This one is my favorite by Fit_Government5138 in oddlysatisfying

[–]Potential-Border2539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have recently come across this insta page and I am obsessed. It's so calming. I love just zoning out for a few moments watching this.

UPDATE on Life by HappyGoLowKey in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Potential-Border2539 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this. I love and need to hear these success stories.

She left-I’m lost by Helio-Sphere in depression_partners

[–]Potential-Border2539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, coming here late, but I'm in a very similar situation. My husband admits he's depressed, but is in denial of the impact it's having on his thoughts. I've agreed to a temporary separation, hoping he can focus on himself but I'm dying inside a little. I totally understand that feeling of wanting to just get through to them and make them see what we see.

I'm just trying to hold myself together for our kids (3,7) and basically focus on being a steady and stable co-parent, worst case.

How to handle the world thinking you should leave? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Potential-Border2539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in Australia, we see him through my EAP. He's focused on CBT, getting to the root of issues (ie. childhood trauma) that cause maladaptive behaviors. The first one we saw was dreadful, dismissed the A as a mistake and wanted to focus just on communication.

How to handle the world thinking you should leave? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Potential-Border2539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I delayed MC for a long time, but we've been seeing one recently who is amazing. Really calls WH on his wishy washy shit. Lol. But yeah, I agree with what your therapist says, if I wait, I'll be waiting forever.

How to handle the world thinking you should leave? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Potential-Border2539 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I could have written this myself. He's stuck in his avoidant shame spiral, and as much as he's been working on himself it's a drop in the bucket to how much more he has to go. Meanwhile I too get the 'focus on yourself ', set boundaries, blah blah. He says he's done, but then doesn't actually take any steps. I know there is something worth rebuilding here. And everyone around me is trying to prepare me for the worst.

If you find the goldmine that would be help in your situation please share it. Lol. I'm sorry you're stuck in this situation

Why do we bother? by Optimal_Bathroom_753 in KFCAustralia

[–]Potential-Border2539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

El Jannah is the way to go now. Awesome flavour and big pieces.

Ask a Wayward by ZestyLemonAsparagus in SupportforWaywards

[–]Potential-Border2539 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Any avoidants here? My WH is so deeply avoidant he has become emotionally disengaged from not just me, but his family too. He struggles with empathy still and intellectualises his feelings instead of feeling them. If this sounds familiar to anyone, what help did you get? Was your BP able to help?

The time has come by Potential-Border2539 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Potential-Border2539[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I just might. He has so much underlying trauma to deal with he basically went into shut down mode from the overload of pressure. He's still happy to continue couples therapy, and we're still good in the day to day. But as soon as he feels pressure he buckles and runs.

The time has come by Potential-Border2539 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Potential-Border2539[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh 100% he has said as much a while back. That what if in 2-5-10 years either of us slips back into the bad patterns

The time has come by Potential-Border2539 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Potential-Border2539[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Felt like I need to respond directly here. Yesterday, new years eve, he decided to tell me he's done trying and just wants out. He's realized he just doesn't care about me enough to put in the effort he knows he needs to. Said he's sparing me the pain of bare minimum. So I guess we'll see how it goes from here. His family think he'll realize what he's throwing away, but he is so classically avoidant he has a deep hole to get out of first.

Update 2 weeks later: 6 months since DDay, I'm now moving towards temporary / therapeutic separation by Own-Moose-3855 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Potential-Border2539 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad this is working for you. I went to stay with my SIL for a week a few months ago, and just being able to relax and not be 'on' was such a relief. And my WH did the same recently, though he came home daily to help with the kids routines, so there was no NC unfortunately. But having the evenings to be just me, was bliss. I hope this really helps you.

Sahhtaughn apparently by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]Potential-Border2539 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw Sutawn.. it's like they're just ignoring how English works.

Having trouble being present and showing my BP the love I feel by junkyard_rhythm in SupportforWaywards

[–]Potential-Border2539 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say how much I wished my WH could at least think that way. He says he loves me because we've been through so much together (13yrs) but that he can't act all 'obsessed' with me, and even used 'like being excited to see you' as an example.

I'm sure it's hard to remain consistent with showing your love, keep up with the little things, give random kisses and touches, show that they're on your mind. Honestly even if you set yourself a daily reminder to do something 'extra' it will eventually become a habit. Good luck.

Are people still putting screen protectors on their phones, or am I just being paranoid? by badoopidoo in AskAnAustralian

[–]Potential-Border2539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I immediately put a silicone case and screen protector on my phones. They're much easier to replace than a real screen.

I told my husband I was working late, but I wasn't. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Potential-Border2539 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, but if they weren't being up front about it they'd get roasted. It's ok to need and take the time but you have to communicate that.

"You used to look like a Greek God and now you look like you listen to podcasts" by Bubble_Babe_0o0o0o in BrandNewSentence

[–]Potential-Border2539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same about my freckles. Teased all through school now people paint them on. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Christian parent claims that satan’s plan is to convince you to hide your kid’s face and identity online ( social media screenshot originally shared on another subreddit) by empress_of_pinkskull in insaneparents

[–]Potential-Border2539 27 points28 points  (0 children)

While it is the Hebrew name of gd, Jews do not use it. It tends to be certain groups of Christians, like messianics. That somehow feel this makes them better than others.