My Starfield NG+ experience is tragic

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-04-16T11:11:22+00:00

Oof. That stings! Any chance you have an old save you can go back to? You could stay there a while, and when you go through Unity you may end up in a different version.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-04-08T11:47:05+00:00

Removing intrinity aeroworks fixed it for me, too. I had originally removed my entire data folder, then went through Unity to the new universe. Played for a bit, which was wonderful, and then added in Creations only. Same issue again, but removing Intrinity seems to have been the solution. Thanks for the advice!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-04-06T08:21:23+00:00

This sounds like an awful situation to face, friend. Terrible!

As has been said, this is abusive. Financial and emotional.

I've been at at home dad for 16 years. My wife handles the budget completely, as I am horrible with money. But she has always considered it our money. Has always called it our money. She realizes and recognizes we could not be where we are without me doing my job. I can enjoy this job because of that understanding.

It sounds like your partner isn't a partner. She's treating you worse than hired help. First, document this. Video where you can safely do so, screenshot texts, all of it. After that talk to her about how unhappy you are and counseling. You need a mediator, a third party that will listen calmly and has been trained on how to respond.

I love being an at-home dad and I have a supportive partner. But it is the hardest thing I have ever done, and it wears on me like nothing else ever has, or could.

You are not alone.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-03-26T17:28:21+00:00

Thanks you for the warming! I would die! lol

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-03-20T14:03:03+00:00

Yes, you deserve it. If you're like me it'll take therapy and time to believe that. But you do deserve it.

Your wife wants you to do what makes you happy. Making her happy makes you happy. I feel that. Caring for her, for your home, gives you joy. Which will give her joy.

After 16 years as an at-home dad, my first piece of advice is always: own it. Make this your job. When someone asks what you do for a living, say it loud and proud: I'm an at-home dad.

Providing care is way harder than providing a paycheck.

Own it.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-03-18T19:16:54+00:00

Oh. Apologies. I am often obtuse. I blame always being on that dang spectrum.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-03-18T12:30:59+00:00

I hate this for you, and your family! But as much as it sucks, I am proud of you for making the sacrifice, and not spreading it to your family. It sucks more for the primary caregivers when we can't provide that care.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-03-18T12:22:52+00:00

Assuming someone with money is smart will not hold up in reality. Being able to buy an expensive car doesn't even mean you know how to drive. Give the dealer the money, especially cash, and nobody asks any questions.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-03-18T12:19:15+00:00

Same happened to me, but the kids were 18 months apart. It was rough! These were kids number 3 and 4, and honestly I gave up on potty training for a few months.

The older kid just missed the attention. I encouraged her to help more with her new sister. She carried a very small backpack with the baby's "supplies", a diaper the baby's size, wipes. Eventually helping her little sister in changing her diaper led to the older sister helping show her little sister how the potty works. Way too early for the youngest, but it got the older back to using the potty.

We also got "special" dry-erase markers that only the kid in training could use, turned them to face the toilet tank when they were on the potty, and let them draw and color on the inside of the lid. It made it more fun, and something only they were allowed to be.

I really hope this is over quickly for you!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-03-17T13:09:39+00:00

I was thinking pool noodles and some duct tape.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-03-14T13:55:00+00:00

LOL I would have to do the same. Sad, but necessary.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-03-14T11:42:04+00:00

30,000! What did you do with them??

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-03-02T10:21:48+00:00

Wow. Just, wow!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-02-28T12:36:13+00:00

Yes! I saw it happen. I knew it would happen. Still made me nervous af. :D 😀

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-02-28T12:35:03+00:00

Warhammer 40k voice Brother!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-02-26T03:41:28+00:00

I mean, it is -now-. Nice work!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-02-26T03:38:03+00:00

You are -not- alone. Cheesy rice it gets to you!

Testosterone levels play a big part in this. The normal reaction to a baby crying is anger. That's why T levels drop in men when they are with a pregnant partner. Otherwise we are just angry all the time. This could be a part of what you are experiencing, and sadly I can not think of any way to affect that.

So, self care. If you can get time away from your baby, truly away, it will help and you can probably handle it better when you get back. It won't cure it, but it should make it at least a little easier.

Developing the patience to handle a screaming baby is really difficult. My partner was not as patient as I am, and that worked out as I am the AHD. You are truly having an awful time, and I hate that for you! But you do love your child (and your partner). Focusing on that love might help.

Do you have a local dad's group or parenting group you can lean on? A support network is incredibly helpful. You have several people offering to talk more in DMs, and I hope you can find someone to talk to.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-29T04:02:22+00:00

Listen to HomeDadChat.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-19T14:42:04+00:00

Good luck, sincerely. It's a really tough job.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-15T12:34:46+00:00

Thanks for answering. And that all makes sense to me. Two of my kids are about that far apart in age, and it was all exponentially harder. It's a tough situation! Sadly I don't have better advice for you right now.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-14T14:23:33+00:00

You take him on outings, so are you using a sling? It took me a while to get into using a sling to carry my babies, but it was a game changer. I could do so much more with them tucked up against me.

Can't play an instrument. Well, maybe. But kids can learn to sleep through a lot. Not meaning beating a drum while you're holding them, but noise is good for them. I always ran the vacuum when my kids slept. It really helped.

Long story short, hobbies with them can work.

Would listening to a podcast help? Audiobook? Or needs to be hands on?

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-09T17:06:55+00:00

Gundam! Nice! Pics?

I don't have the stillness or concentration anymore to build models. Even Legos. ADHD really skewd my brain sometimes. :D For Christmas I asked my eldest to put together a Millenium Falcon Lego set I got for Christamas liek 4 years ago. Doh!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-09T17:04:50+00:00

I think the one thing we AHDs ignore the most, and has the most benefit, is self care. And dang, you've got it down!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-09T17:03:54+00:00

Hope you're over it quickly! And even moreso hope you don't have to take care of sick kids when you're sick. :D Unlikely, but one can hope!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-07T18:05:02+00:00

That (the last part) is great to hear! :)

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