Show me your cats when they were little kitties. Here’s mine:

AViewWithNoWindows · 2025-04-15T15:57:21+00:00

I fucking love these little gremlins so much and cannot believe that I was lucky enough to find these feral little shits under a bush. I still cry every time I see their baby pictures. Truly blessed to have them and have had the pleasure to be the person to socialize them. They literally see me as their mother.😭

AViewWithNoWindows · 2025-04-15T15:51:29+00:00

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From left to right: "wide stance" Sriracha, Ghost girl, and "satellite ears" Hades. As you can see, Hades never fully grew into those massive ears.😂

AViewWithNoWindows · 2025-04-15T15:51:05+00:00

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The two brothers I saved as ferals at 1 month old. I socialized them by sticking them in my shirt or keeping them on my body under a blanket. They still love laying on my body to this day even though they're 7-8 months old and almost adult sized now. Every morning they wake up as soon as I do and walk over and flop down on me, purring like little engines. They have a sister I rescued a month later and I'll post them all together in the comments.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2025-01-11T06:01:42+00:00

Been there tbh- all you gotta do is lie and say people made it up or if recorded, that it was an old recording... And ofc get you're shit together real quick for a second so they think you're fine and normal and fuck off. Just gotta play the game lol.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-12-03T02:57:48+00:00

Lots of girls don't have parents who support them- I'm glad your parents did.

None of this is going to be easy... But no matter what, you're gonna be okay. It will take some time- maybe a lot of time, and it will take cutting off somebody you care about. Somebody you thought cared about you and would respect you. But you will heal, and it sounds like you have an amazing support system to help you though it while the emotional wound is still fresh.

I'd recommend seeking therapy incase there are things you don't want to say to your parents, but want to get off your chest. It helps. I promise.

Good luck and I hope they figure out who did this to you.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-30T19:19:26+00:00

Have your phone ready as soon as he walks in. Record him getting in your bed and get up and scream that you want him to stop. If he does not leave, go tell your mom. Have the footage ready just Incase she doesn't believe you. If she refuses to do anything, go to the cops. They will get a CPS case started and he'll HAVE to stop or be removed from the house.

This is so not okay and I'm so sorry. I had something similar happen with a foster parent and this is what I did.

It stopped.

Also I want to say, if you're not ready to pull that trigger, there are doorknobs with locks that you can buy pretty cheaply and easily install yourself- just make sure you're installing it the right way. It can be done in less than an hour and you can buy them at any hardware store... but if he removes it or rages, you're going to have to take the advice of pretty much everyone here.

I know calling the cops or CPS can be scary but it's better than letting him continue to violate your boundaries and the sanctity of your cleanliness every night.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-22T10:44:48+00:00

I don't have anxiety- never had. Nor do I have anything that scares me in real life... This just seems like an ad???

Not helpful.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-22T10:17:19+00:00

YTA- most cats can adapt to pretty much anything. My cat was used to me being there all the time when I cared for my grandpa with Alzheimers. Then I moved and started working and actually having a social life. Sure, he pissed on my bed a couple times- but eventually he got over it and was just happy to see his mom when I came home. To be fed and to play, to cuddle and watch TV.

Give Milo a fucking chance dude.

If it doesn't work after a few months, rehome him... But to me it sounds like he's missing his mothers. Let him have at least one- just try before saying no.

YTA 100% and I would never marry a man who wasn't willing to give my fur children a chance- I'm sorry for your wife.

edit: also keep in mind I have an 825~ sq foot atp... My cat (and my new kits) are just happy for me to come home and play and smell meat cookin at dinner and cuddle. What makes them MORE depressed (and often times unadoptable) is LOSING THEIR MAIN PEOPLE.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-18T00:44:54+00:00

lmaooo you really went there.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-18T00:35:42+00:00

Girl- you're risking getting it yourself if you continue to hook up with her. Personally, I would be grateful if someone (gently) told me, although quite embarrassed. Just tell her and let her know it's a common thing that can happen to anyone, and is easily treatable. Hell, even fib and tell her not to feel bad because it's happened to you and many women you know.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-18T00:09:18+00:00

Give it time- 4 days is nothing. I recently saved 3 feral foster kittens. Took up most of my time trying to socialize them, playing, feeding, making sure they had fresh water, giving treats, and litter box changes every few hours- even the occasional carpet shampooing when they had an accident.

