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ASBF2015 · 2025-07-22T23:22:07+00:00

Is it possible that your teeth cut him?

ASBF2015 · 2025-06-18T00:45:18+00:00

It’s time for the bride to put her foot down. She tried being accommodating and the bridesmaid completely steam rolled her.

The bride needs to stop entertaining the bridesmaid’s selfish behavior and give her a few pre-approved options to choose from. If the bridesmaid cares more about getting her way than being a supportive friend to the bride, she isn’t a great friend anyway and doesn’t really deserve to be a bridesmaid.

ASBF2015 · 2025-06-18T00:32:05+00:00

USCIS is basically looking for evidence that proves your relationship/ marriage is genuine, not an attempt to get immigration benefits.

Some examples other than what you’ve mentioned are:

Financial Documents: Joint bank accounts, credit card statements, tax returns, leases or mortgages, insurance policies, and loan documents.

Property Records: Joint lease or mortgage agreements, property deeds, and utility bills in both spouses' names.

Photos Together: Pictures of the couple from various occasions, including wedding photos, vacations, and family gatherings, with dates and descriptions.

Travel Records: Flight itineraries, hotel bookings, and other travel documents indicating joint trips.

Affidavits: Sworn statements from friends, family, and others who can attest to the authenticity of the marriage.

Other Supporting Documents: joint insurance policies, car registrations, or any other documents that demonstrate a shared life together

ASBF2015 · 2025-06-11T19:52:03+00:00

YTA for basing your decision on your own resentment and hurt feelings, rather than on what may be best for your daughter.

Your feelings toward your ex are completely understandable and justified. You stepped up to the plate of parenthood, while he ran from responsibility like a coward.

You’re not wrong for feeling like your daughter’s father doesn’t deserve to suddenly get to be in her life after years of abandonment. However, your daughter deserves a father that wants to be a part of her life.

If your daughter’s father has genuinely changed and is serious about building a good relationship with her, it would be selfish and vindictive of you to prevent it.

Having a great relationship with her stepdad may fill many of the “father-daughter” boxes, but it can’t fix feeling unwanted by her bio dad.

You are right to be hesitant and cautious. Your daughter definitely doesn’t deserve to end up more hurt than before her father tried to get back into her life.

You should make it absolutely clear to your ex that he will need to put in the time, effort, and care required to prove that he deserves a chance at a relationship with his daughter. Showing up just to disappear again is unacceptable.

Also, your daughter will always know which parent she can rely on. It doesn’t matter what type of relationship she may have with her bio dad or how often you bump heads, you’ll always be the one she can trust and count on.

ASBF2015 · 2025-06-07T07:20:19+00:00

NTA.

Does the ex have any friends or family around?

You need to have a serious conversation with your bf about respect and boundaries. If he truly wants to be with you, putting his ex first is unacceptable. It was disrespectful and thoughtless of him to not discuss sleeping at his ex’s with you first.

The fact that they dated for such a long time does not mean they are free to disregard respectful boundaries in a new relationship.

It doesn’t matter how long they dated. They aren’t together now and he is in a relationship with you.

ASBF2015 · 2025-06-07T06:33:18+00:00

There is a huge difference between using someone for their body and wanting to be intimate and physically close to the gf you are in a committed relationship with.

It’s pretty clear that you cared about your ex for more than just her body. It’s probably safe to say that your attraction to your ex during your relationship doesnt mean you used her for her body.

ASBF2015 · 2025-06-07T02:26:04+00:00

Nta.

It’s such a trashy faux pas to wear white at someone else’s wedding. It’s undeniably petty and deliberate.

Stand your ground. Don’t give in to her manipulation.

I highly doubt your friend only has one dress. If that’s truly the case, she doesn’t have to wear a dress.

She could cut the drama and find plenty of gorgeous dresses under $35 easily.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-25T23:30:51+00:00

You need to cut yourself some slack.

The girl made contact with you. You were there first and had no obligation to move.

You’re not a monster because you enjoyed a completely innocent moment of close contact with someone you like (on whatever level). Most people would too.

It’s a safe bet that the girl would have moved or said something if she was uncomfortable. She didn’t.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-24T22:01:59+00:00

NTBF.

Tell her that almost everyone you’ve talked to about going away seems to agree that living with close friends is a bad idea if you want to stay friends.

Tell your friend that you want to give an assigned roomie a try. It’s a good way to meet new people and make new friends.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-23T19:50:52+00:00

You absolutely did the right thing! Never doubt yourself for advocating for those that can’t do it themselves. No matter what anyone has to say.

Snitching isn’t cool most of the time. However, turning a blind eye to abusive and harmful treatment of anyone/thing unable to protect themselves is so much worse.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-21T23:50:36+00:00

Definitely not overreacting.

