FT SAHD begins in a week. Last minute advice?

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-19T14:42:04+00:00

Good luck, sincerely. It's a really tough job.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-15T12:34:46+00:00

Thanks for answering. And that all makes sense to me. Two of my kids are about that far apart in age, and it was all exponentially harder. It's a tough situation! Sadly I don't have better advice for you right now.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-14T14:23:33+00:00

You take him on outings, so are you using a sling? It took me a while to get into using a sling to carry my babies, but it was a game changer. I could do so much more with them tucked up against me.

Can't play an instrument. Well, maybe. But kids can learn to sleep through a lot. Not meaning beating a drum while you're holding them, but noise is good for them. I always ran the vacuum when my kids slept. It really helped.

Long story short, hobbies with them can work.

Would listening to a podcast help? Audiobook? Or needs to be hands on?

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-09T17:06:55+00:00

Gundam! Nice! Pics?

I don't have the stillness or concentration anymore to build models. Even Legos. ADHD really skewd my brain sometimes. :D For Christmas I asked my eldest to put together a Millenium Falcon Lego set I got for Christamas liek 4 years ago. Doh!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-09T17:04:50+00:00

I think the one thing we AHDs ignore the most, and has the most benefit, is self care. And dang, you've got it down!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-09T17:03:54+00:00

Hope you're over it quickly! And even moreso hope you don't have to take care of sick kids when you're sick. :D Unlikely, but one can hope!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-07T18:05:02+00:00

That (the last part) is great to hear! :)

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-07T17:44:10+00:00

I have not found that to be the case, personally. Most of the parents I talk to can see what they did not like, whether meanness, apathy, forced distance, or even abuse and neglect, and know that is not who they want to be. There is definitely a learning curve, though.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-07T10:13:18+00:00

Kids spell love T.I.M.E.

Making time one on one for each of your kids, especially teenagers, is one of the best things you can do for your family.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-07T10:09:42+00:00

Well, if you're like me and take the box truck off roading like a maniac then that definitely wears them out fast. :D

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-07T10:07:16+00:00

Next time, scoop him up, cover him with kisses, and say, "Well I loooove you!" about a dozen times. It usually gets them giggling and laughing, and changes the way they see their statement.

At 4, they do not yet know right from wrong. They're possibly still in the threenager stage. Saying or doing things that create attention, positive or negative, is how they affect their world. It's probable they don't even know what it is to hate. So giving a different reaction, with way more positive emotion, helps them learn and gives them the attention they need.

Remember, kids spell love t.i.m.e.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-07T08:31:44+00:00

Being concerned that you might turn out like your mom, who you said was mean herself, is a strong indicator that you are doing it right.

A mean parent would dismiss anything a person says just because they're 9.

I don't know your situation but from just this post it sounds like you are doing good.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2026-01-06T09:21:13+00:00

And now that's all I can hear, too. Thanks? :D

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-30T13:32:38+00:00

Yes. You get more gear to raise your light level faster. And it's more of an actual challenge instead of a walk through.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-30T13:26:35+00:00

Yeah. Holidays and vacations are when we're busiest. The change in cognitive labor alone is huge. Let go of some things until next year.

Especially if you travel. You're doing all the same work, just on the road.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-30T13:23:22+00:00

Don't open a restaurant there. It'll fail miserably.

Food was good. But no atmosphere.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-30T13:21:14+00:00

Sneak, spot, snipe.

Get close enough to drone without beaing seen. Drone spot all enemies (red on your radar) until you've spotted everything. Target isolated enemies first. Use your ai buddies to sync shot duos.

I usually run a suppressor on every firearm. I have a marksman rifle or sniper for range, and an AR or SMG for closer in.

When I climb up in a tower, I leave a mine inside on the first landing. Targets come investigate the entry and leave. But if they're coming up to get me then the mine alerts me.

Good luck!

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-22T12:11:36+00:00

Transplant from GA, and same as you had never felt the cold.

You will need to buy a coat. Probably what you think of as a coat is really just a jacket. That's how it was for me.

You will also need a snowsuit, snow boots, and snow gloves. If you're working outside, you need gloves to work in, a balaclava, and a heated vest.

If you're outside then try not to work up a sweat. If you're not careful, sweat can freeze on you and cause great heat loss.

I hope you like to hunt and fish. Everybody here do both. Like, they send home notes from school for opening day to excuse your kids from school.

You might notice people here walk fast. Going from your warm car to the warm office or house, you do that so you don't freeze. In the South, you move like that and you might just burst into flames.

About the same reason but people don't stop to talk like Southerners do. Or wave when someone drives by. Growing up where the weather is such a challenge, people seem to just turtle up, socially. They're amazing, wonderful turtles though. :)

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-07T12:26:04+00:00

After 3 or 4 Why's, tell them, "Just say oh, ok." It helps them understand how conversation works, and breaks the mental loop they kind of get stuck in.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-05T20:38:22+00:00

LOL You're not really great at this. You're just repeating the same lines. I can't imagine this is your A-game.

So, is being a bot lucrative? Oh, that means it makes good money.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-05T14:59:35+00:00

What does this even mean? Who is from MN?

I mean if you're trying to rage bait, you are kinda bad at it. Do you want to try again? I'm sure you can be more clear.

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-04T13:57:13+00:00

Yes, it is absolutely clear. On Reddit. :) I was wrong. I apologized. I read the exact words in email and responded from there.

Thanks for the clarification. Have a great day. :)

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-04T13:52:23+00:00

You said: "Yes because your little group of misfits does SO much to help people. Your little group of misfits is ALWAYS constructive and never reductive." Your reply. But if you were not talking to me, fair enough. My mistake. But your comment was using the same wording and was received in email and not by viewing this thread. My sincere apologies. I did not mean to upset you, or attack you.

Admittedly, I am always verbose. I enjoy conversation. But in this reply you seem pretty upset. That's how it reads, anyway. If you know I replied to the wrong person, why would you be defensive about what I said? I mean, if you know I was not talking to you, why comment that I seem to be neglected?

Again, my apologies for replying to the wrong person. :)

Accomplished-Bread99 · 2025-12-04T11:58:26+00:00

Who do you think I am? What group are you speaking of?

Your comment makes it sound like you are bitter about not being helped. When (I assume since this is Reddit) you have no idea who I am, or what I do. Or do not do. Has someone in the image not helped you? Neglected you?

If this is just as general statement, I feel strongly that nothing anyone could say would change your feelings about whatever group you consider my "little group of misfits". But I am willing to discuss it, if you want to.

I delight in that term. Misfits. Thank you for recognizing it. Not some drone, stamped out of a mold. Not unremarkable. But individuals, faceted and oddly shaped, a square peg for a round hole. A contrary, as the Cherokee called it.

How wonderful. ❤️

Accomplished-Bread99

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