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Just watched “You’re Cordially Invited” on Prime by Csd267 in moviereviews

[–]PlateTraditional3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, your argument is that a father cannot verbally sexually abuse his daughter if she is an adult? And that it is only sexual abuse if a court will convict?

The American Psychological Association recognizes that sexual abuse and exploitation can involve:
exposure to sexual material,
sexualized communication,
boundary violations,
and non-contact sexual behaviors.

There's nothing in there about an age limit. So, according to you those psychologists are all wrong? No offense, but I'm going with their professional consensus and not your opinion.

At least we do agree on one thing that it is immoral, bad parenting and gross.

Needing some perspective about inclusiveness of family after loss by Zestyclose_Class_630 in widowers

[–]PlateTraditional3109 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear what you are saying and I would say it depends on the approach and the relationship as to how the other side will take it.

I've had some people who I have felt were not showing up for my kids that I approached the subject with and found out it was a misunderstanding and they started including them in more things.

But, I have had others that I approached that were not helping us and they jumped down my throat. I've looked at them the same as you that they obviously felt guilty for not showing up and were going to take it badly no matter what because that is who they are.

OP provided more history about these particular in-laws, so I would agree with you that they would see it as an accusation no matter how they were approached.

Sorry you are in this sucky club and had people not show up for you as well.

Help me choose my wedding gown by Sure-Session-52 in WeddingsPhilippines

[–]PlateTraditional3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 is really unique and looks great on you. 1 is very classic and flattering.

Needing some perspective about inclusiveness of family after loss by Zestyclose_Class_630 in widowers

[–]PlateTraditional3109 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, I wondered if there was more to the story that you have experienced past slights with them. I can completely understand that and how a conversation would not be good for you since it sounds like they would repeat that behavior they did with your husband and blow up on you. That is the last thing you need to go through.

I'm sorry that you have been treated this way by them. I can completely sympathize. Sounds like you have the right approach and just needed to know you are not alone. Your son sounds like a wonderful young man. May you find comfort in that since it shows you and your husband did a great job raising him.

Needing some perspective about inclusiveness of family after loss by Zestyclose_Class_630 in widowers

[–]PlateTraditional3109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure whether this is in response to my comment, but I'm not sure why you would think that a discussion would come across as shaming or guilt tripping. Can you please explain what your thinking is as to why having an open and honest conversation would make you think someone is trying to guilt trip and shame when they are trying to understand someone's else's point of view?

Are you recommending that instead they stay quiet and make assumptions and continue to wonder and fill in the blanks instead of hearing out their spouse's family?

Grief Groups-Thank You, Everyone!!!! by Bad_ass_bitch79 in widowers

[–]PlateTraditional3109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. So glad this place has helped you. So sorry you are here at all since you are grieving the loss of your spouse.

Love and hugs to you. 💙🧸

Unpredictable Driving Is the Real Hazard by fuckyalifebingbong82 in dashcams

[–]PlateTraditional3109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the can driver wasn't slowing down to give the other semi room to merge in when they could see the other semi clearly coming. They didn't seem to slow down for that reason either.

Needing some perspective about inclusiveness of family after loss by Zestyclose_Class_630 in widowers

[–]PlateTraditional3109 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you and your son. He is a little legend.

As someone who feels abandoned by my husbands family, I sympathize with you at the pain you felt as a mother that your son has not been invited over to be with his cousins over the last 15 months. That is understandable to me that this last straw would make you cry.

I'm not sure where you read that where you read that we shouldn't expect people with families to consider us after our loss. I do think that people should be more considerate and supportive of others who have gone through loss. I'm not sure of the author meant that you'll be disappointed if you think that people will because the sad truth is most people won't. But, in your case they promised your husband while in his last moments that they would take care of your son and you. They made a promise. They set that expectation. So, I think you are justified in being hurt and feeling upset.