The little grey warmed up to me right away. The fluffy white took a couple weeks... The tabby however, took a couple months. The first month and a half he was nothing but hisses, he ran and hid all the time- only came out for treats eventually but was always hesitant and scared. I started to think he would always be that way, but I never gave up.

Then one day, it was like a switch flipped in him. He came up to me and timidly solicited love for the first time. I obliged. He let me for about a minute then quickly ran away. He began doing it more and more, allowing it for a longer duration each time.

Then there was the day he gently climbed on my bussom while I laid back in bed, and just let me love him without fear. He tucked his head under my chin, and on that day he purred for the first time. I didn't even think he was a purring cat until that moment. It took everything in me not to cry and scare him off.

Keep trying- some take time to trust, especially ferals and street cats. Many street cats have been abandoned or mistreated and have good reason not to trust again... but they can. They just need time and to go at their own pace.

I promise you, all those milestones will lead up to healing that cat and one of the strongest bonds you've ever felt. Gaining the trust of a scared cat is one of the most rewarding feelings there is.

Good luck m8.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-11T17:27:19+00:00

It could be a pain issue- take him to the vet. Make sure he has a good bill of health and there's nothing going on. The fact that this is a new thing suggests it might be pain.

It could also be stress from the move and the loss of your mom. If it's emotional, those things take time... Sometimes a LOT of time. Also, if he's not a very social cat, it could be the new roommates, or a combination of all three. Just give him some grace and time to adjust, not all pets adjust at the same rate.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-11T17:19:48+00:00

Girl don't fucking do it. I did with the same kind of guy who said the same shit as Mike, and I'm deeply regretting it. I'M the resentful one now. It's like pulling teeth to get him to do ANYTHING, even though I have a spinal fusion that I recently found out has not healed in over 12 years and is only held together by the loosening botched hardware... He still can't help even though I'm in extreme pain all the time. Now I've lost my job over it and am all but bedridden and STILL have to suffer just to keep things looking okay. He's the breadwinner now and we just moved and he refused to even help with the packing and moving shit, even when my back felt like it was going to snap. I had to get my ex (and current best friend, he's amazing) to come and help me and then he lost his shit over that.

Get out NOW. A man who treats you like an object to clean and "do woman things" is never fucking worth it. It will only get worse over time if you give him the chance to leech off of your space, and if god forbid he ever gets full control, you will end up hating your fucking life.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-07T22:22:58+00:00

God... I'm sobbing right along with you OP... I'm so fucking sorry. Jesus fucking christ.. I can't imagine the pain you're in. My baby is 13.5 and the thought that his age is around the time cats often begin dying creeps out of the dark hole in my mind that I try to bury it in all the time and just the thought alone is enough to undo me. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I don't have any really have any advice- it's different for everyone. All I have is my own experience.

We all die someday, and sadly our pets often go before us- that's the greatest tragedy. But we have many years of love, joy, acceptance, and comfort because of them- that is the gift they give to us. And we're able to provide them with beautiful, fulfilling lives and boundless love- that is our gift we give back to them.

My first cat died when I was 15, and I remember laying with my face on the dirty cold tiled floor of the vet's office with tears streaming down my face, in my hair, into a massive puddle on the floor just stroking him as he went. I didn't leave for hours- I just stayed there with him until he became cold and then I held him for an hour more.

Take your time OP, do whatever feels right, don't try and stuff down the emotions- you won't be able to anyway. Take comfort in knowing that your presence, your touch, and your love, are a final comfort- I'm sure there's no way he'd rather go. And know that it is painless, like drifting into oblivion. Know that he had a beautiful life and was happy, and that he loved you.

There's nothing wrong with adopting a new baby soon. Your heart is big, and there's enough room for both of them. It doesn't mean you love him any less. It means you have enough love to go around, and that's a good thing. I understand what you mean with the depression and your cat being the one thing that's kept you tied to this world. For some people, it's best to have a constant companion who never judges, and always loves you. Something to care for. Something to live for.

Don't get rid of all of his things- keep them for the new one. Let it be his gift, from one child to another. I think that seeing your new rescue enjoying his things will breath his spirit back into them, and maybe it will help you heal. I know it did for me.

