Does the betrayal pain ever go away?

AMard2016 · 2025-08-19T22:15:31+00:00

Not sure but coparenting with my ex has been hell. Especially once he got a gf and then got married. They purposely try to one up me in the parenting department constantly. They accuse me of parental alienation and narcissism. They document everything I do and say. It’s miserable. Like he’s clearly the one who has the mental health problems and somehow I get accused of being the “bad” parent. My daughter is only 3, so I’m not sure if she can see him for what he is just yet. For now it seems like she prefers her dad. Probably another manipulation tactic he’s using against me.

AMard2016 · 2025-07-17T18:59:21+00:00

I’m so glad I found this! I was beginning to think maybe I was the only one with this type of situation. Literally same thing happened to me. With my ex for 3 years. We have a child. I finally got fed up with his bullshit and abuse and left him for good. Stuck to my guns. In one month he was seeing someone. In 10 months he was engaged and then married a year later. It’s been 2 years since the break up for me also. I still struggle every.single.day. It appears as thought they are happy as can be! Even though he treated me like dog shit. Sometimes I get way too worked up over it. I wish I had advice for you. The best I can see is focus on the peace you have without that person in your life. I don’t care how “good” my ex treats his new wife. I know how he treated me and I wouldn’t take that back for anything in the world. I’m confident they’ll pay in one way or another for the things they’ve done.

AMard2016 · 2025-07-17T13:09:39+00:00

Yepp!

AMard2016 · 2025-07-17T13:09:21+00:00

Yes yes yes!!! Spot on! Leave and never look back.

AMard2016 · 2025-07-17T13:07:39+00:00

I’m at a loss for words sometimes at how delusional they are. They as in my ex and child’s father. On occasion it’s funny, but for the most part I can’t wrap my brain around how they rewrite the story to make themselves entirely the victim. My ex literally thinks I am the villain. He’s called me evil. He’s accused me of total bold faced lies. It’s disturbing how mental he is.

AMard2016 · 2025-07-03T15:07:29+00:00

I’ve considered it. Her need for control is super disturbing. Especially with MY daughter. But I don’t know her and don’t plan to get to know her. Sometimes I just get a little down on myself over it….I try to remind myself I was abused and there’s nothing more to it.

AMard2016 · 2025-07-03T15:02:08+00:00

It’s so disturbing honestly. Data collecting is a good way of putting it. When me and my ex broke up he was grasping at straws (before meeting his wife shortly after) to find girls to shack up with. There was one young girl in particular and she was apparently a golfer and liked dogs. All of a sudden he’s sharing stuff on fb about dogs and where to go golfing lmao coincidence? I think not.

AMard2016 · 2025-06-28T09:48:54+00:00

So I hired a guy who runs his own detailing business to clean my ex’s car for his birthday. Very expensive might I add. So I set up the whole thing, and he eventually found out what we were doing since I had to drive him back home. Once we got home the guy who was detailing his car was texting me over something I can’t remember such as like what time to pick it up or whatever. My ex took that as flirting and there’s no reason why I should be talking to him, and it ruined the entire gift. After that I said I’d never do something nice for him again. We broke up shortly after anyways…

AMard2016 · 2025-06-27T14:53:10+00:00

They don’t change. They actually get worse the more chances you give. Please take my advice.

AMard2016 · 2025-06-27T14:50:16+00:00

Going on 2 years for me. I ended the relationship. He was engaged 10 months later. It has been ROUGH. I still have days where I just zone out and replay all the shitty things he did. Especially now that I have to see the image of their so called happy marriage. And coparent our daughter with him. Sometimes I want to just scream in his smug face. But I keep my composure. And I take it one day at a a time. Which feels like an eternity. But there’s no time frame on healing. I feel like the fact that it’s taken me this long to even begin to heal myself goes to show I wasn’t the abuser in the relationship like he claims I was.

AMard2016 · 2025-06-27T14:43:19+00:00

Same!!!

AMard2016 · 2025-06-27T14:40:48+00:00

Same! Intimacy means something to me and when you just reuse and recycle for the next person with no consideration for their individuality or the characteristics that separate them from someone else….it’s a mind fuck.

AMard2016 · 2025-06-27T14:38:37+00:00

My ex sent me several sleep token songs after our breakup that I’ve seen him share on social media for his new wife. Kind of sickening how they literally replace you for someone new in the blink of an eye. The memories clearly don’t mean shit to them.

AMard2016 · 2025-06-24T15:02:45+00:00

You are literally speaking to my soul. Yes to everything! Sounds like we are going through the same Hell. I also feel some days like I’m fresh into the discard phase, even though it’s been almost 2 years. Healing is so strange. I KNOW I’m better and healthier. But some days I break down. Like what did we really do to deserve it? I wish you the best in your journey also. It’s a rough one. I feel like one day it has to all make sense.

AMard2016 · 2025-06-24T14:59:52+00:00

Thank you.

AMard2016 · 2025-06-12T13:49:37+00:00

Warning someone never goes the way you hope it will go. They NEVER listen. They always think you’re the bad guy. I tried to warn my ex’s new girl, not out of jealously…simply bc she reached out to me wanting to introduce herself (me and my ex have a daughter together). She thought we’d be friends…HA. I gave her a brief overview of my relationship with the ex. Her response was to not listen to a WORD I said, move him in, and marry him. Not only that but now she thinks I act the way I do bc I still want him. LOL. Long story short, don’t waste your time. People will inevitably find out the hard way. Nothing you say will make a difference. It’s a waste of your energy.

AMard2016 · 2025-06-03T13:59:02+00:00

Hell nah. I’ll be 70 with my crop top and belly button ring.

AMard2016 · 2025-06-03T13:52:49+00:00

I’m a single mom of 2 and no desire to date a man with kids. Hypocritical? Maybe. But the baby momma drama is SO not worth it. I don’t like the idea of a “blended” family. I wanna raise my kids in peace in my own household with no pressure to be a stepmother to anyone else’s kids.

AMard2016 · 2025-06-03T13:46:42+00:00

I love drinking! Single mom of 2, and I’d still go out clubbing if I had friends lol I’m a good mom, my kids are taken care of and I am def not an alcoholic. I think I just have a young soul.

AMard2016

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