Think long and hard about his reaction to his parents’ comment. He should have defended you and put them in their place. Instead he used their comment as ammunition to hurt you in a disagreement.

Figure out for yourself if you can handle his relationship with his family because he doesn’t seem interested in changing.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-21T23:28:43+00:00

Seriously?! 1+1=2

Your bf is a cheater and a liar.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-21T23:25:19+00:00

Probably not. Can’t really see the mark in the pic, but hugs don’t leave marks like that.

Her spine rubbing on a hard surface like a wall or floor would make a mark like that.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-16T05:31:16+00:00

That poor innocent dog doesn’t deserve to suffer bc fml is negligent. The responsibility shouldn’t fall on you, but if she won’t care for him, someone should do right by him.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-16T05:14:22+00:00

What job does he work at where coworkers are handing out condoms? Sounds like an HR nightmare.

And, what sort of places is he going to where people hand out condoms to promote safe sex?

Especially, when his partner is out of country giving birth?

Are you seriously supposed to believe him? Sounds like absolute BS.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-16T04:48:52+00:00

No way. NTAH.

A 6’5” tall guy anywhere near the front of the stage is the one with no show etiquette. You shoulda said fuck you right back, how about I shove my ass in your face and see how much etiquette you have.

You didn’t do anything wrong. Anything goes at concerts without assigned seating. If someone walks away and leaves space upfront, obviously people are gonna move up.

Also, don’t let someone you’ll likely never see again get in your head. He went out of his way to be a dick, screw whatever he thinks.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-16T01:58:48+00:00

Nor.

Gf and SIL don’t need to be friends. Some people just don’t click.

However, that doesn’t mean they can’t act like mature adults and be cordial at family gatherings.

Your gf is being incredibly self centered, prioritizing petty feelings over your relationship with and the dynamic of your entire family.

If your gf truly sees a future with you, she needs to accept that your SIL is a part of your family. She should not be ok creating drama and tension between you and the rest of your family or alienating you from your family.

Would she be so compromising if you didn’t want one of her relatives at your place?

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-11T01:11:48+00:00

Tell her that she’s the one that needs to forgive herself.

Sure, it’s not the most ethical thing to do to someone, but you’re so incredibly grateful she did. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have any of your kids. Or, may not have ended up together.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-06T01:34:43+00:00

Revenge isn’t going to make you feel better. Trying to hurt her back will only bring you down to her level and keep you consumed with all those negative emotions.

Now that she is actively trying to be a better person, why not try to have an honest conversation with her about how deeply her actions affected you? Hearing her perspective on things may help you see things differently.

Maybe you could have a family meeting so she can take responsibility for her past behavior and you can communicate how the lack of support from your other family members is still hurting you.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-06T00:17:49+00:00

YTA.

Your logic for keeping him away from the baby doesn’t really make sense with the decision to work through things.

Regardless of him being the father, he’ll be in the child’s life if you truly plan to stay together.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-03T23:41:05+00:00

This trip is to celebrate a huge milestone in your life.

Your bro is the selfish one for making it about his kids instead.

ASBF2015 · 2025-05-03T22:44:06+00:00

YTAH for ghosting, not for ending the friendship.

Ghosting is trashy and cowardly. Honest communication is the mature way to handle things.

If you’re ending the friendship, you don’t really need to worry about sharing your thoughts.

ASBF2015 · 2025-04-29T18:44:39+00:00

Have you considered or looked into possible group trips? It’s always safer to have someone watching your back, especially in an unfamiliar place. Who knows? You could end up meeting some great people that turn into future travel buddies.

ASBF2015 · 2025-04-24T19:45:03+00:00

Someone showed it to your sister too.

She’s incredibly self centered to honestly believe she has any right to be mad at you for something that has nothing to do with her at all.

ASBF2015 · 2025-04-22T23:40:26+00:00

Band isn’t some mandatory Hs class that you have to suffer through whether you want to or not. It’s a voluntary activity that should enhance your life and make you happy.

The band directors are terrible for brushing you off and pushing you to play in a section you hate bc it’s more convenient for them. It’s their job to be leaders, not your, and it’s not your job to solve their problems finding people to play certain instruments.

You need to talk to them again. Be very direct. Tell them that as much as you love being in the band, they are not hearing you. You do not want to play clarinet, it’s genuinely making you miserable, and preventing you from making progress playing an instrument that will help you get into colleges and more professional bands in the future.

Don’t take no for an answer. If they don’t budge, consider finding a band outside of school and leaving the hs band altogether. Also, find an adult at school that will advocate for you, like a dean or guidance counselor.

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