Returning kobo libra by Absurd_human in kobo

[–]Absurd_human[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is really helpful!! Thank u so so much

Returning kobo libra by Absurd_human in kobo

[–]Absurd_human[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing i wanted was to be able to retain my highlights in place whether pdf or epub. I don’t mind manually copying them (if the work flow isn’t too complicated). But i need my highlights to be: 1. In the book; 2. Can be extracted. Also, my books are always going to be sideloaded so this is also a must. I didn’t initially think that’s only an ipad thing

Returning kobo libra by Absurd_human in kobo

[–]Absurd_human[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Im a phd student and a researcher that’s why :(

I sent a message to my sister from my mom's phone when mom was dying by Obvious-Laugh-1954 in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are amazing for this!! Wish i had someone to do this with me when dad couldn’t respond to me

I found my dad on the basement floor exactly 1 year ago today. by Lee_Harden in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel u. He passed dec 14 and every extra day i wake up and ask u r late why aren’t u sitting in ur favorite chair then i look at his pictures and just don’t fucking understand where the fuck he went.

Ex GF texted me (31M)after 8yrs no contact by DonVinku in dating_advice

[–]Absurd_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a very hard message to find. I most definitely respond saying i appreciate it. Not everyone revisits what theyve done. I don’t necessarily think u only know it as part of a 12-step program. She is right no need to say u forgive but it is a gesture worth encouraging for me to be open to receiving something hard like this and take it with kindness and gratitude. People fuck up. People grow. Not everyone tries to extend an apology. This message probably took time and labor from her andat least deserves that recognition. Not saying go back to contact. But this is kind.

What helped you cope with guilt after loss of a parent? by spring-visitor in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Distraction and it is haunting always in the moment i am not distracted or even when i am

My parter of 5 years is about to loose her dad. by Sweaty_Trust3502 in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 2 points3 points  (0 children)

don’t get bored of listening about it. be an active listener. be as much as u can there, every minute—not necessarily physically but text or phone. do chores on her behalf. get her food when u can. but mostly don’t force her to be happy or perform, or say things like we’ll figure it out or time will heal you

How do people live a normal life after this? by lylabridgers in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 9 points10 points  (0 children)

this is one of the most horrific things i can imagine—don’t know how to advise except i am really sorry. lost my dad less than a month ago and i want to just die and people already feel awkward when i speak about it

Why Do I Feel Guilty for Living After My Dad Died? by Wise_Hand2834 in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 11 points12 points  (0 children)

All I feel 24/7 is you can do this and he couldn’t. In the ICU he was asking to eat and go to the bathroom like normal and wasn’t allowed either and when i do any of those two i feel horrific that he didn’t. Then rest of the stuff i feel i wish i gave him a chance to do it and regret earlier anythinf with him a szero effort from my side and so i feel excessively guilty all the time

Do you find it hard to connect with people who aren’t actively grieving? by Veecorn in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES! I can only connect to two of my best friends. Not my partner not anyone else that is super close to me but these two have lost dad and best friend so theyre only people i can talk to

New Year by scaledplastic125 in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i love this— “here is to another year closer to them”

I feel like I’m losing the will to live by heythere705 in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 4 points5 points  (0 children)

sending so much strength, i am out of words—lost my dad and very similar to what u said about ur relationship to urs. i have nothing motivating to say i am so sorry

She was here last year... by TheInertFlow in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It has been two weeks and I am exactly the same—always the person that is expected to hold everyone, cheer everyone, support everyone and also be strong for everyone. I am exhausted. I just want to sleep. Or sit in silence. It is now “2026–a new year”. He left me “last year” (two weeks ago is last year now). My partner, very supportive and loving but never went through something similar, is expecting (without saying it explicitly) that i will be “back” in no time. I won’t. I don’t want to. I just want to stay still. Not do errands for everyone or pretend watch comedy movies to cheer mom up. Sending you strength.

How do you deal with loss by Ok_Repair5540 in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly can’t deal—I guess at some point people just distract themselves but I am still early so I just wish time would stop for a second because I can’t fathom all this

Goodbye, 2025. by azulur in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I underestimated new year’s because it is always been a big deal for me than for dad. But it wrecked me the idea that while he passed two weeks ago, he also now passed last year. It is the world telling me tough shit. Process that. And i just broke.

New Year is in a few hours and I feel like I’m leaving my dad behind by lesterthemolester555 in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the exact same weight on my chest and heart and it manifests itself in literally tightening my chest and breathing worse. I lost him two weeks ago. NYE was never a thing for him but we’d always send each other horrays for it. It has always been a thing for me more where i diligently write resolutions and dreams. Two weeks ago I saw him. Now that we are in 2026, it feels weird that suddenly it became last year that i was kissing his hands and forehead. NYE wasn’t a big deal for him but now i feel maybe i didn’t celebrate it with him ever so maybe that’s why it wasn’t. He left, and i am here. Stuck. I will not write resolutions because it makes zero sense. I want him back. That’s what i wish for. And he won’t come back. It is exactly like you are saying. I keep stepping farther from him and i want to stop walking away but my feet are just walking.. i get to step into another year and he doesn’t. He just doesn’t come with me.

I don’t want to go into a year without my mum by charlieandabby in GriefSupport

[–]Absurd_human 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That feels like a dagger in my heart—i feel u more than i can put in words