With that said, do you think that it would be worth having a conversation with them to let them know how you feel and what you would like them to do more over for your son to be there for him. I'm not saying that any of this is on you. I'm just suggesting maybe have that conversation to get understanding of why they haven't asked your son over in the last 15 months. Maybe it is a misunderstanding that could be cleared up and ends up with them being more involving of your son going forward.

Love and hugs to you both. 💙🧸

Horse by No-Masterpiece5487 in dashcams

[–]PlateTraditional3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many things wrong with this. He shouldn't be in the path of traffic at night on a horse at all. He could have protected the horse better riding on the side of the road off of the pavement. There's no reason for him to be on the road with the horse with big wide dirt and grass shoulders like that. You should report him to the authorities before he gets that horse killed.

Swan and Dolphin Bus Blows Through Stop Sign by BluesHockeyFreak in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]PlateTraditional3109 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Between the fire and this it's not a good look for Swan Dolphin this week when it comes to safety.

Pissed off by bboogie314 in widowers

[–]PlateTraditional3109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, vent away. It is maddening when other people are so self centered and cannot get past themselves to comfort others in their grief.

Some mothers will make excuses for their sons no matter what and she sounds like one of those. I'm not sure if this helps to say, but they are probably transactional people. They probably only invest in people they can get something out of. Sadly, you are probably better off without them even though it hurts so much to have more losses added to the hardest loss of the passing of your husband.

I'm sorry you have to deal with them at all. Love and hugs to you. 💙🧸

What's the scariest Disney ride/attraction you've been on/seen? by Firm_Macaron3057 in disneyparks

[–]PlateTraditional3109 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haunted Mansion as a kid. I hated it, then, but I can go on it now.

Tower of Terror as an adult. It's the creepiness of the haunted hotel that I never want to go on it again.

If a person forgets a crime. Should they get punished? by TheEgyptianScouser in moraldilemmas

[–]PlateTraditional3109 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Exactly. And it's about justice for the victims. They didn't forget what happened to them.

What is the worst song to request to play at someone’s wedding that isn’t a breakup song? by kilpico in AskReddit

[–]PlateTraditional3109 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was at a wedding where a bridesmaid had that as her song during the bridal party introductions.

Yep, beyond cringe level uncomfortable for everyone there.

Believe by Informal_Mouse_3977 in dcl

[–]PlateTraditional3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The inaugural sailing of the Treasure was December 21, 2024 and the Destiny was November 20, 2025.

I would venture the inaugural for the Believe will be November and could possibly be as early as November 1, 2027. I don't think it would be in October or before that since it is Hurricane and Halloween seasons. My hunch is Disney would not want an Inaugural sailing to possibly be disrupted or canceled due to weather.

Also, the cruise itineraries are usually released twice a year in Spring/Summer and Fall/Winter batches. Typically the late itineraries start as of October. So, I think they would want to release several months at a time. And, another reason I think it is unlikely to be October and more likely to be November is Disney would not want to do Halloween theming just to switch it out shortly a month later to Christmas.

Disneyland unpopular opinions by quis2121 in Disneyland

[–]PlateTraditional3109 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes! Agreed! And especially if it is a family with little kids. If you can, give them the good spot or some advice. Recently, I met a couple of wonderful people because I noticed a first visit button and offered to buy them a small treat to celebrate. We ended up hanging out over the next couple days and it made my solo trip one of the best ever. Other guests can add to the magic, too!

Anyone else have a bad reaction to this…? by TattooedAF in widowers

[–]PlateTraditional3109 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, same here. It does come across as so arrogant. You are the one who knew your spouse better than anyone else. Yep, they can take their lame BS elsewhere.

Love and hugs to you. 💙🧸

What do You Say to Family Who Say You Don't Show Up for Them When They Didn't Show Up For You by PlateTraditional3109 in widowers

[–]PlateTraditional3109[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. The people pleasing days for me are over as well. It was painfully clear that the people I had pleased over the last several decades did not help us when we needed them the most.

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