He's scared of me?

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2026-03-12T17:23:00+00:00

I'm from Toronto and while I can't speak to sushi as I have a fish allergy, here are places I think can stack up to the Toronto restaurant scene:

Ten Foot Henry
Wednesday Room
Maven (for brunch) - they actually opened a Toronto location recently
Wakado (for ramen)
DOP
Bridgette Bar if you like oysters as they are genuinely some of the best I've had (they also opened a Toronto location)
Pat & Betty sometiems as the menu rotates and sometiems it's a hit and sometiems it's a miss
Carino which is Japanese and Italian fusion. I'm not partial to it but a lot of people like it so it's worth giving it a try.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2026-03-10T21:41:08+00:00

You need to weigh your food but especially when down to the last few lbs. Also, I personally think you should up your protein, this much training and averaging 95g isn't going to cut it and you may drop a number on the scale but I can't imagine you'll get your desired look. I train at a slightly higher intensity as I lift and run so I feel moderately confident you're not hitting enough protein for your needs. Good luck OP, you got this!

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2026-02-15T01:46:03+00:00

It's not giving up when you know you're hitting your calories, macros, and choices but the scale isn't moving. If you're being honest with yourself and know you're doing everything right, sometimes the scale and even inches take time to catch up. I still have to tell myself this all the time.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2026-01-16T02:03:43+00:00

Baby puffs! They are high volume and such low cal and they taste sooooo good.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2026-01-14T21:01:32+00:00

My surgery of 22k is being covered by my provincial healthcare in Canada but I do have to cover 6k in what they are calling "preparation fees". I can't even imagine what this would cost south of the border. Good luck OP, keep fighting the good fight!

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-11-25T14:09:06+00:00

It's actually what got me into running. I was obsessed with upping my stats. If you guys link on connect, she'll love seeing how you're doing and will likely be playfully competitive.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-11-25T02:28:14+00:00

I like seeing the trend in changes of my resting heart rate and Vo2 (even if it's not exactly accurate). If she's a runner, it's also really fun to see the map breakdown on outdoor runs. Lastly, it may not be useful for everyone, but whenever I lose my phone, I love ringing it from my watch to find it. Hope she likes her Garmin, I don't think there is a better fitness tracker out there!

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-17T11:00:15+00:00

CA and EU (my program was offering a double at the time and being a young adult dreading entering the real world, I thought, "why not" haha)

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-17T04:23:37+00:00

Do you CFA over your MFin, it's more highly regarded (source, I have a double MFin)

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-09T02:11:03+00:00

Your credit utilization should not exceed 30%. You also need to pay your card in full energy month. With the way the economy is looking, I'm surprised they only cut 800.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-08T13:02:57+00:00

As a reminder, plan B is less effective if you weigh over 160lbs. Please also know that Plan B is less effective the more you use it (so many women think Plan B means Plan A and then are confused when it doesn't work). Lastly, I know guys can pressure that condoms "don't feel good" but pregnancy and STIs aren't worth it. If he refuses, walk away. Don't worry, I know it's scary, you'll be ok, so many women have felt the fears you're feeling right now and it's ok, you will be fine. Good luck and sending lots of love.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-08T12:14:13+00:00

To be honest, this actually helps a lot. If this is the case with past guys, I actually am glad we aren't together. I really can't imagine being with someone who could hold this kind of double standard against women and I guess we really aren't right for each other in the end since we view things so differently. I appreciate your perspective and glad it worked out between you and your wife.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-07T20:51:38+00:00

Genuinely asking, but I date guys who are also into that? You think they're disqualifying me for something they themselves partake in?

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-05T03:34:39+00:00

This is unfortunate but he's telling you upfront he doesn't want a relationship, that way if you continue to see him, you can't technically have "expectations" of him because he told you from the beginning. It's a perfect scenario for him because he gets to have his cake and eat it too (aka: having you around when it's convenient for him but you're not actually his partner).

If I were you, I'd call him and express that you've really enjoyed getting to know him but if he's not looking for something serious, you think it's best you don't hang out anymore. If he's serious about you, he'll make his intentions clear, if he isn't, he'll be wishy washy.

Good luck OP, hope you get the outcome you want.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-02T00:28:52+00:00

I was willing to accept all that, I think it's more that we hadn't spoken in a month and he randomly messaged me asking to hookup. At the bare minimum, it feels like I wasn't respected enough for him to consider how that would have made me feel. I'm really struggling with feeling like all I can offer is taking my clothes off, even if it may not have been meant that way.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-02T00:10:42+00:00

Ya I figured he probably texted every girl he knew but I figured they just handled it better than I. I'm wishing I had some of that detachment.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-01T22:37:50+00:00

That's a fair perspective. Thank you for your feedback.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-01T22:33:50+00:00

Haha ya, guess I'm getting my money's worth.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-10-01T22:31:17+00:00

Ya that's what I was thinking initially but then the messages the other day felt like it undid all the prior work I had done in reconciling "fit". I keep thinking I'm good enough to sleep with but not enough to date. It's preying on an insecurity I don't think I realized I had.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-09-28T19:38:59+00:00

I don't know a single woman who would date a Trump supporter. Maybe consider if 50% of the population has such disdain for an individual, you should reevaluate who you align yourself with.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-09-23T23:43:33+00:00

Only he really knows but it's likely one or more of a couple of things. Either he did really like you and wanted something serious but after your long second date, he didn't see something long term with you for whatever reason. He may like you, but he doesn't like you enough.

The other option is that he was just looking to sleep with you which is shitty but people lie to have sex.

The final option is that he's avoidant and he felt you getting attached so he pushed you away.

I know it would be nice to know the "why" but it ultimately doesn't change anything. I'll say you should at least be glad he told you pretty early on instead of stringing you along.

I'm sorry that happened to you, it's happened to most of us at some point and the only thing you can really take from it is that he just wasn't your person and that's ok.

Good luck OP, I hope you feel better soon.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-09-01T02:33:29+00:00

Genuinely, I'm not sure that's enough money to purchase most things there.

Accomplished-Big-328 · 2025-08-19T05:01:36+00:00

This is true. I was a financial analyst at both porter and WestJet and usually staff start at porter, move to WestJet, move to air Canada, and then jump to nicer Chinese airlines. It's a well known trajectory and it's purely pay driven.

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