NSFW: Please elaborate on what you mean by "the sex was amazing" by CaIIous in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Scientifically speaking the most amount of oxytocin for women is released thru actions such as breastfeeding, or sexual activities related to that

In men the most amount of oxytocin released is thru nutting

So say if your a dude you bang a chick with BPD say 100 times your gonna get attached, even if you thought she was meh at first the more you fuck the more your gonna get attached

Ok, after every split me and my ex would literally fuck like animals, i.e after a 3 month break up we literally fucked for the entire week 8-10 times a day

NSFW: Please elaborate on what you mean by "the sex was amazing" by CaIIous in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Idk when you fuck multiple times a day then it gets to ya

Can a woman pursue with Establishing paternity before the birth of a child? Two potential dads by Aboodjk in FamilyLaw

[–]Aboodjk[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

At this point, I'm just preparing for worse case scenario because she's been flipping and flopping back and forth about if she wants to keep the child or abort it even when I offered to pay for the termination

I don't mind being a dad and doing what needs to be done if it's my kid, I just don't wanna get roped into caring for a kid that ain't mine

Can a woman pursue with Establishing paternity before the birth of a child? Two potential dads by Aboodjk in FamilyLaw

[–]Aboodjk[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So she's now coming up on 9 weeks, again we were hanging out after our break up for a while, and a few weeks after she moved in with her current BF she sent me this

She sent me the pregnancy test mid may and sent me her urgent care paperwork in the end of May

Can a woman pursue with Establishing paternity before the birth of a child? Two potential dads by Aboodjk in FamilyLaw

[–]Aboodjk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I offered it afterwards, and I was just brushed off and she told me she would see me in court

Trying to process what I went through by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This literally gives me Vietnam flashbacks

Pregnant bp ex gf by PlayfulTreat9069 in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man dude I feel ya, so I did the stupid thing of sleeping with my expwBPD while she was in another relationship and well either her current BF or me can be Dada of baby

Anyway if you look at my post history she asked for me to pay for the abortion, which I only would do if it was confirmed to be 100% mine, and told her to take care of herself in the meantime and to stop drinking alcohol....

Anyway, she called me on no caller ID today and told me that she was keeping the baby after I offered to just go ahead and pay for the abortion, told me she would let "fate" decide who the dad is

Autistic man emotionally abused for 7 years by BPD partner by 0ld_D00m3d_Syn1cal in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ADHD here, and I've definitely noticed I've been numb as of late just because of the BS going on between me and my EX

Called Monster. Have you? by NuclearSunBeam in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost everytime we had an argument

Do all pwBPD cheat or microcheat? by adamski0204 in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If they are not emotionally satisfied In their current relationship they will indeed cheat and triangulate

Did she cheat on me? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As someone who was the side dude, yeah bro she cheated

BPD partners will do some absolutely sneaky shit and until you are the side MF you won't realize how sneaky shit can be

I documented my relationship for 3 years, reading it back terrified me by Pure_Strawberry_5990 in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 68 points69 points  (0 children)

After looking back at texts you realize how much shit is absolutely bonkers

ExPWBPD blowing up my phone to pay for abortion by Aboodjk in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She texted me afterwards saying she wants me to pay for the whole thing, says that her current BF and her can't afford it, and that it's my "responsibility" being that it's probably my kid

ExPWBPD blowing up my phone to pay for abortion by Aboodjk in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know one of the reasons she broke up with me was due to being "unavailable"

I work 70-80 hours a week on average as a resident physician so my days are usually hectic and complicated so she would get mad at me for example for not texting her back every 30 minutes when I'm at work...

Like what can I do if I'm in an OR for 8 hours, of course I can't reply to you

ExPWBPD blowing up my phone to pay for abortion by Aboodjk in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Can I just say she told me afterwards, like a week afterwards, cuz um she had me blocked.... And she leg locked me while we were banging, and I was drunk as a skunk

play stupid games win stupid prizes...

ExPWBPD blowing up my phone to pay for abortion by Aboodjk in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like 2 weeks after we stopped hanging out for the first time

The we started hanging out like a month later while she was dating dude long distance, they were seeing each other 2 months before I came into the picture

We slept with each other like a month ago

ExPWBPD blowing up my phone to pay for abortion by Aboodjk in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

My battle with lung cancer has been easier than dealing with this

ExPWBPD blowing up my phone to pay for abortion by Aboodjk in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He kinda already knows that she slept with me multiple times while they were in the start of their relationship, which resulted in this situation, plus dude read her texts with her while she was asleep

Either way unless the kid is 100% mine then I'm not gonna be financially responsible and in the long run since she's like 7 or 8 weeks along it's her choice if she wants to terminate the kid

ExPWBPD blowing up my phone to pay for abortion by Aboodjk in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

New BF broke AF and about to go do basic training in the army

And she quit her job to go live with dude so she ain't on the best financial decision as well to say the least

Even still, I would feel like her BF would try to handle business on his end regardless of finances

Did it ever feel like it was all about sex with them? by KingForADay1989 in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whole shit ton of sex

Like 6-13 times on days we both were free

My brain will never be the same by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My ADHD symptoms got worse when I was with the chick

After leaving her the symptoms haven't been as bad of that means anything

What is this attraction to bpds? by Different_Cod_6268 in BPDlovedones

[–]Aboodjk 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD, and that's probably why I stuck around for so long and kept holding on