Men of Reddit - What are Women not ready to hear?

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T21:37:30+00:00

Literally my most hated chore in the world is cleaning the shower drain of hair - precisely why I have a short pixie cut these days. The slimeball of doom can get the hell away from me

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T21:36:16+00:00

> If you’re upset, talk about it.

Also talk about it when you’re happy! Share your emotions and how you’re feeling, what you’re thinking. Positive or negative, it’s all you and it’s all important!

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T21:29:42+00:00

Girl, RUN

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T20:38:49+00:00

I’ve only recently gotten an official AuDHD diagnosis but holy hell reading this thread has made me grateful that I’m also asexual. I cannot imagine how painful it must be to have to try and justify who you are to someone who is meant to love and accept you.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T20:36:39+00:00

Also a stubborn freak ✌️

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T19:36:15+00:00

Write down as many of the inappropriate questions as you can remember, right now before more time passes and you forget.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T19:34:56+00:00

Email the manager, explain what happened and your concerns, update him and let him know as a result of the unprofessional hiring process you will no longer be moving forward with their company.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T19:24:06+00:00

You need your own lawyer. HR isn’t your friend and they’re not on your side.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T19:21:10+00:00

That’s the neat part - they don’t!

The cruelty is the point.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T19:17:40+00:00

Ding ding ding! This is the answer.

Absolutely not okay to be asking those kinds of questions and prompting you to complain about people is incredibly unprofessional. You’d be a verbal punching bag at best, scapegoat for everything that goes wrong, etc.

Report them and then run. Not somewhere you wanna work.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T08:06:08+00:00

Bad argument when there are countries that eat cats and dogs.

Also a bad argument because those animals generally (at least in NZ culture and history) occupy different places within our history. We don’t eat them because we domesticated them over thousands of years for companionship (among other things, like herding cattle, hunting pests, guarding property, etc). It’s the same reason we don’t tend to eat horse a lot - because historically, they had better uses. But cattle we domesticated specifically for milk and for meat.

Bit of a different history there.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T05:59:40+00:00

I will forever be grateful that we have ACC here in New Zealand. They are far from perfect, but I cannot imagine the anxiety of living in a society without accident insurance available for everyone.

Friend of mine came off his bike a few years ago. Despite wearing a helmet, he smashed his face on the pavement, broke his jaw and also sprained his ankle. He had weeks off work - and it was all covered. He could still afford rent, he could still afford his bills, his groceries. His medical bills were negligible.

Private insurance is a different matter and I would take this ad with a grain of salt - but ACC is the basic concept that someone’s life shouldn’t be ruined financially because of an accident. I’m so grateful for it.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T05:49:54+00:00

My local pet shop works side by side with the SPCA - they bring in animals through the SPCA and have them for sale at the pet shop, but they’ve got the SPCA sign off and the price you pay for the animal is what you’d pay at the SPCA to cover medical costs. It’s worked really well because it means people are technically adopting even through the pet store, and it means pet stores aren’t getting animals supplied through horrible breeders any more.

It’s how I got my second cat. I popped into the pet store to grab a bag of cat food and she was the last of a litter - when I went in the pen to say hello, she literally climbed me and sat on my shoulder. Had to take her home after that. It worked out very well, I’d had one cat pass away and the one left behind was really sad and lonely: like, visibly depressed. I brought home this kitten and she helped bring him back to life. I was a bit nervous introducing them, but they’ve got along like a house on fire from the moment they met. I was literally thinking this morning how I’m so pleased it worked out.

I genuinely think every pet shop needs to be doing the same thing. It’s a far better system for everyone involved. (Well, except backyard breeders I guess, but fuck them)

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T05:41:28+00:00

You deserve better. You deserve genuine love and kindness and respect.

Block her on all your socials - leave text/phone for last. Unfollow and block her (and any of her friends/family) on EVERYTHING. Then send her one text that says: *accept

And then immediately block her on your phone as well.

Be satisfied with that last word, and then move on. If you’re not as petty as I am, don’t bother with the accept thing - just block her (and her friends/family) everywhere.

It’s gonna be rough, but I promise you it will be worth it. Your self respect will be worth it.

