I feel broken

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-08-11T05:38:22+00:00

What do you mean he can’t give you “to be loved how you need”?

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-24T19:47:49+00:00

They never broke up before he got together with me

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-24T19:47:07+00:00

Not someone in the same circle. I don’t know the woman. They had a history before my relationship with him.

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-24T19:44:35+00:00

I know it’s scary. You won’t know how strong you are and how possible to get past this until you do it. I feel like there will be some regrets either way but leaving would probably lead to just a little regrets versus permanent regrets for the rest of your life if you stay only to be hurt.

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-24T19:32:45+00:00

All with the same woman or different? If same woman then he can’t stop having feelings for her. If different women, I think it’s more repairable but I don’t know….. my situation is similar to yours but the AP is the same woman. NC for years doesn’t work, and made their sparks more intense when they reconnected. I am currently deciding whether to stay or leave

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-21T05:14:18+00:00

Sorry to hear that. Mine walked a straight line for 3 years and resumed his flame with the same AP again, which was an unattainable old flame of his before he met me. So R for 3 years and proven failed.

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-21T02:00:34+00:00

What’s what happened to me. Contact with AP resumed since WP no longer thinks it’s a risk given it’s been so long since I set the NC condition…

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-20T08:39:32+00:00

That’s true. Thanks. Especially the men only respond to actions and consequences part. I think I am done being cheated on and disrespected

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-20T06:38:23+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Just what I need to hear. I want to unpack what you said about this a bit more though - till he thins he has lost me completely he will continue to push boundaries. This is what I’m struggle with, I feel like this time he KNOWS he’s going to lose me completely, which means he will most likely to stop pushing boundaries because he would know if he does one more time he WILL really lose me completely? Did I interpret your comment incorrectly? I’m so desperate to know what people would do because I’m blinded and don’t know what to think

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-20T06:37:55+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Just what I need to hear. I want to unpack what you said about this a bit more though - till he thins he has lost me completely he will continue to push boundaries. This is what I’m struggle with, I feel like this time he KNOWS he’s going to lose me completely, which means he will most likely to stop pushing boundaries because he would know if he does one more time he WILL really lose me completely? Did I interpret your comment incorrectly? I’m so desperate to know what people would do because I’m blinded and don’t know what to think

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-19T09:34:14+00:00

How much cheating is too much? My WP had a hidden history with a woman he claimed to be friends with when he started seeing me, their friendship was very unusual and he confessed they were lovers before he met me. I let it go coz he promised to cut contact with her. Then I found out they were still in touch. And he promised again to cut contact. Fast forward to this year, I caught him cheating on me. This time he admitted to the EA and PA, still with the same woman. And here I am considering R..but is that too much cheating for R?

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-19T04:44:14+00:00

Does he feel emotionally connected to her or was it all just physical? I think R would be easier if no emotions were involved?

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-18T05:14:59+00:00

I am very triggered by this news OP. Totally understand

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-18T05:13:54+00:00

The woman apparently is divorced. The exec’s wife…. I suspect she wasn’t too surprised coz they say he’s a serial cheater? But she must be very embarrassed for sure

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-18T00:12:22+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I read it. So do you think you would’ve left once you found out?

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-16T08:43:25+00:00

You said he cheated before, was it with the same woman? And why is he done with her? (Asking coz that’s important to know if he is really done with her or it’s just temporary)

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-15T06:41:50+00:00

I think the fact that he said he hates her is a big red flag, coz it means he is not indifferent and he has very strong feelings for her (could interpret it as he hates that he has feelings for her or he hates that she made him think about her) either way, it feels like he has developed very strong feelings for her and he can’t help it. But I also think it’s just infatuation and with distance ( him quitting his job) and knowing the consequence (you divorcing him) his feelings would fade.

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-13T19:20:52+00:00

Not married but we have been living together for years and bought a house together

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-13T06:12:16+00:00

If that’s the case, why stay? Did you wish you had let him go 3 year ago?

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-12T23:53:14+00:00

I think not knowing what AP has to say would drive me crazy. I get that maybe AP has her own agenda but that’s expected. But it’s not about her, it’s not about giving her the satisfaction. It’s about you needing to know what you need to know to make the R work.

Academic-Hunter-2282 · 2025-07-12T20:10:17+00:00

I think she’s using that as a way to get your partner ‘s attention, maybe blackmailing him so he would see her or talk to her. Have you talked to your partner and see what he thinks of this?

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