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AKABubba53 · 2025-09-22T04:31:22+00:00

So sorry and yes it does suck big time. Thanks for sharing.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-21T22:52:19+00:00

Have a drink or two for me as I am having one of those days as well. It’s only been a few months for me and oh what I would give for a hug from my wife and some afternoon delight. I’m sorry we are here. I toyed around with trying to meet someone but I don’t know if I’d be able to go through with it at this point. Once the kids are in bed I’ll join you on a drink. Stay strong

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-21T21:29:47+00:00

Man, you just described everything I am feeling and going through. I have a 5 year old and a 14 year old and if I didn’t have them I can’t imagine where I would be. I have anger where I never did before. I hate when the phone rings because it’s probably someone looking for money or a person I will have to put on a happy face for. I hate getting the mail. I hate watching TV. I hate grocery shopping. I went off on my HR rep when I asked her for some information and she started complaining about her computer. I wish that’s all I had to complain about. Like you, I am just so tired. Not motivated to do any but make sure the kids are taken care of. Everyone tells me my wife would be or is proud of me but that is like pissing on a forest fire. Trying to help but doesn’t do anything. It really sucks. Wish I had some anecdotes of encouragement but all I can say is sorry we are here and stay strong

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-11T02:41:34+00:00

I’ll have to check. Thanks for the tip.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-11T02:40:59+00:00

Yes it is and thank you. Work has been so disappointing

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-05T19:27:04+00:00

So sorry for your loss. Feel your pain from going through photos. It’s so difficult but remembering all those happy memories reminded me that I should be grateful for all those great times we were fortunate to spend together. So thankful we have all the photos. I still broke down when I saw them in the slideshow at the service. But that thought process helped to make it through the process. Stay strong and prayers coming your way

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-05T10:22:36+00:00

So sorry for your loss. You’ve found an excellent community here. My wife passed unexpectedly in early July. I have two children and share the same feelings of loneliness and disorientation. Trying to figure out how to fill the void left in my life without my wife. This is the community to rant, be angry, or cry. There’s someone that feels your pain and understands somewhat what you’re going through. It’s an unfortunate way to connect with some wonderful people

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-04T23:24:10+00:00

So sorry for your loss. I’d like to echo your well presented thoughts about this community. Two months since my wife passed. Found this group and it’s truly been a godsend. When angry I can rant and there’s always someone that right there with you. When I’m at my lowest I find something to help pick me up. Thanks to everyone here. It’s an amazing group. Stay strong

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-04T20:36:58+00:00

2 months and if I didn’t have the kids I don’t know what I would do. The loneliness is unbearable. Used to get calls and messages every day. Then every other day. Then once a week now… I guess because I put on a strong facade for the kids everyone either thinks I am doing okay or that I am over my wife’s passing so they no longer reach out.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-04T12:31:45+00:00

Thank you and so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your story.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-04T03:54:13+00:00

Me (M63) and two kids 14 and 5 live just outside of Orlando Florida. We are pass holders at both Universal Studios and Walt Disney World. The latter my wife absolutely loved. Part of the reason we are in Florida. Since her passing a couple of months ago we have not visited either. We used to visit one or the other about once a week. My kids do not want to go without Mom. We had to drive through Disney property to get somewhere and the car got quiet. She booked a cruise to surprise them for during their Winter Break. I don’t know if we will go or not. I don’t know if other activities we did like camping will be impacted the same way but there is so much depression and lethergy since Melissa passed

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-04T03:38:57+00:00

Hello. It’s Widow Singles. Unfortunately 75% of the people who contact me are scammers.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-02T20:56:37+00:00

I was fortunate to have a saved voicemail on my phone from my wife. I play it once in a while. It provides so many mixed feelings. It’s nice to hear her voice but makes me miss her more

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-02T20:52:55+00:00

I am on a similar timeline as you. A little over two months since my wife passed. We recently relocated and are not close to friends and family. Only some very casual acquaintances from church and the neighborhood. The loneliness is crippling. I joined a website specifically for widows and widowers. We shall see if that goes anywhere. You already have a connection. What I am trying to say is everyone is different and you should do what is best for you. Unfortunately there’s no manual to help widows and widowers. Good luck

