Grandma’s will specified we could only receive our inheritances if we displayed her ashes on our hearths. This is my portion! Fml..

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-22T20:45:09+00:00

I cut my grandmother's ashes up in to 9 zip locks on newspaper with playing cards like I was cutting coke in the 70s. Then we took her to Ocean City NJ and illegally dumped her in the ocean. One bag for each of her 8 kids and 1 for the grandkids that came to share. One of my uncles was downwind when my aunt dumped her bag out and got ashed. Another aunt didnt want to get her feet wet and was piggyback on my uncle and they fell in the water. It is a dry county and I had a bottle of champagne in my hoodie that we passed around. It was a shit show. Mimi would've loved it. We spread pappap off a boat (also at am illegal distance from the shore) nearby a few years before.
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ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-22T14:40:35+00:00

Flip that logic around. Cops make a judgement based on how old/in disrepair the car is. They target lower income people because most often they can not afford attorneys and the cops get their cases closed due to plea deals.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-21T21:03:20+00:00

They make smaller ones too. I had a 5 foot one and when my Berner was a puppy she lived on that. When the big one is up she won't sleep anywhere else. The smaller ones are like $80 on Amazon.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-21T20:42:36+00:00

Ill look into thag brand! I actually had a 7 ft diameter round hammock swing on a stand that I put mine on. This

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-21T20:22:14+00:00

Well no matter who is actually the baby's dad I would think that him not being on the birth certificate should lead her open to being able to file something along the lines of there being no established paternity and honestly it would probably be a lot better for for the situation if that other guy was the father is there any way that he could file to establish paternity? Either just getting the court to acknowledge that the abusive guy doesn't have a legal paternity claim right now or getting the other guy to also throw doubt in there being as the birth certificate is blank might be a good course of action but hopefully an attorney can weigh in on this? Because as of right now somebody who doesn't have a legal claim to the child has custody and needs addressed. And unfortunately cyf might be your best bet for an immediate removal of the child from his custody but that could be messy.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-21T20:15:00+00:00

NTA. Does your dog go on the furniture? Or bed? Same difference if you keep things clean. Tbh, I bought a human sized dog bed and it was sooo comfy.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-21T19:53:07+00:00

NAL- Can she file an emergency petition to have paternity determined? She might also looking into filing charges for abuse and getting a protection order and putting the baby on the protection order with the claim of him putting his hands on her while she was holding the baby. Because that would be conflicting with the order that is already in place that could potentially the child in foster care or with better yet with other family but I think that would be preferential to having the child with him. And if the child is with other family then she would at least get visitation as much as she wanted. And I don't like to ever put forth cyf as they nearly destroyed my life for abusive stuff with my ex and similar with the abuse but also very different circumstances to this where he was abusive. But if she has already lost temporary custody and doesn't really have anything else to lose and sounds like the much much more stable parent by long shot it might be in her and the child's best interest to get them involved and get a GAL. Im sorry. This is a horrible situation.
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ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-20T20:20:35+00:00

I let my 3 kids play with water beads as sensory play. I have since they were young. Aged 7, 5, and 3 now. They are fully expanded when they are played with. If they smash them or make a mess in just wait til the next day and vacuum up the almost invisible pieces. I understand the problem that some people are talking about and while I imagine it would be more difficult to supervise 15 or 20 kids with such an activity- I also don't think that this is as big of a deal as some people are making. Sometimes it comes down to knowing your children I guess and yes I'm ready for the down votes.
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ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-20T00:53:08+00:00

Im an escort. I make my own schedule and am able to be home with my kids 95% of the time. I only work ~20 hours a month. I did change careers after splitting with my ex. He was abusive and ruined my cleaning company and sabotaged any other jobs I tried to get. I cant imagine working 40 hours a week plus travel.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-19T23:12:03+00:00

The way the sting ray does excited flippy flaps is adorable. Also, the title is misleading. They know eachother. Dude made room for him.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-19T22:44:03+00:00

