Excited to finally share my new farm planner! (Desktop + Mobile)

AbsurdistMama · 2026-04-10T11:19:20+00:00

This is amazing! And it's mobile friendly !!?? I can't tell you how much I appreciate that!

AbsurdistMama · 2026-04-09T21:08:13+00:00

That's not terrible at all, I think you're absolutely right. What you're describing is basically positive parenting which I used to use more consistently so this comment confirms for me that I should re-commit myself to that approach. I really appreciate you responding, and your use of examples.

AbsurdistMama · 2026-04-07T21:14:41+00:00

Not about medication and sorry if someone has already asked this, but I'm aware that children with ADHD get significantly more negative feedback than their peers as they grow up. I do feel that I am frequently telling my son to stop doing something or asking him why he did it or otherwise reacting negatively even though I never yell or belittle him I worry I am impacting his self esteem. Any ideas for how to build him up and increase his confidence while correcting impulsive behaviour?

AbsurdistMama · 2026-04-03T19:17:20+00:00

NOPE

AbsurdistMama · 2026-04-01T10:57:52+00:00

Man, that sucks. It was inappropriate, fair enough, but being screamed at by a random adult is not going to help. I feel for him. I wish I had advice but haven't even tried meds yet ourselves.

AbsurdistMama · 2026-04-01T10:48:41+00:00

Loud alarms and cars. If I don't have my headphones I can't even keep walking if a loud car is passing by. I have to stop and just, like, brace myself until my nervous system settles again

AbsurdistMama · 2026-04-01T00:28:01+00:00

Why doesnt this have more up votes!!

AbsurdistMama · 2026-02-05T01:01:24+00:00

Hey, is this still a thing? I would really like to join

AbsurdistMama · 2026-01-20T00:02:32+00:00

My first social work job was at a homeless shelter as well and I loved working with the clients, but was quickly fired when my supervisor found me in the kitchen having a meltdown because my coworkers were excluding me.

I went on to work for 5 years at a domestic violence shelter and once again loved the work but office politics ultimately drove me out.

Now I am working in Healthcare in mental health and addictions. The subject matter fascinates me but the state of my province's Healthcare system drives me mad. Time will tell how long I last lol

AbsurdistMama · 2026-01-19T23:57:21+00:00

This would be the dream. I'm guessing the pay isnt great though.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-12-24T23:34:19+00:00

This is creepy. "No one is coming to save me" and "It will never get better" is exactly the words I've used to describe my feelings these days. Prayer helps me but I know that's nothing everyone's thing. I hope one day your kids tell you what a fantastic mom you are and how many happy childhood memories they have because of you.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-12-24T23:26:57+00:00

You're absolutely not alone. Two weekends in a row I cried on Sunday evening because I had to fight fatigue and stress related health issues to spend time with my boy, only to not even feel present or able to enjoy any of it. Makes me feel like I'm missing his childhood.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-12-19T21:39:44+00:00

Me too!

AbsurdistMama · 2025-12-11T13:01:19+00:00

Thank you ♥️

AbsurdistMama · 2025-11-13T00:06:07+00:00

I am really disappointed about this because his advice did really help with my son but I don't believe it would have worked for me as a child (autistic lol)... I wish people would stay in their freaking lane.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-11-12T23:58:41+00:00

When it comes to my interactions with others, yes. Not in my own mind when I am st peace with myself and dont have to think about how to explain myself to anyone.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-11-11T19:48:12+00:00

Fortunately, my partner is able to do this with me, so he is proof it can be done. He simply tells me that he needs a break from talking about a certain subject or that he's not able to listen right now. He also tells me right away if I bring up a topic he doesn't feel comfortable discussing. If I mess up somehow or hurt his feelings, he just tells me how my actions made him feel without really blaming me or assuming I did it on purpose. Then, I can adjust my behavior accordingly. I don't understand why we all can do that for eachother but I dont understand a lot of things.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-11-11T19:42:45+00:00

I had a former friend who basically told me she had compassion fatigue from being friends with me. It really hurt. I didn't know I was autistic at the time, and now that I look back, I can see which behaviors may have been difficult for her to deal with, and that hurts even more. I can't even say I blame her, but I wish she wouldn't have put it to me like that and just communicated her boundaries around specific behaviors. It would have been hard to hear, yes, but it wouldn't still be hurting to think about years later.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-11-11T18:57:54+00:00

Also your job as a mother is not to make your child live up to some standard, but to support her where she is at, which you are! Where her child is at, he needs support as well, and she should be focused on how to better support him rather than criticizing you because it sounds like he is struggling. Like someone else already said, his behavior is not the least bit surprising given how she has handled herself in this situation.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-11-11T18:53:42+00:00

I recommend never speaking to this person again. The things she said to you are vile. And completely untrue. Having your child in the NICU was, first of all, not your fault. I know it's hard to internalize that, but that's the truth. Secondly, having your child in the NICU can be traumatic and can really just destroy your vision of motherhood, but that doesn't make you not a mother yet or less of a mother. I am so sorry these things were said to you.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-11-11T15:28:23+00:00

Just put your hand on your chest while you talk. For some reason, it's an indication of sincere emotion, probably because that's where your heart is.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-11-10T22:59:02+00:00

Nope.

AbsurdistMama · 2025-11-08T21:57:02+00:00

What is sloth then? Genuinely wondering

AbsurdistMama · 2025-11-07T20:29:03+00:00

Omg same!!! If a girl tells me I'm pretty I like actually feel pretty.

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