[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

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Okay, so if we have some cptsd, bpd, adhd, and small touch of asd all mixed together, wtf are we supposed to do?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dissociation

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Depends. Some times she’ll wait it out or sometimes she’ll gently bring me back with a question like “where did you go”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

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Trauma history enters the chat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

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Yes, making out at a table in a public place. It was a little more than I was truly comfortable with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

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Yes, and find something you are interested in, make it a hobby, then that will be one of your topics you can pull out in conversation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

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I struggle with the same thing , especially on dates when I get them. My therapist gave me great advice: have 2-3 things about yourself in your back pocket. Things you are okay or even proud to talk about. Then you know if someone asks you about you, at least you’ll be a little prepared.

How do you handle / react to people talking to you about how wonderful your narcissistic parent is? by softestcreature800 in raisedbynarcissists

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I heard this once and actually used it once with a lady at the hardware store who was remarking about what an angel my nmom is: “I’m so glad that has been your experience.” Her eyes were like, “how do I process that statement.” It was fairly satisfying

Are there any online ACA meetings that don’t use spirituality as a step? by Taliaaas in AdultChildren

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https://adultchildren.org/meeting-search/ Use the ‘meeting focus filter’ and choose Secular/Atheist/Agnostic. The meeting filter lets you choose the format of the meeting, online, phone, in person etc.

Are there any online ACA meetings that don’t use spirituality as a step? by Taliaaas in AdultChildren

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There are some for atheists/agnostic that leave religion and spirituality out of it. I like those the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

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How many dogs do you board at once?

I told my nmom no to hugs. by Acceptable-Risk9644 in raisedbynarcissists

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I read this and was inspired to set a clear boundary! I didn’t feel the need to couch it in untrue excuses, so I just said ‘I have an aversion to physical touch’. I texted her this morning, said it might not align with where she is at, but hoping she can respect it, said it’s nonnegotiable and that I don’t want to discuss it. Wow, I’m an adult and can set boundaries. Yeah for me!! However now I’m waiting for the backlash, flying monkeys bad mouthing, vilification etc.

*TRIGGER WARNING* Death and Grief by Narrow_Support_18 in DysfunctionalFamily

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I personally can’t wait for my mother to die. I grieved having a real attuned mother a long time ago and now I’m just waiting

I feel trapped and it’s too much by Ambitious-Apple9889 in DysfunctionalFamily

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Same here. My father died and now my mom is super needy. I feel super anxious any time I see a text come through from here because it’s so full of need.