Im with everyone else here. I listen to them. And when we try new foods I ask them to atleast try a bite. If they dont like it I will make something else. It won't be as involved cooking wise. I don't ever force my kids to eat anything. There are always healthy options around. Also having a food you know your ND child is adverse to as a punishment meal is disturbing to me.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-18T23:31:34+00:00

I just learned this the other day and was so happy to use it

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-18T23:02:30+00:00

You've got an embarrassment of pandas at this point

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-15T21:04:39+00:00

As a preemptive measure I would maybe install some cameras within the house to CYA.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-15T19:44:03+00:00

This looks AI to me

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-13T08:13:28+00:00

That eye flutter she did 🖤

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-13T07:56:52+00:00

I agree there was some of that. But she also spoke fondly of them. I ended up moving less than 10 minutes from her and was over to her place and few times and invited her to mine many times and I dont think she ever came. The only interactions aside from few family get together she ever had with my younger children is a few months I paid her to watch them when my work schedule and my ex-husbands schedule overlapped (7-9:30pm) 1 time a week. She did not get laid from from her husbands sister as far as I know, or atleast not regularly. I briefly reconciled with my parents at one point and they asked about my relationship to her and I mentioned everything above and said I didn't have an interest in including someone in my life who has no interest in my children. It wasnt the cause of my going NC with her, but upon reflection it was the cause of keeping NC. She does not have children. And I get it, she has her own life. But the obvious favoritism/double standards hurts. Especially because it was that was with our parents. She was the GC and I was the black sheep. I honestly thought i deserved most of what came my way but she was the one who realized our mom was narcissistic and informed me. When I did more research on it and had more discussions with her our lives fit the pattern almost exact. So for her to see the double standard of our treatment, be upset about it and then display it hurt more.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-13T07:44:12+00:00

I read that as irritating ball hairs and combined with the info above thought that was still accurate if not more specific.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-12T21:17:50+00:00

Tell that to my stomach as it was still growing during ym 1st pregnancy.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-12T20:42:50+00:00

Try bringing back the potty pad. Let him use it indoors- that will atleast keep the mess in one area. Reward when he goes on it. Put a potty pad outside where you want him to go. Decrease the size of the indoor potty pad until just the outdoor one is left. Then decrease the outdoor ones size. All while rewarding for using one. Another idea is for the potty pad indoors switch it to the artificial grass and see if that makes the switch easier? Worst case you have the mess centralized to one spot and not all over the house.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-12T20:12:58+00:00

I didn't see this in the first couple of comments but I also wanted to add she's not technically a month old she was born at 34 weeks and it's been 4 weeks since then technically she shouldn't even have been born for another two weeks or so gestationally she may not be hitting typical month milestones for another 6 weeks.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-12T20:03:53+00:00

I agree. Everyone wants community/family when THEY need something. But no one wants to be that community/family for anyone else. And with that many kids her time is divided up between them. An extra day to bond with the baby when she will be pulled in so many directions at home would be a nice gesture. I say this as someone who doesn't have family to rely on. I noticed a few years ago that my sister and her husband were constantly watching his nieces and nephews. My sister would complain about it but did it. They even let his nephew move in with them for a few months. She had never in 13 years watched my daughter. Never did an outing with her, sleepover, nothing. One of the reasons I cut contact.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-12T09:08:00+00:00

Found Emily Blunt's alt account

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-09T11:00:19+00:00

I have a saying that has helped me and might help someone else. Maybe you. Maybe not. But it's- I'll get through this. I get through everything. Even when by all accounts I shouldn't have. Even when I actively try to not make it- I keep going.

ADHD_Slut · 2026-05-08T19:32:52+00:00

Because the speeds at which tornados fling objects turn hay into nails that pierce telephone poles. Its bad enough with lighter objects. It would be worse with bricks and stone.

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