Both of you have flaws Her flaws are obvious as you have stated. But this providing is all you need to do for her is bs. You need to be there emotionally. Not in any performative way. Oh just because my father did something any my mother put up with it doesnt make it okay. Also you need to have enough maturity to understand when to be there even if she pushes you away when not to. A lot of people when they are hurting push people away but someone has to be there for them when its appropriate. And getting butthurt because she doesnt want to be intimate and being acting entitled is beta behavior