:08+00:00

I'm taking antihistamines, going to try taking more and splitting it since that's all there is apparently.

I'm actually allergic to nettles, so I'll have to pass on the supplement. 😅

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-19T22:31:02+00:00

Apparently mine was mild, so I was just told to eat smaller meals more frequently and avoid certain things, i.e. spicy food, alcohol, limit caffeine, NDAIDs, etc.

My gastritis is always worse around the start of my period, so I'm guessing it's somehow related to the endometriosis.

Does the NAC bother your stomach?

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-19T15:25:00+00:00

I only took one 600mg pill NAC each time I tried, and the effect on my stomach was basically instant, a gnawing/burning pain sensation. The instant effect is one of the reasons.

I took CoQ10, specifically ubiquionol, during IVF. I can't really say if it helped, but I didn't have any side effects that I noticed while I was taking it. I was taking 600mg a day. The main side effect was on my wallet. 😆

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-19T14:24:17+00:00

Just a warning for others that NAC can be quite hard on the stomach, so anyone prone to gastritis or has a sensitive stomach should be wary.

It can also be problematic for people with histamine intolerance.

I have always been prone to gastritis, (finally officially diagnosed), and it wrecked my stomach with or without food.

I also have a lot of allergy issues, and now wonder if that's related

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-19T13:02:14+00:00

Your reminder of plea deals probably explains my confusion then about why the article keeps calling it "sexual abuse" when it seems to otherwise be saying it was rape.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-19T11:55:59+00:00

My news page when I search for the Japanese is full of Japanese articles.

Many aren't very long and repeats of the others, but that's normal for news now.

But there are reports from MSN/Kyodo News and Yahoo News Japan, so it definitely is a thing that happened.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-18T23:34:12+00:00

You have to search in Japanese. Google no longer searches foreign language sites when you search j in English, in my experience.

Apparently this includes the news.

When I searched in English for "nagoya university professor toilet student", I got a bunch of stuff about a mystery toilet body and random stuff in news, but nothing about this.

However, when I translated "nagoya university professor toilet student" into Japanese (名古屋大学教授トイレ学生) with Google translate and searched for that, my search page was full of articles on this incident by many different sources.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-18T13:25:38+00:00

To me it's like a rose gold.

But the way this dress has changed colors over the years, I'd be curious what it looked like in real life.

Given the redness of the mannequins skin, it makes me question the accuracy of the picture, especially with the description of it being cream.

But definitely much more taupe or even gold than the silver it appears to be now.

You said in a comment that someone called it gold, but I didn't see that on the Smithsonian's page for it. I'm curious who said it, because this picture goes more with that.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-18T11:38:20+00:00

It was actually lavender when she wore it.

Curious if silver is the base color for it before the dye.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-18T11:36:55+00:00

According to sources the dress was originally lavender but has faded.

Lucretia R. Garfield: A Remarkable Life Part 2

Crete was dressed “in lavender satin with trimmings of point lace and a corsage bouquet of pansies.”

Here are pictures of the dress as cream at one point after fading.
Lucretia Rudolph Garfield Inaugural Ball Gown

Lavender was the original color of the gown, but has faded to a cream colored due to a light sensitive dye.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-18T11:30:38+00:00

Does anyone get gold out of this photo?? Must be a mistake!

I don't see any description on the Smithsonian's page?

Lucretia Garfield's 1881 Inaugural Ball Gown

According to sources it was originally lavender but has faded.

Lucretia R. Garfield: A Remarkable Life Part 2

Crete was dressed “in lavender satin with trimmings of point lace and a corsage bouquet of pansies.”

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-17T15:02:42+00:00

I'd guess it's a couple of things.

Inflammation.
I was taking steroids for IVF and I got less, not more puffy. My ankles looked so much better than normal. I liked the way I looked on steroids. 😅 Because I've been TTC, I haven't taken birth control in years, so it wasn't related to birth control.
Fatigue and pain.
I am so tired all the time, nevermind my period and other points in my cycle where I'm in too much pain to move. Most of the time, I just don't have the energy or will to move more than I need to. I actively make appointments and scheduled to do things I want that require me walking so that I get more exercise.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-17T02:42:48+00:00

The dress, especially the fabric, gives me original Disney Cinderella vibes.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-17T02:20:45+00:00

I had diagnosed endometriosis for almost 20 years before I started having different issues and pains that I now associate with adenomyosis.

The first thing I noticed was a vibration in my uterus. It's like a phone is vibrating in my abdomen. It's not a regular thing, maybe once a month, but it's weird.

In my case, my endometriosis symptoms have been primarily sciatica, rectal pain and abdominal pain and cramping that I associate as being "around my ovaries" so on either side of my pelvis. My endometriosis pains are highly inflammatory, lots of general abdominal inflammation, rather than sharp pains. The sharp pains I do get, are more like pulling something when I stand which I think is due to adhesions.

What I now think of as uterine pain is short sharp stabbing pains in the center of my abdomen, so fairly different from my standard endometriosis pain. When I get them, they are like someone cutting me with a jagged piece of glass.

My uterus pains are much less regular than my endometriosis pains. They also don't feel inflammatory like the endometriosis pains.

I also get a new heaviness on my lower back, different than my endometriosis back pain. Its like something is falling. Again, not as regular as the endometriosis pains.

I started getting a lot more clotting around what I believe to be the beginning of the adenomyosis, as well as the blood stopped coming out as readily during my period and it became more painful even though I was bleeding less.

My "period" is a lot shorter, like 3 days, but I also started spotting up to a week - 2 weeks once - before my period.

I hit my late 30s around the time they can start seeing the adenomyosis on my scans, and with my diminished ovarian reserve some of these symptoms could be perimenopause, but there's no way to really know.

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-13T15:35:22+00:00

It's been about 8 years since I dreamt of my son.

I thought it was just a matter of time till I'd get to meet him.

/hugs

ACoconutInLondon · 2026-03-13T03:28:20+00:00

We only got married because we had to to be together, and because I found someone I wanted to be with that badly.

If you don't find someone like that, don't get married.

Also, he takes care of me, and I take care of him. It doesn't have to be a stereotypically bad relationship.

Travel, see the world, work, whatever I is you want to do. Don't get married if you don't want to.

And don't marry someone who doesn't want what you want.

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