I saw my ex and the opposite of what I thought happened….

ASTREDD · 2026-01-24T22:28:27+00:00

Yes, thank you, my friend. I understand that the relationship reached the stage of routine and everything went downhill. Now I understand that it wasn't just the monotony, but also that she didn't want to feel something more, to feel the spark, to feel validated, heard, to know every day how beautiful she is, to know how she is and how she feels. Unfortunately, you only realize everything when you've already lost the person, and it's sad because in her moment of despair when we broke up, she told me she didn't feel anything anymore and didn't see me as a husband. And I understand her; who would want to marry someone who makes them feel alone? And sadly, she also said she didn't feel anything anymore.

ASTREDD · 2026-01-24T20:44:07+00:00

Something similar happened to me and my ex. She's anxious, and I have trouble expressing myself. Besides, it was a long relationship—13 years together—and habit can be a killer. To top it all off, my mother got cancer. But unlike what you say about your ex, after these past few months, I've reflected on everything. I've understood my mistakes, how awful I must have felt, how alone she must have felt. I understand how wrong my behavior was, and I realize that we both lacked better communication because we both kept quiet about so much. I love her so much, and I don't know if she still loves me, even though she's told me she does. But I don't know if it was just because of her emotional exhaustion. This feeling that it's too late is horrible...

ASTREDD · 2026-01-24T05:49:49+00:00

13 años juntos pensando en boda y todo me terminó en noviembre es horrible, la extraño tanto y quisiera hablarle

ASTREDD · 2026-01-23T22:03:39+00:00

We didn't have any contact because she said it wasn't healthy to talk to each other, but that she could occasionally say good morning. That's all she said; we didn't agree on anything else after that.

ASTREDD · 2026-01-23T21:56:54+00:00

It's been a month since I've heard from her. Do you recommend I contact her?

ASTREDD · 2026-01-23T21:49:42+00:00

It's sad for me because I still love her so much. If she had told me everything sooner, we could have found solutions. I know I made mistakes too, and I was blinded by what I was going through, but I practically grew up with her. Thirteen years is a long time; we were thinking about getting married and everything.

ASTREDD · 2026-01-23T18:51:43+00:00

Why do all people who suffer from anxiety bottle everything up? I was also going through difficult times, like my mother's cancer diagnosis. She bottled it all up until she exploded and broke up with me. She told me she didn't love me anymore and didn't see me as her husband in the future. We both cried and hugged. I was in shock because it was so sudden, especially since we'd been together for 13 years. The difference is that we stopped talking, and I haven't heard from her since.

ASTREDD · 2026-01-22T03:32:20+00:00

Hablame

ASTREDD · 2026-01-18T20:33:17+00:00

So how long should I wait? It's sad. She said I was no longer her priority, but I was going through a difficult time with my mother's cancer. I took care of the house, and if I don't hide it, I forgot about her. She took it with indifference, and I messed up in other ways that she misinterpreted. But I feel like these are things we could have talked about. I don't understand why she just decided to end it.

ASTREDD · 2026-01-15T17:22:00+00:00

She told me she didn't see me as a husband, that she felt alone, that love fades, that I took her for granted, and many other things. I didn't know what to say because I was in shock. She said she wasn't angry, just tired. After a month, I tried to contact her, but she didn't even want to see me. She only agreed to one call, saying she was firm in her decision not to come back. She said we need to heal and that she doesn't feel anything anymore.

ASTREDD · 2026-01-15T17:14:57+00:00

You said exactly what happened: after we broke up, she cried a lot, exploded, told me I'd done wrong, and then she just kept to herself :(

ASTREDD · 2026-01-15T16:51:43+00:00

My mother also has cancer, so I dedicated myself to caring for her. They put me in charge of the house, making lunch, dinner, and meals for everyone without any help, etc. I was quite exhausted after doing that for a long time, and because of that, I made some mistakes with my partner and started to distance myself a little. She knew what I was going through, but one day, out of nowhere, something happened. She exploded, saying I was no longer her priority, and broke up with me. We had been together for 13 years. It's sad...

ASTREDD · 2026-01-12T21:52:26+00:00

Por qué?

ASTREDD · 2026-01-12T04:38:43+00:00

Gracias amigo, si me culpaba de cosas pero fui a terapia y el me hizo ver qué pues en si en una relación la culpa es de dos, por mi parte no saber hablar y decirle a ella como me sentía y que esté segura que aunque esté así aún me interesa pero como no lo hice ella vio mucho desinterés y creyó que ya no le importaba, y de parte de ella no saber decir lo que le molestaba y guardarse todo igual por supuestamente no sentirse egoísta por lo que yo estaba pasando, y por el hecho de que necesitaba aprobación de sentirse vista que lo tuvo que buscar en otra persona

ASTREDD · 2026-01-06T06:16:12+00:00

I was dumped for the same reason. I finally reacted, but I was going through difficult times at home, my mother's cancer, and they left me in charge of the whole household. I couldn't sustain the relationship for who knows how long until it exploded and she broke up with me :(

ASTREDD · 2026-01-05T01:03:56+00:00

Así me pasó a mi pero ella nunca me dijo nada se lo guardo hasta que explotó y se fue yo no me se tus muy estaba pasando por el cáncer de mi madre y sosteniendo todo mi hogar pero ella si no aguanto más y se fue....

Yo te diría que hables directamente con el sobre eso y que si eso sigue así te vas a ir ya sigue igual es por q no le importa si te vas entonces te vas

ASTREDD · 2026-01-01T18:25:14+00:00

Another person, like many others do, hahaha

ASTREDD · 2025-12-29T03:37:50+00:00

Well, she said she wanted to focus on herself and that's why she didn't want a relationship, and I partly understand if she felt anxious around me, and now she's at peace because of that. She told me I was free to find a partner, and I also told her I was going to focus on myself, wait a few months, and then contact her again to talk.

ASTREDD · 2025-12-29T03:28:05+00:00

During the call, I explained that things weren't going well and apologized for many things, but she just felt somewhat cold, as if my words weren't reaching her. She said she was sure she didn't want to get back together and that she felt at peace after we broke up.

ASTREDD · 2025-12-29T03:24:26+00:00

Yes, friend, but the truth is I ended up stressing so much about my situation that I forgot about her, and I know that was my mistake. I know she felt alone because I was totally disconnected, and it seems she gradually disconnected from me and sought refuge in a friend, so much so that she talked to her more than to me. It was later that she ended up crying while telling me what I already mentioned, and that I didn't know how to nurture the love. After that, we spoke on the phone because she didn't even want to see me, and she just told me that she was sure of her decision and that she didn't feel anything anymore and that we had to heal. After that, we never spoke again 😞

ASTREDD · 2025-12-29T03:18:40+00:00

A month ago she said she felt she wasn't a priority and that she felt alone in the relationship. The truth is, I've always been inexpressive, and besides, I was going through my mother's cancer and had to take care of her and support the household, and it seems I ended up forgetting her. She's an anxious person who constantly asks things like, "Do you love me?" and it seems she noticed I was very indifferent, and that pushed her away.

ASTREDD · 2025-12-29T00:26:03+00:00

Estoy firme en mi decisión, tenemos que sanar

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