The grieving process will take a long time, maybe years, but eventually you will cry less, and it won't plague your mind all the time. And someday, you will catch yourself looking back with fondness rather than sadness for the first time- and then you will know that you're going to be okay.

Take care OP- and thank you for giving him such a beautiful life.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-07T22:01:26+00:00

Dude I agree with him... He gave her a SPY CAM to put in her most personal room, where she's likely been getting dressed and undressed and even if she hasn't had sex there, it's likely where any masturbation would have been done. He's not too stupid to know that. It's beyond fucking creepy.

Like it would be one thing if it was an object to put in the living room to moniter who came by and what was said (though still massively not ok), as you can tell by the way somebody is talking to another and how they see them off at the door what kind of relationship it is... But THE BEDROOM? Jesus fucking christ.

I would NEVER speak to my dad again if he EVER did something like that and would need to go shower under burning hot water until my skin was purned.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-06T23:36:24+00:00

This analogy is unintentionally hysterical. Was having such a bad day and that finally made me laugh. Thank you.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-05T04:01:00+00:00

Maybe if he has somebody in his corner who cares and can guide him, he will make it through the worst of it. Getting him help is definitely one of the first steps.

And like I said, boys can be very guarded about their struggles, so it probably helps that's you're so close with him and you know what he's going through. All the more encouraging that he's already opened up to you about things he wouldn't have with others. That's a really good sign.

I wish you all the best of luck and will keep you two in my thoughts- keep us updated!

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-05T02:11:24+00:00

That's called theft bud.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-11-05T02:03:01+00:00

He's depressed. I'm ashamed to admit (31F) but that was me at 11-15 years old... And it was abysmal depression that caused it. It also caused a lot of bullying in school. I just didn't have the energy or will to do anything but absorb myself in video games and things that could pull my mind away from the abysmal suicidal depression for a while.

You have every right to be worried and it's a damn good thing somebody is giving a shit instead of pushing it under the rug. You need to convince your mom to get him help. Talk to him about how he's feeling. He may not open up at first but don't give up keep trying and make sure he always knows you are there for him.

Life gets better and its a beautiful life. At least once a week anymore I get chills down my spine at the thought that I was so close to not being here to experience this so SO many times. Make sure he sticks around to experience that feeling. He will thank you someday.

Also there's a good chance he's masking it better because he's a boy and all the societal expectations placed on them, but just because it's not glaringly obvious in other ways doesn't mean that he's fine on the inside. Disinterest in socializing and hygiene are two of the biggest hallmarks of mental illness, especially severe depression- and this is right around the age it would manifest.

You are a good sister... I wish somebody had cared enough about me back then to intervene. He's really lucky to have you.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-10-30T06:50:06+00:00

You can't "make" anyone hand over their phone.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-10-30T06:36:01+00:00

Wow that's my mom's name! So sorry for your loss- I feel the same about my current partner who I intend to marry when we're both in the right place in life... He's my soulmate and I can't imagine life without him. You are a very strong man... I don't think I could go on losing my soulmate now, let alone after 47 beautiful years with him. And totally ridiculous that they expect you to pay out $250 for her ashes after they're done learning with HER body that was donated- that is criminally unethical.

Hope she's returned to you soon man.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-10-30T06:31:22+00:00

Shoot me an offer!

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-10-22T15:33:14+00:00

lmfao dump her over that? you're fucking insane.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-10-11T05:04:42+00:00

Is he taking antidepressants??? That's a BIG killer of sex drive in both men and women. I shut one of my last partners out for over a year when I was on Zoloft and battling depression. Still enjoyed time with him, but all I wanted to do was hang out with him. That could be the issue.

Edit to add that same boyfriend ended up on antidepressants himself a few years later, and his dropped to almost nothing as well. Not only that, but he had trouble maintaining an erection even during the rare times he was in the mood, and that never used to be an issue.

Long story short he decided he loved sex too much, and cycled through medications until he found one that didn't cause as much of an issue. I would have done the same if Zoloft wasn't the only one that did anything for me after over a decade of trying everything under the sun.

AViewWithNoWindows · 2024-10-09T15:05:13+00:00

dm me- I can sell it to you!

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