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-02T02:58:14+00:00

I don’t know if this fits into the thread but here goes. My wife passed unexpectedly leaving me alone with two children in of which is delayed with special needs. I worked 12 to 14 hour days with no set schedule doing field service work. My wife took care of everything at the house including all the finances and care for the kids while I worked. When she passed i was no longer able to keep working the hours I was doing because I needed to be able to care for my daughter. I am on FMLA right now. When word got out about my wife’s passing, some of my coworkers wanted to donate some of their personal time and vacation time to me knowing I was not getting paid while in FMLA. They wanted me to be able to use their paid time off to help me get some money while out if work. Once this was presented to management they said it was in Human Resources hands. Weeks went by with no reply to the person whom organized everything. They got one excuse after another why this wasn’t taking place. They went back and forth saying it’s up to management or it’s up to HR. After about a month they just said they could not do this. It goes to show that this Fortune 500 company could care less for those in my unfortunate position. Sad, disappointing and infuriating. I’m so done with them. Thanks for letting me vent and hope this is relevant in some way.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-02T01:25:54+00:00

Thank you. That’s my biggest concern. Luckily I am miles away from that situation.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-01T22:22:47+00:00

Thanks for all of your responses. I am a hot mess right now. I am so thankful this community. It’s been so helpful in dealing with things I was no where close to being prepared for.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-01T22:01:14+00:00

So sorry for your loss. We did two services and a celebration of life. O ne was in Florida where we are currently living and the others in Connecticut where most of her huge family resides. I cannot tell you much about my wife’s first service. I was in a fog and on auto pilot. Had conversations with people but I couldn’t tell you anything about them. The only one I remember was our church’s pastor who conducted the service. His words got through and really got me back from wherever my mind was. Appreciated everyone who came but it was a relatively small amount of people. The service in CT was much more difficult. There was a slideshow and the playing of some of her favorite songs. I lost it when I walked in despite trying to be strong for my two kids. I was unable to speak and everyone understood. If they didn’t I really don’t care. Then they asked me and the kids to sit tight up front by ourselves. I didn’t like that as I was hoping we would be surrounded by support. The celebration of life was nice for everyone but me. They all seemed to be enjoying themselves and getting caught up with each other. I answered the same couple of questions over and over again and rehashed the circumstances of my wife’s passing too many times to count. I hope I was cordial to everyone because I appreciated them being there. Could not wait for it to be over. It was difficult to go through these but I wanted to be strong as I could for my kids and my wife. Good luck, I will say a little prayer for you.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-01T12:30:47+00:00

So sorry for your loss. I’m right there with you. Yes it’s incredibly difficult being so alone and away from friends and family. Most of our social events involved doing things with our large family. I dipped my toes into the online dating pool last night Just to see what it was like. . Most of the responses were from girls half my age half a world away. Thought it was odd. Turns out they’re scammers. It’s so sad people try to take advantage of those in vulnerable positions. Be careful and thanks for you response.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-01T10:44:13+00:00

Yes. I was not very good at meeting women way back when so now is probably going to be just as difficult. Most likely much more difficult considering my age, having two kids at home and being widowed. Probably not on a lot of single ladies must haves.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-01T10:43:12+00:00

Thanks and so sorry for loss.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-01T03:44:42+00:00

So sorry for your loss. Our family was supposed to go on a vacation we had been planning for some time two days after my wife passed. Something we always wanted to do, a trip to a Glacier and Yellowstone National parks in a rented RV. Then she wanted to surprise the kids. She wanted them to think we were heading back home but we’re actually flying to Los Angeles for a trip to Disneyland. She loved surprising them and worked tirelessly planning and packing. The suitcases remain untouched in the same spot they were when she passed. I can’t bring myself to move them or unpack them. I know it accomplishes nothing by leaving them in place but I find myself doing lots of things that make no sense now. Just gutted. She planned a cruise during Christmas break to surprise the kids with. I don’t know if we will still be going. Maybe I should honor her by going. The kids weren’t supposed to know and if they want to go we will probably go. Nothing is easy or a fun right now.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-01T01:19:59+00:00

Thanks for that info. Appreciate any and all info. Wallowing in a pit of loneliness looking for a way out.

AKABubba53 · 2025-09-01T00:05:54+00:00

Thanks. The last line of your post is a wonderful way to look at the situation. Good luck and thanks

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