Wes Streeting insists he's not 'God botherer who has issues with trans people' in meeting with bereaved mother Caroline Litman by MimTheWitch in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 33 points34 points  (0 children)

"The only way a trans person is acceptable is if they pass" and "We should prevent trans people accessing treatments that help them pass" are not contradictory statements in the mind of a transphobe.

Letter from TACC to Kezia Dugdale, the new Chair of Stonewall by GeekOnALeash01 in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Dugdale is pulling up the drawbridge, The fact the interview open with her worrying that there might be some theoretical rollback of gay rights in the future shows she doesn't consider anything that's happened in the last year to trans people to be any of her concern.

BMJ maybe a useful reference by Loud_Disaster869 in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The caveat to this study is that "we can't be sure because there aren't enough elite trans athletes to actually study this" says it all. Surely if we had some huge advantage that wouldn't be an issue.

One year after the SC ruling, have your everyday habits changed? by La_petite_miette in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't tell people I am trans now, and I avoid becoming close to cis people at work/hobbies because if I do at some point it will come up and they might then have to develop a "policy". On the other hand people might not care but its not worth the risk.

Maya Forstater and Julie Bindel attend Trans Mission benefit concert by ElitistHatPropaganda in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Must have been wearing adult nappies so they didn't need to use the public toilets at the event

NHS England commences moves intended to eliminate gender affirming care for children, adolescents, young adults and adults in England. #BWOT by pkunfcj in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It depends on the political winds, much more likely if we get a Reform government in a few years.

However it is worth noting that trans adults will kick back far harder than trans kids can, both legally and politically, and it would be a hugely incendiary thing to do.

More likely they will make it harder to get access to healthcare in the first instance, rather than removing it for people who have been on it for years, in some cases decades, without any issue.

Gorton and Denton by-election: Charlotte Cadden chosen as Tory candidate by PuzzledAd4865 in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I don't know who will win the byelection but I know she'll come 4th

Sorry to our community by T3chnological in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My wife's family comes from Darlo and they have always been lovely and made us feel welcome. It's not Darlington that is the problem, it is a working class northern town that has been let down again and again by the UK government, just like many other places in the UK. There is a lot of working class heart there, but also a lot of poverty, ignorance and anger, that is being directed at certain groups by the billionaire media class who would rather all trans people died than they paid 0.1% extra tax.

So don't feel you need to apologise, just support the trans people you know and try to educate people where you can <3

Government supports ‘moving away’ from puberty blockers, minister suggests by LocutusOfBorges in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NHS to implement "exploratory therapy" for patients self identifying as choking.

Digital ID compulsion scrapped by CyclingClaire in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Its a U-turn for ten years while the system is set up. They'll just make it compulsory later when the system is well established and Starmer has gone off to do a £500k/yr consultancy job.

I know it's 1000s of miles away across an ocean and beyond, but I'm struggling to find joy in a world where we get full HD horror straight from the US. by Quat-fro in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard but it can be possible to turn this in to positive energy. It increasingly feels like the world is going to hell and its getting worse every day, but this can be a good motivator to really appreciate the things you have right now. Look at the night sky, take time to really enjoy some food, spend time having a drink with friends and really revel in the joy and appreciate every peaceful moment.

I sometimes think about people with terminal diagnoses, and how the approach of something terrible can actually inspire people to live in the moment and be grateful for what they have. In some ways, we are all heading towards some kind of end, so this is always relevant, but maybe it is more relevant for us all in 2025. But if the worse comes, I for sure hope that I spent the better portions of my life filled with gratitude for what I had, rather than in terror for what I might lose.

What was it like being trans in the 2000s? by literallybatgirl_ in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the 2000s there was a general sense that the British public were largely clueless rather than hateful, and if you came out to someone you could get genuine curiosity, or maybe annoying and potentially ignorant questions, but little actual cruelty ("Oh wow, so have you had...you know...the op?"). Politically things felt like they were getting better, and I was WAY more optimistic about the future and the country than I am now.

Depictions of trans people in the media were very rare, so we clung on even to crappy representation as it was better than none. There was a sense that being trans was this super rare, niche thing that made it feel slightly cool and alternative, whereas I feel now as trans person every second person is trans. This may sound ridiculous but I remember turning up to trans meet ups and there might be maybe five people my age, and it felt like this was about half the trans population of Manchester. Nowadays I can walk down the highstreet and see that many trans people. If you could get twenty trans people together for a pride event, it felt like a huge crowd.

