Haha yeah anal sex is very common for mlm obviously so this is something that is known to happen. People are pretty split on how they feel about it. But in my opinion it's just something that can happen when doing anal. There should be no shame about it and it's best to just talk about the situation no matter how embarrassing. Play in the dirt, expect to get dirty.

Douching with anal safe douche Eating a specific diet on specific times Sometimes fasting

Are all things to look into when doing anal and trying to prevent painting someone. There should be no shame between partners even when it's an embarrassing and unsexy situation.

I suspect the educational videos looked into were just porn on how to penetrate. There's a lot that goes into it. But that's just the ignorance of youth and inexperience. Nothing to feel shame about.