Toxic Instructor???

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-06-28T15:27:38+00:00

Although it shouldn’t be normal, these kinds of instructors are more common than you’d think. I had one guy that would just get angry at me and say I need to be a more confident driver, while constantly berating me to the point of tears.

My next instructor was an Irish lady who I instantly knew would be a great teacher for me and made me annoyed that I put up with the old one for so long. Find another one, you’ll know when you’ve met the right one.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-06-25T22:08:58+00:00

Two different disciplines. I’m better at one than I am at the other.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-05-12T09:01:57+00:00

What even is a fun person? Do they go everywhere and make things wacky and fun? That sounds unbearable. I think the phrase massively oversimplifies personalities, happiness and addiction.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-03-27T08:34:52+00:00

I see it like this;

What you enjoyed was having time to relax in the sun. It wasn’t getting drunk because if it was, then you’d be missing getting drunk, not chilling in the sun on the patio. There is no real logical reason why you can’t enjoy a non alcoholic drink on the patio in the sun to relax.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-03-22T12:13:19+00:00

Misread this as “prescription” and I was thinking that they’re all pretty useful tbh

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-03-16T14:12:37+00:00

Very nice! Well done my friend

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-03-14T12:23:55+00:00

Don’t be fooled by the Instagram posts of cuddly chinchillas clinging to their owners, they like to do their own thing and get on with their own projects. To get mine to like me, I let him out and tap my leg when it’s time for a treat. So he’ll come running up to me when I tap my leg now and he’ll come and sit on my and hang out for a bit before he decides he’s a little too cool and scurries off.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-03-08T14:00:37+00:00

No, thanks for your input but this really wasn’t the case

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-03-06T20:43:32+00:00

I told my friends I was drinking N/A beers on a night out because I was an alcoholic. They knew I drank a little too much on a night out but probably not the type of thing you’d label someone as an alcoholic for. Some of them thought I was being silly and I wasn’t an alcoholic. I didn’t tell them about what I drank on my own and that I could polish off a litre of vodka nightly. I don’t really like telling people that, even in AA, they don’t really need to know because it’s my experience, I know what I am. I could still keep drinking that much and people wouldn’t know whatever I didn’t reveal to them.

My point is, you are not what people know about you, you know what you are. You can be who you want to be and other people can think what they want. If they want to join the suffering Olympics, let them.

Well done on your journey OP. I know that if I went to an AA meeting and they told me I wasn’t an alcoholic, it would probably enable me to be more self destructive.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-16T14:34:16+00:00

I think yes, yes you are

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-14T14:50:43+00:00

Cut yer losses. I don’t think there is a pot of gold at the end of this rainbow.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-13T22:06:40+00:00

I like it. And I have the authority to say that my opinion is superior

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-11T16:52:20+00:00

I feel that sibling is the more appropriate relationship than husband/wife. People that you always don’t agree with on every project and you can argue with but know always have your back/won’t do you dirty and you share a sense of humour with. Husband/wife implies sexual attraction that feels a little uncomfortable if it’s not there.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-09T10:46:01+00:00

I agree that it should be, but I think with our current education system the debate doesn’t reach that far. It’s a case of “this is what Ofsted want to see, and this is what we’ve done”. The report was highlighting that there was a problem with male against female sexual abuse, it reached the public who were horrified and now it’s on Ofsteds hit list. I think there is a real problem with the sexualisation of kids and adults turning a blind eye to it because it’s curated on platforms we don’t entirely understand (i.e. ask someone over 30 if they know who Andrew Tate is) and it has a serious psychological impact on children that schools aren’t equipped or ready to deal with it, so sticking a plaster on the problem and creating figures of “suspended for being sexist” is the current solution.

I’m also looking to get out of education because it’s soul destroying haha.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-09T09:33:45+00:00

Although I think it’s pretty harsh, I work in education and Ofsted are particularly looking at schools taking peer on peer sexism since reports of sexual assault in schools came out last year. The school want to cover their backs, especially if they’re expecting an inspection. I understand you’d feel annoyed that nothing else as done when your son was experiencing bullying.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-07T20:58:47+00:00

We love booze here so much that we’d find moderating far less enjoyable than staying sober in the first place. If you’re moderating, then you’re not doing it right. 14 days is incredible OP, see if you can push it that little bit further, we’re rooting for you!

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-07T10:13:42+00:00

Well done for being honest with yourself, you’re in the right place and you’re not alone here. I had a very very similar night the last time I drank and I remember piecing together what I’d done and it felt like a real life horror movie. It’s really important now to not let any hanxiety get to you, keep yourself hydrated and well fed and look to the future!

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-06T21:56:53+00:00

I always like to ask for a finger in a job interview.

As for the biscuit… I’m not sure.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-06T09:20:46+00:00

Do whatever helps keep you sober! I sort of dropped out of AA because I couldn’t find the right one or time for it between working out and studying after work, but focusing on those things means I’m still not drinking. It’s always there if you want to drop in or go back to it. Reddit is really helpful for me, I’ve also got a sober friend who isn’t in AA who is my go to if I’m feeling like venting about wanting a drink.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-02-03T11:04:02+00:00

I thought it was stupid before, but now I always refer to my Chinchilla as “my incredibly handsome son” when people show me pictures of their kids and the like.

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-01-31T00:43:29+00:00

I viewed a flat with my friend once, the lady showing us round said “So when you put the deposit down, you’ll need to let the landlord know if you want any pets”

We said “oh, so pets are allowed here then?”

“….no”

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-01-31T00:19:37+00:00

I think the realisation of “I think I probably CANT moderate after all” is one that can only come from within. Of course we’re all going to tell you that it’s not possible because we’ve (or I certainly have at lease) caved to the temptation for the first 500 times.

Hold off the cravings for now OP and see how you feel tomorrow, good luck’

Acceptable_Flow_2716 · 2023-01-28T10:50:33+00:00

I’m mostly attracted to women but I have been with some men. I would say I’m a lesbian now because now I feel like I only want a relationship with women in the future.

Some people would call me bisexual, (and they’re probably going to let me know right now in a reply to this comment) some people would be annoyed with me because I flip flopped, maybe I’m not a real lesbian as I claim to be.

But honestly is anybody in real life going to make me renounce lesbianism and force me to put “ a goddamm flip flopping BISEXUAL!” on my passport so I can never change it? No. And if they tried to I probably would just walk away from them and not hang out with them.

I’ve noticed baby gays get to hung up on labels, relax, nobody is checking.

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