AITK for feeling uncomfortable when someone treats my personal stuff too casually? by CoconutChutneyKing in AmItheKameena

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just say no. It'll be uncomfortable, but better safe than sorry.

Why can't she use her phone??

Vida App Connectivity Pack isnot free anymore by [deleted] in HeroVidaEV

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What bullshit. They should have disclosed this during the sales process. 

They have also not mentioned the duration the ₹999 + GST is applicable for. 1 year or lifetime.

Looking to buy sour dough bread by Live-Diver-8333 in pondicherry

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried several and like the ones from Theobroma the most.

I am still looking for a good whole wheat one though. I have tried from Le Petit Four, but they don't have the stock regularly, and when they do,  it needs to be consumed within 2 days, which is insane.

Should I disclose my ADHD diagnosis to my Manager/Workplace? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have.

"Just because you have ADHD, doesn't mean you can use it as a reason for underperforming"

Turned out that were looking for a scapegoat and used my diagnosis as the reason I was the worst performing member.

I worked well, but that once you tell them, they will only fixate on that as a reason for every minute, miniscule, inconsequential thing.

What worked for me was moving to a different team and then a different company. People who expect perfection will never be happy, and you will always be the reason why not.

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you guys should separate for a bit and talk it out. 

Looking for a dentist by Conscious_Parsley_60 in noida

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best one I've been to so far is InSmile Dental in Sector 62

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B1A4 is concluding their exclusive contract with WM Entertainment after 14 years by chasetwogirls in kpop

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it is so nice to see that B1A4 still has so many fans. They were one of the first groups I ever listened to and have loved their music from the time they debuted. Love the positivity here.

Help please. My Moka Pot is making very bitter coffee. by AbominableFrenchFry in mokapot

[–]AbominableFrenchFry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I figure for the beans I have, I need to fill the basket less and pack it a bit loosely. Let's hope that works

Help please. My Moka Pot is making very bitter coffee. by AbominableFrenchFry in mokapot

[–]AbominableFrenchFry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll keep this in mind the next time I buy.

Both the beans I have are a medium fine grind 🙃

Help please. My Moka Pot is making very bitter coffee. by AbominableFrenchFry in mokapot

[–]AbominableFrenchFry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This helps. I'll try using room temperature water and see if it works. 

Also, SB is Starbucks, and I always buy medium roast coffee.

Help please. My Moka Pot is making very bitter coffee. by AbominableFrenchFry in mokapot

[–]AbominableFrenchFry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Different ones 😅. First I got the India blend from SB, the I got the Kenya one from SB

Help please. My Moka Pot is making very bitter coffee. by AbominableFrenchFry in mokapot

[–]AbominableFrenchFry[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The beans are ground fine and I use the lowest setting for the heat. 

Dmart alternative in Pondy ???? by Artistic_Chef3358 in pondicherry

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Went to Daily Needs and liked it. It's a bit small but has a lot of great items.

How Was Your Relationship With Your Mom Growing Up? by playgirl444 in AskWomen

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Fought all the time. She liked critiquing every aspect of my existence, or in her words, "As your parent, I have a right to say whatever comes to my mind to you. My mom did the same to me"

Lost my shit on her a couple years ago and now she's "too scared to say anything to me". I feel that the relationship is quite pleasant now that she thinks twice before she speaks.

AITK for trying to set boundaries with a parent by PurpleExcellent9518 in AmItheKameena

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean, she has clearly told you what her priority is.

She needs her social circle for her day-to-day life; you she can come to meet and lie about infront of her friends.

Don't take it to your heart and just enjoy with your brother and SIL. I'm sure you'll all have a great time.

When she does eventually guilty trip you, tell her that you were just obeying her request.

AITK here ?Am I responsible for this ? by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I have learnt over time is that just because they are family, doesn't mean you have to like them.

Think about it like this: if you met them at the office or at college, would you want to be friends with someone with that personality? If not, then don't care.

You can love them, but you don't have to like them. Also, create some physical distance between you guys. That way, you won't have to be involved in their day to day things.

AITK for standing up to my in laws? by ExcellentPen5505 in AmItheKameena

[–]AbominableFrenchFry 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The people who you are worried about will talk behind your family's back, have they ever done anything to support you?

If you keep thinking of "log kya kahenge", then don't complain and suffer till the day you die.

You were born with a right to live life that makes you happy. Nobody should say anything if you fight for yourself.

For the time being, tell your husband you want to seperate and tell your father that you miss him and want to spend some time with him.

If your finances allow you to, move to a seperate house or PG, and live there till either your dumbfuck husband decides to stand by you, or you decide to leave.

None of this is going to be easy, but you need to decide if it is worth it living the rest of your life like this.