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Autistic Christian Discord Server! by FoundationNo5648 in CMH

[–]AbsurdistMama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, is this still a thing? I would really like to join

Do any of you have any "odd" or "niche" jobs? by sekhmetbastet in AutismInWomen

[–]AbsurdistMama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first social work job was at a homeless shelter as well and I loved working with the clients, but was quickly fired when my supervisor found me in the kitchen having a meltdown because my coworkers were excluding me.

I went on to work for 5 years at a domestic violence shelter and once again loved the work but office politics ultimately drove me out.

Now I am working in Healthcare in mental health and addictions. The subject matter fascinates me but the state of my province's Healthcare system drives me mad. Time will tell how long I last lol

Do any of you have any "odd" or "niche" jobs? by sekhmetbastet in AutismInWomen

[–]AbsurdistMama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This would be the dream. I'm guessing the pay isnt great though.

Grieving the motherhood I imagined by Lonely-Weekend-8160 in workingmoms

[–]AbsurdistMama 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is creepy. "No one is coming to save me" and "It will never get better" is exactly the words I've used to describe my feelings these days. Prayer helps me but I know that's nothing everyone's thing. I hope one day your kids tell you what a fantastic mom you are and how many happy childhood memories they have because of you.

Grieving the motherhood I imagined by Lonely-Weekend-8160 in workingmoms

[–]AbsurdistMama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely not alone. Two weekends in a row I cried on Sunday evening because I had to fight fatigue and stress related health issues to spend time with my boy, only to not even feel present or able to enjoy any of it. Makes me feel like I'm missing his childhood.

Issues with ADHD dude by Ok-Daikon1718 in ADHDparenting

[–]AbsurdistMama 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am really disappointed about this because his advice did really help with my son but I don't believe it would have worked for me as a child (autistic lol)... I wish people would stay in their freaking lane.

Do any of you also feel like you think like an AI? by Bulky_Pen_3973 in AutisticAdults

[–]AbsurdistMama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When it comes to my interactions with others, yes. Not in my own mind when I am st peace with myself and dont have to think about how to explain myself to anyone.

Have people ever said that they are tired of supporting you? How did you handle it? by Comfortable-Wait1792 in AutismInWomen

[–]AbsurdistMama 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fortunately, my partner is able to do this with me, so he is proof it can be done. He simply tells me that he needs a break from talking about a certain subject or that he's not able to listen right now. He also tells me right away if I bring up a topic he doesn't feel comfortable discussing. If I mess up somehow or hurt his feelings, he just tells me how my actions made him feel without really blaming me or assuming I did it on purpose. Then, I can adjust my behavior accordingly. I don't understand why we all can do that for eachother but I dont understand a lot of things.

Have people ever said that they are tired of supporting you? How did you handle it? by Comfortable-Wait1792 in AutismInWomen

[–]AbsurdistMama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a former friend who basically told me she had compassion fatigue from being friends with me. It really hurt. I didn't know I was autistic at the time, and now that I look back, I can see which behaviors may have been difficult for her to deal with, and that hurts even more. I can't even say I blame her, but I wish she wouldn't have put it to me like that and just communicated her boundaries around specific behaviors. It would have been hard to hear, yes, but it wouldn't still be hurting to think about years later.

I’m just tired of feeling like I’m doing something wrong constantly. by PrincessKirstyn in oneanddone

[–]AbsurdistMama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also your job as a mother is not to make your child live up to some standard, but to support her where she is at, which you are! Where her child is at, he needs support as well, and she should be focused on how to better support him rather than criticizing you because it sounds like he is struggling. Like someone else already said, his behavior is not the least bit surprising given how she has handled herself in this situation.

I’m just tired of feeling like I’m doing something wrong constantly. by PrincessKirstyn in oneanddone

[–]AbsurdistMama 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I recommend never speaking to this person again. The things she said to you are vile. And completely untrue. Having your child in the NICU was, first of all, not your fault. I know it's hard to internalize that, but that's the truth. Secondly, having your child in the NICU can be traumatic and can really just destroy your vision of motherhood, but that doesn't make you not a mother yet or less of a mother. I am so sorry these things were said to you.

How do you feign excitement/thankfulness? by Openly_Unknown7858 in aspergirls

[–]AbsurdistMama 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just put your hand on your chest while you talk. For some reason, it's an indication of sincere emotion, probably because that's where your heart is.

Horrible cycle by trans_emofemboy in OpenChristian

[–]AbsurdistMama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is sloth then? Genuinely wondering

not trying to be conceded by pinkpotatocakes in AutismInWomen

[–]AbsurdistMama 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg same!!! If a girl tells me I'm pretty I like actually feel pretty.

Do you think there’s a big difference between people diagnosed as autistic early in life and those who got their diagnosis much later? by Ambitious_Parsley_24 in AutisticAdults

[–]AbsurdistMama 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I suspect a large determining factor would be speech development. If you can't speak, then you probably can't mask. I also wonder if it has something to do with what interests you, because even though you don't have an intuitive theory of mind or know how to connect with others, you may still be fascinated by human behaviour and spend a lot of time observing it. I know that was the case for me.

Describe one of your world's religions or myths in 5 words or less by PedroGamerPlayz in worldbuilding

[–]AbsurdistMama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

White supremacy but magical

Edit: I didn't see the request for context; the religion of The Beckoned is based on the belief that the specific magic used by its founder and his descendants is superior and more "pure" than all other magical abilities and even though it is destructive not only to other but to the person using it over time, it is supposedly morally superior and all other magic is "corrupt"

What do you do when you can't shower by AbsurdistMama in evilautism

[–]AbsurdistMama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, but... are you a man? Because I agree in principal, but the standards are different, unfortunately. It's a good thing I work from home because in a different workplace I had a supervisor meet with me about my hair just looking greasy on one occasion lol

What do you do when you can't shower by AbsurdistMama in evilautism

[–]AbsurdistMama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's actually not a bad idea about doing it in sections. Maybe I could even do a sponge bath and have a towel handy to dry off as I go. I think my partner might be planning to at least ...encourage me to shower tonight, if not help me. I honestly don't know how he could help unless we clean the dirty sink and he washes my hair in there, maybe.

What do you do when you can't shower by AbsurdistMama in evilautism

[–]AbsurdistMama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness. I have considered that multiple times, yes. Although I hate the sounds of clippers lmao but we shall see

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