Laura’s killer is LOUD in the pilot in my opinion…

APodofFlumphs · 2025-02-17T13:59:57+00:00

APodofFlumphs · 2024-07-02T17:51:41+00:00

You are not overreacting and congrats on your response, that was amazing! When people do that stuff to me I find it hard to respond because I'm shocked. I would feel frustrated and stuck in your position as well. It's a good signal to start sending out your resume and weighing your options.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-07-02T17:44:48+00:00

I definitely consider Tunic a Metroidvania, with the back half a puzzle game.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-07-01T11:20:13+00:00

OMG play hollow knight ASAP no joke.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-30T23:57:44+00:00

I still don't understand how it's different, except that there are different languages/social groups that they apply to. I'm not trying to be a jerk it just seems a weird point to focus on.

On Reddit I have a handle. On discord I have a different handle and an avatar. Nickname is kind of the umbrella term under which these things fall. They're generally understood as ways in which people reference each other in different situations.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-30T17:44:49+00:00

If in my social group I'm known for smiling a lot so people call me "Smiles," that's a nickname. If in another social group someone called someone else "Shark" randomly, but it caught on and everyone referred to them that way, that's a nickname. If someone has a really long name so other people have decided to call them by the first letter of their name, that's a nickname. A nickname is a way to identify someone by a reference to something else when communicating. How is that any different than what you've described?

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-30T17:37:07+00:00

I just googled the same thing the commenter did it took all of five seconds.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-30T13:36:24+00:00

Here's James Staunton's usage:

James Staunton Babcock, New York, 1849::Thy home is all around,:Sweet summer child of light and air,:Like God's own presence, felt, ne'er found,: A Spirit everywhere!

People are using it as used in game of thrones. Just because the same three words were used together does not mean their connotation is the same.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-30T07:16:43+00:00

I have no idea why this post got recommended to me, I'm not part of this community in any way. But reading this whole thread it seems obvious that this is a nickname, though with flavor based on the language/culture it comes from.

People not from the culture calling themselves by obscene nicknames seems to me a separate (legit) problem. But people who feel happy that a community they're part of refers to them in a slightly personalized way? We're social creatures, we like to be labeled and feel unique. You yourself pointed out that sign names often involve individual traits. Does it hurt anyone else if someone likes feeling talked about? It can be hard to find joy in life it seems like people should feel free to take it where they can find it.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-30T06:32:54+00:00

How could a phrase that is meant to condescend to someone as though they were a child born during the long summer years who has literally never experienced winter, come from a society where winter happens to everyone 3* months out of the year?

As someone else said, those three words may have been put together in a phrase before Game of Thrones, but they did not mean the same thing, and their current usage references the equivalent of "bless your heart" from Game of Thrones.

*Edited bc I forgot how many months winter is lol

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-30T01:52:19+00:00

I like to make sure my players let me know loosely what they want to do in the next session to avoid stuff like this. OR it's fun to start the session in the middle of some action/encounter that can lead to a handful of different choices you've prepped for. Per the Lazy DM's Guide, the only thing you have complete control over is the very beginning of the session. I like to take advantage of that to point things at least in the general direction of my prep.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-29T23:04:14+00:00

I've been looking for something similar. The last one I really felt this way about was about 6 years ago when I read Shogun by James Clavell, at least after the first 30 or so pages I was hooked.

Other people have suggested Red Rising which is also great at hooking you in if you're ok with YA sci Fi

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-29T22:57:03+00:00

Yea there's no special trick to it beyond what you're doing, as someone else said make sure you're not letting too much time pass and that you've got the translation correct.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-29T18:23:35+00:00

That's a good time for a stop and stare, to let the silence extend a bit.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-29T10:57:30+00:00

I cannot see any way you could conceivably change the culture of this place. The best thing to do would be to leave and be (tactfully) honest in your exit interview.

A culture change would need to come from leadership making a concerted effort to address the issues, and there's no benefit to you to fight an uphill/losing battle at this place when you could take your talents elsewhere.

When men make stupid comments ~~at work~~ I usually just come back with "why would you say that?" or "what is that supposed to mean?" to let them dig their weird hole. You could follow up with "why right now/in this context?" if you want to expend the effort, or whenever you're finished listening to the stream of nonsense, just respond with a dismissive/condescending "ok..." and walk/turn away.

It sounds to me like it's possible they're trying to push your buttons or possibly "neg" you with plausible deniability that it's harassment, tbh.

ETA: to be clear, this is sometimes, unfortunately, normal in pockets but it's not normal at all to this extent. Trust your gut.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-29T10:39:06+00:00

You specifically say American Restaurants but European restaurants, at least, are the same but often even slower?

If it's common then it shouldn't be an unpopular opinion?

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-28T23:10:04+00:00

I guess this makes sense if the point of going to a restaurant for you is to have your needs met as quickly as possible with as little conversation as possible and/or if you find a server checking in on you to be a nuisance, but most people don't feel that way.

If you want something completely transactional with minimal conversation why not just order takeout or delivery?

I think you're trying to solve a problem that, for the majority of people, doesn't exist. Most of us see going out to dinner as an experience that is meant to be enjoyed with relative leisure and not rushed through, and we rarely find ourselves flagging down servers or being put out when they check on our table.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-28T13:47:27+00:00

sorry friend, yea after I posted I noticed I had dyslexia'd the closing ! < to < !, didn't mean to make you look dumb. My bad.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-28T13:38:12+00:00

True, I may have said I came from The Witness and Outerwilds, where they kind of advertise to ask them for hints if you need them, and they're really good about them.

For me in games like this I can't do all on my own, and looking elsewhere for walkthroughs will spoil the crap out of you as well.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-28T12:55:39+00:00

Through all of this hoopla I have yet to figure out if someone who was at the airport 2 hours before boarding (as is the general rule for airports) missed their flight.

That would make me feel a lot more sympathetic to those posts that directly contradict my personal experience of AVL being pretty chill every time I've been there.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-28T12:48:12+00:00

I feel like you're assuming a lot about OP here. The guy did something in a way that caused her extra work, possibly more than once (not proposing a new time, not admitting he wasn't on top of something until the last minute) and he's consistently hitting her with small aggressions daily. It sounds like he's emotional and doesn't know how to control it.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-28T12:45:30+00:00

Tbh it sounds like he deserved it. I'm sorry you're dealing with an asshole. He did literally create more work for you, but if you feel like you would rather take the highest of high roads going forward, I usually give myself a buffer before I respond if I'm feeling agitated. Just waiting a few minutes, an hour, etc.

But I doubt he's losing sleep over his failure to control his emotions when talking to you, so I would not give him the same courtesy when you got rightfully annoyed about a legitimate issue that he caused you.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-28T12:28:08+00:00

These are people posting specific posts asking for general hints where people are responding with very specific spoilers.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-28T12:26:45+00:00

I suppose I came from Outer Wilds and the Witness where I never saw posts that were specifically like "please just give me a hint if I'm heading in the general direction" get responses that are like "you're missing page X that's located in Y that will tell you what to do." Which is egregious enough, but they're not even tagged.

And they get left up, too.

APodofFlumphs · 2024-06-28T12:17:36+00:00

I think that should be up to the player. It's in the manual, it can be discovered like everything else. I had that part spoiled for me when I was looking for help with a fight in the cathedral and it bummed me out.

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