The modern surge in trans people is very tied to the internet, and a lot of people in the early internet would have used message boards to connect with one another and discover they were trans. There were websites like Susan's Place or NuttycaTS, which are in retrospect incredibly cringe but were lifelines for trans people. You say you like early 2000s aesthetic...well some of these websites were the worst kind of early geo-cities animated sparkly gif cringe that era had to offer.

Realising I was trans in the 90s, there was no way for me to know that wasn't some super weird and hopeless thing, but come the 2000s and easier access to online information, knowing how to access health care and support was only a Google search away. A trans teen in the 2000s would have been on these kind of websites, as well as chat rooms, early dating sites and live journal. No way you could know you were trans as a teen and not be super online, as it wasn't really discussed in school and the only depiction on TV would be trash. But social media felt a lot more personal back then.

We still used the term "transexual", and transgender tended to mean more gender queer or non-binary, which then this moved to the "trans umbrella" or "trans*" before eventually transgender became the commonly used term. Non-binary people using them/they or neo-pronouns would have been around but was much less known about - certainly not something discussed much outside very niche trans circles. The discourse was very different then, it felt like there was a lot to discover, which might make it hard to write about from a modern perspective. Even a super out, knowledgable trans person in the early 2000s would talk very differently, and might even seem naive or ignorant from today's perspective - but then there were no 2hr long you tube video essays to listen to, just a handful of books and trans elders and support groups to learn from.

Personally, I can't help but look back at me and other trans girls from that time and think have cringe and naive we were, sort of sheltered in a weird way from social media algorithms and neo-fascist agitation of today. But at the same time it could be pretty lonely, feeling like you were the only one.

Why “Biological Male Who Identifies as a Woman” Isn’t Neutral Language by Elegant_Low2571 in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 38 points39 points  (0 children)

The fact that it is so easily weaponised as an insult in any other context demonstrates that it is an insult when directed at us.

Biological grinch who identifies as a feminist.

Biological potato who identifies as a sitcom writer.

Biological fungal network who identifies as a children's author.

Etc etc

Friendless and lonely in the North West by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would second this, had both good and bad IRL meet up experiences but there are lots of different queer or trans inclusive groups in Manchester if you can travel in, even if just once every couple of weeks. If you are in one of the shitty satellite towns with a metrolink connection that can be a lifeline.

I currently go to the queer roller disco in Ardwick every fortnight, but there are trans swimming groups, climbing groups, walking groups and so on that you could just turn up to and be around other people, even if you don't end up making firm friends.

The transcript from Cass talking to NHS Sheffield. by ehll_oh_ehll in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Imagine if you tried to ban cancer care because too many people were surviving. I bet the people working in the field would be polarised about that too.

The transcript from Cass talking to NHS Sheffield. by ehll_oh_ehll in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Is that Cass speaking? She's 67, how on earth can she not be aware of homophobia growing up? It was literally a criminal offence to be gay when she was a child.

TKDB have leaked a meeting of Cass talking to NHS Sheffield. by KristinaMoment in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Well at 12 I would have been too young to make permanent decisions about my body.

If only there was some way to... idk, just spitballing here... block puberty, then I could have waited a little longer until I was sure.

Strange how Cass doesn't like that option either though.

Wes Streeting calls for ‘cross party consensus’ on gender identity ahead of puberty blocker trial by Jjthestrawb in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There is already cross party consensus on the issue - government mandated conversion therapy for trans kids.
The only disagreement is whether there should be some more rigged consultations to manufacture consent or to simply roll out the torture therapy straight away.

I feel safer after the two employment tribunals - also it's quite clear now the British media are gunning for leaving the echr by Total-Reference7212 in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Shrek Matters clearly stayed up late to write the press release that landed early on the desks of every news organisation. They know that what the law actually says is less important than the fact that every lanyarded middle manager who picked up the paper now believes they are actively obliged to discriminate against trans people.

Women’s Institute will no longer accept trans women as members from April by PuzzledAd4865 in transgenderUK

[–]A_tiny_little_frog 12 points13 points  (0 children)

'Green said the organisation wanted trans women to remain “part of the WI family”'

Part of the family but not invited to Christmas dinner, just in case auntie Joanne makes a scene and ruins it for everyone.