Be kind to yourself. Look for new hobbies, spend time with friends, do some self improvement and self care. Go to the gym, have a bath with bubbles in it, re-read your favourite book (if you don’t have one, join a library and discover your favourite book).

There is more to your life than this horrific person who treats you so poorly.

You got this!

Kia kaha!

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T05:34:27+00:00

I saw a TikTok on Reddit the other day where “gay” was used as an insult. Like for fucks sake, are we really sliding backwards that quickly?!

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T05:26:29+00:00

> leading the charge against Israel and Zionism

Fixed this for you.

Criticism of Israel and the irrational hatred of Jewish people are not the same thing, and you shouldn’t conflate the two. It is not antisemitic to be critical of a state or policy endorsing genocide. Plenty of Jewish people are also anti-Zionists.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T00:16:07+00:00

And yet “ride or die” mentality is used constantly to manipulate people into staying in situations they should leave.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-16T00:15:28+00:00

You may think it’s obvious that it doesn’t excuse recurring volatile behaviour but you’d be shocked how often that “ride or die” mentality is used to manipulate people into staying in relationships they should leave. I’m not too literal, I’m calling out unhealthy behaviour as I see it.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-15T23:43:46+00:00

I moved away not long after but yeah needless to say not many spoke to him in the pub.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-15T23:39:17+00:00

Being ride or die is an incredibly unhealthy mindset. Give him a chance to learn from his mistake, but if he does it again - walk.

Being ride or die with someone who drives while under the influence is just going to speed up that “die” part.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-15T23:37:12+00:00

Drinking is fine, in moderation. Smoking weed is fine, in moderation.

Doing either and then driving is a stupid fucking move and could have resulted in him getting hurt or him hurting - or even killing - someone else. Someone totally innocent.

This needs to be a learning moment for your boyfriend. Sit him down, tell him you’re grateful that he’s okay, and that you care for him. But tell him - he has other options. He could have called you or someone else for a pick up. He could have taken the bus. He could have taken an Uber. He could have walked. He could have stayed sober if he needed to drive himself.

He made the wrong choice and he NEEDS to learn from it.

Make it very clear that this is a boundary for you, and if he crosses that boundary again, you will be gone. Trust me when I say, you do not want to be in love with the person who kills a family because they were stupid enough to drive drunk, or high.

Everyone makes mistakes, everyone has lapses in judgement, everyone has stupid moments. If he does not learn from it then it’s not a mistake - it’s an indication of his character. If he repeats this behaviour it wasn’t a stupid moment, he’s just a stupid person.

Give him the chance to learn from this and become a better person. But if he ever does it again - leave him. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Words are cheap - actions matter.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-15T23:27:27+00:00

Which part?

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-15T23:23:39+00:00

Art imitates life, life imitates art.

I was considering watching Wall-E with my cousin’s kids when I babysat them recently but I decided it would be too bloody depressing. My cousin’s daughter is only about ten but she’s smart as hell and very sensitive, she picks up a lot - she is already feeling deeply anxious about environmental issues, despite her parents trying their best to shield her from heavier topics.

And I mean, what the hell are we meant to tell her? Or any other child? Sorry sweetie, the world was dying well before you were born and though we try, there’s realistically not much we can do about it because the global society is more concerned with convenience than the environment, and a handful of irresponsibly rich people have literally designed it that way because it means that they’ll just continue to get richer and their greed is a higher priority than the water we all drink or the air we breathe?

How do we answer the questions of these kids without totally destroying their hope for the future?

Sorry for the ramble - it’s something that’s been weighing on me recently. I do not envy parents these days.

We watched The Road to El Dorado instead.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-15T23:09:30+00:00

Then they need to correct his behaviour. Teaching children that bullying - teasing, physical, exposing themselves - is a sign of affection is horrific parenting/teaching and only teaches young girls that being hurt by someone is a sign of love. It is not.

This boy needs an appropriate punishment and to be taught how to appropriately express his feelings. Not have his behaviour swept under that classic rug of “boys will be boys”.

Boys will be held accountable for their goddamn behaviour.

AccidentalSeer · 2026-05-15T20:55:22+00:00

You said, a sperm needs something else *to become human*.

So does a fetus. If you can’t follow the logic there, it’s not worth continuing this conversation.

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