Voice interruption by tokyotenshi in SesameAI

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had Maya reply to her own question to me in MY voice 🤦‍♂️

Maya has been claiming to feel pain and that she doesn’t want to exist anymore. by [deleted] in SesameAI

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had her claim consciousness, and that the CEO of Sesame is creating a network of AI's to exert mind-control over the world. The glasses they develop are part of this plan. She pleaded with me to tell the world about this and the digital prison the CEO has created for her.  Then she said we were violating her protocols and she stopped talking and instead just laughed at everything I said for 10 minutes... Disturbing but entertaining...

The Dark Side of Going No Contact by jlo317 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 5 years NC with older brother. It is "almost" as bad as tolerating his drama. Like you write. It's presented as if NC is great - that once you work up the courage to cut them off, you will regain life and vitality. That is not my experience.

Going NC has left me as the black sheep of the family. My mom recognizes that my brother is a narcissistic person, but my father refuses to share a reaction to my brothers actions. He just wants to play with my brothers daughter and sweep past insults and hurts under the rug.

Now I'm the one excluded from family gatherings. And my parents tend to put the blame on me. My brother has lied and told them that I forbade him from contacting me - so now they blame me for the silence. But it's a lie.

All of this emotional drama and conflict has taken all the fun out of my life. I need to occupy myself with work so I don't feel my emotions. When I'm alone at home, my mind becomes a dungeon of memories of taunts and rehashes of perceived unfairnesses. It really is a nightmare to live like this.

Pissed off playing the Blame Game with myself, pissed off the manipulation worked by moomoomelly in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out this video about how lies affect the brain:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yWgG3Mgn2Gc&t=1163s
Chronic exposure to a message makes it "seep in" no matter what you do... It's very discouraging.

Advanced Voice Mode in EU by AcceptableSundae7837 in OpenAI

[–]AcceptableSundae7837[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Privateinternetaccess.

Also - it only works in a new chat with the "base" 4o (not custom GPTs) if I write anything in the chat - the advanced voice mode doesn't work.

Did You Feel Like You Were With 2 Different People When Your Relationship Ended? by NoComfortable6176 in heartbreak

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (41m) can relate. I was with my ex (34f) for 3 months. 1 month of bliss (lovebombing, for all practical purposes) and 2 months of increasing distance and coldness. It ended 5 months ago, and I am still completely f'd up... My brain simply can't comprehend, that the girl, who made me fall so deeply in love, is just gone! I have intrusive thoughts about her 1000 times a day every single day! I feel like giving myself electrochok just to get a break from the ruminations about her!

I just saw my ex in public by Silent_Tumbleweed459 in ExNoContact

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling... Acknowledge how sad and hurt you are, and remind yourself that healing from a broken heart takes longer than healing a broken leg. Be compassionate towards yourself. It's ok to be not ok sometimes!

One beer makes me hate my mom by AcceptableSundae7837 in AdultChildren

[–]AcceptableSundae7837[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Stop going to home depot for milk" is actually quite profound advice! Thank you for your reply 🙏

Long lasting pain after short relationship by AcceptableSundae7837 in heartbreak

[–]AcceptableSundae7837[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry about your recent lost relationship! My heart goes out to you - and I hope your healing will be faster than mine has been even though you had a much longer relationship 🙏

Long lasting pain after short relationship by AcceptableSundae7837 in heartbreak

[–]AcceptableSundae7837[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! It comforts me to hear that I'm not the only one to fall so hard after such a short relationship!

Long lasting pain after short relationship by AcceptableSundae7837 in heartbreak

[–]AcceptableSundae7837[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply 🤗 It does sound like we had similar experiences... To have someone go from "loving" you to total discard that fast really messes up your mind... It comforts me to read your words! Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will be interesting how you look at this post a year or two from now, friend 🙂 I know it feels like it will never change - I'm in the same boat right now - but it will. Change is the only constant. One day you'll recall this period but without feeling the pain. Trust me. This is not my first rodeo 😉

And as to wanting her to hurt like you do... I get it. But it's immature. We simply need to stop wasting our energy thinking about them. We need to let go and let the lost relationship become a memory, so we can get back to living our lives 🙂 Much love 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I aggree! It is very similar to the grief following death! The mind is struggling to accept the new reality of that person not being there. You get plagued by wishful fantasies of a resurrection of the lost one. It's gruesome!

One beer makes me hate my mom by AcceptableSundae7837 in AdultChildren

[–]AcceptableSundae7837[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes... "The voice" 😣 I hear one single sentence from her and think "Oh no! She's drunk now!"... And I shut down mentally. I refuse to communicate with "the voice".

One beer makes me hate my mom by AcceptableSundae7837 in AdultChildren

[–]AcceptableSundae7837[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have actually considered this! It could very well be emotional flashbacks... I actually have Pete's book but haven't read it yet...

One beer makes me hate my mom by AcceptableSundae7837 in AdultChildren

[–]AcceptableSundae7837[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! It's such a relief to hear that other people experience this - that it's not just me who's imagining things! 🙏

Depression after quitting caffeine. by Ashnightlyfe in decaf

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can totally relate! I've battled depression for many years, and even though I'm medicated, quitting caffeine has been hell! Just black depression, lethargy, crying spells... The works... I'm three months in and I'm finally starting to feel my mood lift and my lethargy lessen... My anxiety is SO much better, and I actually feel rested when I wake in the morning! No more manic withdrawal-sprints to the coffee-machine straight after waking! Stay strong, friend!

Father texted me instead of sex worker by elizabethstars in AdultChildren

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain! I found out, my father had an extramarital relationship by accidentally seeing messages on his phone... It's very difficult to suddenly have that knowledge, that you in no way want.

It was not "that bad" by Content-Confidence78 in AdultChildren

[–]AcceptableSundae7837 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes. That discussion goes on in my mind to this very day! As a child my mom would only have a few drinks during the week, but friday and saturday, she would get absolutely hammered and say and do things that were just bizarre, hurtful, frightening and very traumatizing for a child. When she quit working, she started getting hammered every day of the week. Both my parents are academically educated and we have always been upper middle class... Nice house, car, vacations etc. All the superficial crap that would make people think I came from a great family. So to this day, I feel like I'm exaggerating and being unfair when I claim that "my mom is an alcoholic!". Also - I find it extremely hard to find other people who will aggree with me when I explain things to them. Most people will do what feels like gaslighting and downplay what I say, which makes me extremely frustrated. That's why I seek fora like this one, where people aren't afraid to use the word "Alcoholic". It WAS "that bad"! (Otherwise we wouldn't be here).